The #1 short review has perfectly spoken my heart Just want to say a little more about parenting
When I was studying children and families (also my only HD subject = =), the teacher introduced the concept of good enough parenting. I only got 68 marks in the paper because the teacher who changed the paper thought that I still did not explain what good enough parenting is and How can this theory be safely applied to assess the safety and overall wellbeing of a child living in the family of origin
I personally think that human beings are imperfect and will always have disgusting weaknesses. Parenting is the same. For example, we have all learned the love of a father. But in fact, a lot of father's love is conditional love, which is based on the need for children. The kind of love that comes with fulfilling certain expectations of my dad and that's what's responsible for the fragile and strained relationship between me and my dad. To please him I can get his love
But from the point of view of good enough parenting, I think what I don't realize is that there is actually a big piece of good enough that I ignore outside of that small piece of imperfection. For example, my dad gave me enough financial support and in Some aspects are beyond the comprehension of the average Chinese parent, I can travel around, I can study abroad, I can study humanities, which is useless for finding a job and making a lot of money, and I can find a job without rushing after graduation, etc.
That's exactly what this movie gave me
We saw that Osamu taught Shota to steal and then tricked the little girl Yuri into it. When Shota met a kind old convenience store manager, he began to reflect on his own crimes against the good deeds of others, and then taught him his worldview to Osamu. Doubt but we may forget because of Osamu's own childhood or life trajectory maybe stealing is the only thing he can teach Shota maybe it's an important survival skill for him and what he hopes Shota can rely on in the toughest of times things live on
Another example is that they condone Aki to do the work of selling flesh. In our general perception, this kind of work is low and parents should help their children make the right life decisions instead of letting them "degenerate", but the "family" in the film No one dissuaded her on the contrary, Nobuyo even wanted Aki to pay her tribute with her "hard-earned" money. Does that sound materialistic and ruthless? But know that the tolerance and respect they give Aki (they only see it as a profession is like Nobuyo working at the ironing house Osamu at a construction site) is something this society can't give to imaginary people in society or her middle-class father Will they say anything nice to Aki when they learn that Aki is dancing under the piercing eyes of men? Will she be accepted and understood by them?
Grandma has been going to Aki's original family to "blackmail". At the end of the film, this is understood by Aki as "It turns out that she is only for money, not for me", but why can't it be for both Aki and survival? Do love and money really have to be black and white? Do the good and evil of human nature also have to draw a line to clearly separate each other?
At first glance, this family is very degenerate. Everyone is tied together and sinking infinitely, but in this sinking, a lot of love is really caring, it's true, it's true that helping each other is true, and these things are actually important in good enough parenting Part of it's just that no one cares when everyone is focused on perfectly normal Parenting. It's like the cops bent on sending Shota to foster care or the media trying to get Juri back to "parents" as soon as possible. Everything that is normal is good and everything that is unconventional is wrong not good enough
This black and white is so sad
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