Jane Ruyu
It is said that the most popular and most listened swear words are: Look at your thin ghost!
After all, thousands of people are doing their best for the word "thin" these days!
And when I watched the movie "Skinny", I realized that "being thin as a ghost" is not a good experience, and being thin to the extreme is a disease.
"Skinny" is an "anorexia" film starring Lily Collins (Ellen, later renamed Eli) and The Matrix actor Keanu Reeves, about anorexia patient Ellen receiving treatment at an eating disorder rehabilitation center s story.
The heroine of the film, Ellen, is a 20-year-old girl with severe anorexia. She was originally a gifted painter, but her life was messed up by anorexia.
Although Ellen has gone through four rehabilitation sessions, her anorexia has gotten worse. The ghostly face is lifeless, the emaciated body resembles a pickaxe, and it moves exactly like a walking skeleton, looking like it could die at any moment.
She is extremely sensitive to her weight and can even recite the calorie content of each food by heart. She refuses to eat. Eating is a sin for her. The same food is stirred on the plate and cannot be eaten. The food that is eaten in the mouth is only chewed a few times and then spit out, and the food that is swallowed depends on other way to spit it out.
She's fighting food, and she's fighting her body. She even secretly did push-ups to cause spinal congestion, and she always paid attention to the thickness of her arms.
Her family later sent her to a youth rehabilitation group led by a non-traditional physician. The rehabilitation center has several patients with anorexia of similar severity, they live together, eat together, and treat together.
But for Ellen, there was no obvious improvement. She was still suffering from anorexia. She seemed to want to change, but she couldn't control herself. She is reluctant to communicate with others, she wraps herself tightly in a shell, is passive and indifferent, and lives a lifeless life every day.
She hates food as much as she hates life. She rejects others, along with her refusal to accept other people's perceived goodwill.
For her, there is no passion and no color in life before her eyes. She walked forward but couldn't see the way forward, and she didn't even know what form she wanted to live in. And anorexia became a form of her chronic suicide, impartially.
As a mental illness, anorexia may only be an external manifestation in her, and the real cause should be the knot in her heart.
The knot in her heart is under her skinny body, and outside of her withered soul, sometimes she may not even be able to touch or find it. The doctor said: This is trauma, it must have something to do with weight or something.
Rehabilitation center teachers organized a family meeting for Ellen, hoping to help her do better treatment.
And this bad meeting makes Ellen even more desperate: I'm not alone anymore, I'm a problem.
The family members who came to attend were Ellen's stepmother and sister, her biological mother and her mother's gay partner. The only one missing was her father. They satirized each other, quarreled, accused each other at the meeting, and also revealed Ellen's upbringing.
Ellen's dad left home when she was very young and hadn't even seen her. Later, her father remarried, but he was always busy with work and never showed up. Ellen can only live with her stepmother and sister.
Dad will always be a missing image for Ellen. The whole movie is also cleverly designed, and Dad has always been a fictional character in other people's narratives. He had no interest in Ellen, he only cared about who he wanted her to be.
Ellen's mother suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth to her, and she was gay, leaving her and running away with other women when Ellen was young.
Only then did the root cause of Ellen's problem come to light. Family problems have caused her a huge psychological shadow and lack of spirit, which is also an important reason for her suffering from anorexia.
Ellen lives in a family that's been broken and reorganized without a father role, she doesn't feel safe, and she doesn't get the love she expects!
It wasn't her fault that she didn't get love, but she put pressure and responsibility on herself over and over again to hurt herself and sacrifice herself. She is not only tired of food, but also tired of life.
She also no longer believes in love, she said: People say they love you, but what they really love is who they are when they love you.
When problems arise, she can't choose, she can't solve them, and she can't bear them. She regards herself as a problem.
In fact, every child's problem is a family problem. Every troubled child has a troubled family.
We all know that there are medicines for physical illnesses, but inner pains cannot be resolved with simple treatment, perhaps only with love.
Ellen's treatment in the rehabilitation center did not improve significantly. She no longer believed the words and treatment methods of the rehabilitation center teacher, and packed her things and left angrily.
While waiting for the bus at the station, she fainted in the waiting hall for a while.
Perhaps it was the call of silent love that she found where her biological mother was.
Her mother felt extremely guilty seeing her daughter's condition, but didn't know how to help her. She has been in pain, she admits to the damage she has done to her child, and she tries to mend it.
She wants to do something to heal the pain of the past, heal the child and heal herself.
One of the teachers gave her the way to have it breastfeed Ellen, so she prepared a bottle with milk that she made by herself. Ellen didn't take it at first.
She sat down to talk to her daughter, about her own experiences and feelings, she said: If death is what you want, I will accept it now, I agree, but, I love you!
As she stood up to leave Ellen's room, Ellen called out softly for her mother.
The mother turned back to her daughter, she held her daughter in her arms, she picked up the bottle and put it in her daughter's mouth.
Seeing this made me cry! A twenty-year-old huddled in her mother's arms, sucking a bottle like a baby, sobbing softly; her mother rocked her softly and sang a lullaby.
The most primitive love, the love that needs no words to express, overflows the screen with mother's lullaby!
I cried, my mind was full of children growing up quietly in their mother's arms, and my eyes were full of mothers who were holding their babies and breastfeeding!
The deepest and greatest love in the world is maternal love, and the best healing in the world is also love!
She stumbled and stumbled until she realized now that the craving for maternal love was the crux of her problem. The warm embrace of her mother and the bottle of sweet milk made Ellen find herself and her new life.
When she opened her eyes and woke up, the sun covered the earth, she saw new vitality, beautiful nature, sweet love, she got out of the nightmare of anorexia.
The lack of love in the past made the child almost die, and now the compensation of love has brought hope to a lost child. Parents in the world, if you can give your children more love and companionship, please don’t miss any opportunity.
Ellen finally got an epiphany when she was dying, got the love she had been looking for, she finally broke through the psychological barrier, she found the courage and confidence to live again, it was love that made her regain newborn.
But how many people are still struggling in real life? How many children have not received love since childhood, and how many people are losing love bit by bit?
If you have the ability to love, open your arms and love as much as you like; if you still have the chance to receive love, go and fall into the arms of love!
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