The Love Belief of the Middle-aged Middle Class

Cameron 2021-10-13 13:05:37

Have you seen "American Beauty"? This is my favorite movie. The story is about a middle-aged man who is nearly forty years old. He has a nice-looking courtyard, a beautiful wife, and a fairly ordinary daughter. Although it needs a copy It's also a decent job... but he found that he had forgotten from which day... he didn't like the things he had at all, he fell in love with a girl who was as charming as a flower season. The courtyard is annoying, his wife is very snobbish, his daughter has a generation gap with him, and the boss of the company is a fool and tries to fire him. The climax of his day comes from masturbating every morning. Then he sat there and saw a young girl in bloom, a beautiful woman with a superficial and vain heart, but he was fascinated by her, and he changed himself for her.

I like the beginning of this film. One person likes another, and he is willing to change himself silently for her.

He becomes active, he exercises, he quarrels with his boss, he tells his true thoughts, he gets the compensation he deserves to do the job he wants to do... he almost forgets how much he likes that young girl , He even told his wife about their current conflicts, he hopes they really make love, he hopes they really reconcile.

I like this film. One person likes another, he becomes active and energetic.

He found that his wife had betrayed him, and he was amused and depressed. Isn’t this normal? They haven’t had sex for a long time. They have not shared happiness for a long time. They have not seen each other’s charms for a long time. He took off her jacket, and then he stopped. He continued to comfort her, let her dress without losing dignity, and then returned to the kitchen, watching the photo of their family, full of love.

I like the ending of this film. One person likes another, but he finally wants to go back and try to love again what he has, what he once thought was worthless.

Of course, the final outcome of this film is that this person was shot in the back of the head and died. It’s okay. We know that the director is also a human being. Maybe he can’t help but wonder, does it exist? In this world, the things that we once possessed that were not worthwhile, when we have not lost them, repented and understood the way to continue to love and cherish. This kind of ingenuity, do we humans really exist? Or is everything just a story, and what we are waiting for is just who will shoot us in the back of the head?

I'm scared. I'm afraid that I won't cherish what I already have, and I'm afraid that I don't want to let go of what I will eventually lose.

Like others, I have had many times. Become positive, there have been many times. But often halfway, I doubt and be at a loss, is this person really what I want? What do I like him; what do I want to do with him; after I have him, I will know how to unzip others and how to pull them back without losing the dignity of others; I will try my best to be as active when I am alone Optimistic, just because there was such a person in this world that I loved... I doubted it many times, I denied it many times, I walked halfway, I found that this is not what I want, I can’t forget that they let me My disappointment, I can't forget their betrayal, I can't forget their boringness and timidity in this world, but I have forgotten one thing, people are people, everyone has his weaknesses and flaws. Even in the name of love, I cannot turn a person into my own god and belief.

Love is not faith, I don't know how to ask for help. I am arrogant, I believe they will not be much better than me, and I am afraid that they will laugh at me: the woman who used to like me is so vulnerable. So I want to solve it by myself, but I don't understand why I can't make myself happier and more active through my own power? Why do I become disappointed in love more and more often, yes, disappointed in love, and gradually become disappointed in love: perfect people never appear, we have more or less problems? The more I think about it, the harder it is for me to get rid of it. Why am I unhappy? Why am I not short of money, men, friends, hobbies, health... But why, I still have fear and self-loathing in my heart? What kind of affluence did I have? Do you really need nothing to know the beauty you once had? But by then, will I still have time?

I watched the film over and over again, and I was dazed again and again: the lips I kissed, the hands I held, the tears I shed for me, the people I waved to let them go. Those who don’t want me come back to me, will I be happier than I am now? I never let go of those I don’t want. Will I be happier than I am now? I can't cry, I don't want to admit it, no. My problem has nothing to do with them. It is not that they are bad, they are naive, their betrayal and weakness, but that I have not learned how to love others when I am nearly 30 years old, how can I make myself happy through love, I How to set yourself free through love. I thought I was pursuing love, but more often, I was pursuing convenience, vanity, freshness, and sex. These may be mixed in love, but these should not be all of love.

How to often discover the cuteness of others; how to keep yourself active and brave to do something you want to do; how to manage a relationship, not to make yourself too tired or bored; how to avoid it Fear and seek what you don't want as a spare tire, and don't give up the good things you have because of stupidity.

I’m not sure, how long it will take me to fully learn this; I’m also not sure, some stupidity I can really get rid of not repeating it again... But I want to be smart, I want to be brave, I want to be strong, I want to enjoy life better. For the people I once liked and ignored, for the love I still believe in, for myself.

I wish I have a good time.

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American Beauty quotes

  • Ricky Fitts: She's not your friend. She's just someone you use to feel better about yourself.

  • Angela Hayes: Jane, he's a freak!

    Jane Burnham: Then so am I! And we'll always be freaks and we'll never be like other people and you'll never be a freak because you're just too... perfect!