Teacher Xu Zhiyuan asked Director Jiang Wen what he thought of everyone's feedback on his work. Director Jiang Wen said: "When any work faces appreciators, they are expressing themselves. Life is based on misreading."
Last week, I saw a tweet from Sanlian about an American TV series "Affair of Marriage". Because the angle is very special, I downloaded it and watched it immediately. In addition to the usual tricks of suspenseful murder in American TV series, the story itself is about two married male and female protagonists cheating, and the whole process is described from two perspectives of both parties; it is interesting that we all describe the encounter through our own eyes and perception. When it comes to people and things, others don't seem to think that way. In other words, people who cheated feel that the other party seduced them first. Just like this, as time accumulates, we look at people and things around us with more and more suspicion, because we always fill in the blanks with the colors we want, and we want the good to become bad and the bad to become more unbearable. of.
In the past two weeks, I heard that more than one friend who got married was divorced because of derailment. This kind of incident seems to be more and more frequent at our age. Just when I came across this drama, I can think about why this is. Well, the reason for a question sentence is that no answer was found; is it a lack of faith in marriage? But why didn't you think about this when choosing a marriage partner? My friend's cousin said, "I don't seem to be able to get married, because when I think about this, I can't help but want to escape when I think of being bound. I may never get married." Well, at least it won't be easy to derail after marriage, and it is also responsible to fully understand yourself. I always feel that belief always needs to go beyond the self. If a person who is extremely selfish and will not give, chooses a life with two people, is it doomed to choose the path of self-interest after the troubles are over? Personally, I don’t believe much in human nature, but I still believe in the power of belief. Of course, belief is really not just realized through religion.
In the play, the male and female protagonists have encountered difficulties in their lives. The male protagonist has four children and his dream of becoming a real writer and publishing a book; the female protagonist is unable to extricate herself from the grief of losing her child. The cross between her and her husband could not heal. In this way, the hero and heroine met in one summer and became an outlet for each other to escape from reality; do you know why Shakespeare's Romeo Juliet is a tragedy? Because pure love without reality support is doomed to tragedy. Suddenly I thought that the cheating cases I heard around were closely related to the cruelty of real life; we all could not find a sense of security in real life, some people admitted and faced it bravely, while some chose other ways to replace this sense of powerlessness, and These are our choices. This is adulthood, and all outcomes are your own choice.
Oh, there is also how to deal with the wounds in the heart from the perspective of the triplet. The sequelae of experiencing the other half's derailment are extreme self-confidence and panic in the relationship between the sexes. The old saying is that the sense of security is given by oneself, and spiritual wealth and independence are the foundation of survival.
This show seems to have had four seasons now. I just finished watching the first season and I don't want to continue. The reason is that the description of emotions is too real. It seems that this is the charm of American dramas. The real thing is like happening around me. Knowing too much is still not good in this life, isn't it?
"you have a lot to lose. Life is dangerous, you don't have to necessarily go to war for certain days of our lives to feel completely treacherous."
Sarah Treem, one of the creators.
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