They met, met, and loved each other. No premeditated, no well-designed strike-up, no sparks of love at first sight, no tangled mutual temptation, or even romantic confession... It seems that birds are born to fly, fish are born to swim, and they are born to be so in harmony. The first match, just like the same game, just like movies of the same kind, simple self-introduction, and then everything happened so naturally.
Two people are together, play around, enjoy the two-person world, just like any lover. Ordinary love can no longer be ordinary, but so natural, so happy, so real.
I heard people say more than once that love is a luxury. How luxurious can it be? Luxury measured by money or luxury measured by time? We are all too busy working, working overtime, taking care of family and friends. The reality is always so cruel, work, buy a house...For Les, we also need to consider how to face her parents, whether to find gay to get married or come out...The fast-paced urban life and rising prices make our hearts become impetuous. Let us involuntarily begin to avoid the inner voices.
Look at the people in the movie again. This is not a documentary, but it also reflects real problems. A 30-year-old woman who is still an intern, layoffs under the economic crisis...the reality keeps them separate. They lived in two places, and there was even a jet lag; they wanted to meet on Christmas, but the air tickets were too expensive. They can choose to end this relationship, but they don't, because they don't want to separate. In a simple conversation, the two decided to continue to love each other even in different cities; they believed that one day they would live in the same city, although they did not think of a way.
It is very painful for people in love to live in two places. What is surprising is that they have no eachother, no rules for establishing mutual trust, and no routine report about who they meet and talk about every day. Two people are in different places and actively face various problems in life. Of course, there will be loneliness, and there will also be temptations. Fortunately, neither of them cheated. I guess it's probably because when you really love someone in your heart, when you really pretend to be someone in your heart, you won't think about other things anymore.
The director did not describe whether he was struggling with moral responsibility when the temptation came. As said before, the two have no promise. To talk a little off topic, the so-called promise, my understanding is that on the surface it is a commitment and responsibility to others, but in essence it is a constraint between both parties. When A promises B, there is usually a default premise. Assuming that A is a right person, this promise will become a kind of responsibility and pressure for A. Although A does not require B, B will have equal responsibilities or pressure. Regardless of whether A will formally raise it, and whether B will realize it, such responsibilities and pressures exist.
Back in the movie, the protagonist in the story didn't say I promise you or I trust you, but just loved each other, missed each other, and worked hard to find a job in the city where each other was located. The heroine does have a good backup by his side, but she doesn't fall in love with him. It has nothing to do with moral responsibility, just because I didn't fall in love with him. The heroine does not have too many inner dramas, nor does he explain to her boyfriend too much; nor does the actor think in a faraway city, wondering if his girlfriend is sincere. Imagine if there is anything, what is the use of noisy and noisy thinking? The hero loves her, and this love is not interpreted by suspicion.
Simple, authentic, natural-when I think back to the plot of the movie, these three words came up in my mind.
Finally, the actor proposes to break up because he does not want to see the heroine give up a rare job opportunity for him. It was a painful decision, and he shed tears. The heroine is also very painful, although she did not play how she shed tears, how depressed, and how malaise. She just continued her life. The two people no longer communicate with each other, as if two parallel cars have reached a bifurcation, and then each drove in different directions. Whether you are willing to accept it or not, this is the fact. For the heroine, she can't find a suitable job in New York. She had to accept a job in San Francisco. She understood and agreed with her boyfriend's proposal of breaking up. After all, the long-term separation between the two places had already tortured her. For the heroine, he couldn't find a job in San Francisco. He didn't want to see his loved one sacrifice a good job for himself, so he broke up.
Such breakups are very common in real life. For most people, this is the end. A good relationship becomes a memory. In the movie, the actor's breakup is a pause, not an end. During the separation period, he did not tell the heroine that he still loved her, nor did he tell her about the changes in his job. I guess he didn't say this because on the one hand he was not sure whether he could really find a suitable job, and on the other because he didn't want to work for love, but for his career. In the end, he found his real career, just very close to her. Then he came to her. Happy ending.
Inspired by some:
1. Just to be who you are
if you want long-term development, there is no need to conceal a disguise, even in front of the person you care about the most. Facing yourself and facing each other frankly; being true to yourself, the other person loves the true self. Even if the other party does not love, it can be worthy of being respected by the other party.
2. Just love what you love
. Express it, and then explain it with action. Will encounter real problems. In the face of the unknown future, we can do very little. Love is not project management. Develop a schedule, do risk assessment and response, carefully arrange and design... these effects are very limited. Instead of wasting energy on this, it is better to enjoy love and life and deal with the immediate problems.
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