Text / Luo Xiaoke
There was a popular saying: "Who came from the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, but was confined to the kitchen and love? Who came from the black and white lattice, but was confined to the chicken feathers in one place?"
It is a cry from the innermost heart of a female elite in the workplace, and the most depressing sad song from Desperate Housewives. It seems illogical, but it is not contradictory at all.
Jia Baoyu in "A Dream of Red Mansions" put it eloquently: "A woman is a crystal clear pearl before she gets married, but when she gets married, she becomes a fish's eye, and her face becomes disgusting. "
This gorgeous pearl turned into lifeless fish eyes, not just because of the tricks of the years, but because of all kinds of helplessness in marriage.
Perhaps, many women have always been gentle and kind women before entering the siege, but they gradually lost their luster in the tempering and infiltration of later life, and slowly transformed into a living female man.
Nairett of Wisteria County is such a walking woman. In the past, she was a business elite who walked with the wind and the wind; now, she is a desperate housewife with a haggard face.
Everything is because he pleases everyone in the fading firewood, rice, oil and salt, but he does not please himself.
The strongest female elite, galloping in the workplace
There is such a woman in the world, she has exquisite makeup and tasteful dress, her shoulders are windy when she walks, the data disappears when she is chatting and laughing, and she can easily handle all the plans when the clouds rise and fall.
It's not necessarily Chanel's shirt, or Dior's magic body, but it makes people feel that the scenery in the grid is infinite and charming.
At this moment, there may only be one word in your mind: female elite in the workplace.
Walking in an office building in the CBD five years ago, Nailette, who was walking in high heels, was just such a woman: an exquisite working woman with a golden collar, a planner of a big advertising company, and a queen who exuded aura.
The boss was very impressed with her work ability, her husband Tom fell in love with her at first sight, and her colleagues were even more envious of her.
She is as shrewd as she is, as capable as her, and as independent as her, but she chose to give up when her career was booming, and silently became the retired president of the kitchen.
The most desperate housewife, living like a female man
Mu Xin once said: "The years have not spared you and me, so why have you and I ever spared the years."
Perhaps, time is the most ruthless in the end. While stealing collagen silently, it also secretly throws a shining pearl to the ground.
Today, Nelette has returned to the family wholeheartedly, doing a job that is lonelier than fireworks, and will also leave fragile tears in the middle of the night, and occasionally look up at the stars in the gutter.
But does such a strong and fragile character really get the approval and fulfillment of fate?
When she cleans up the mess for her husband Tom again and again, does she think that the sacrifice of her career is worth it?
When she is worried about the farce staged by five bear children every day, does she miss the little beauty of the workplace?
When she faced the face that was increasingly devastated by time, did she ever feel a trace of uneasiness and loss?
Perhaps, Nailette, who lives like a woman, is really regrettable and distressing. How has her tired heart ever found a place to rest, and how has her lonely and heavy soul ever found an outlet?
Women in marriage must learn to please and love themselves
Writer Jiang Xun once said in "Six Lectures on Solitude": "When you are driven by loneliness to find a way to stay away from loneliness, you will be in a very terrible state; because those who cannot get along with themselves are also difficult to get along with others. , you must learn to play with yourself."
Yes, the world is so complicated, but one day we will understand: loneliness is a life practice, even marriage, can not change this.
Ten years ago, I felt that Neilette was real and distressing;
Ten years later, the most distressed and emotional role is still her.
Perhaps, the children and her husband have become everything in her life, so that for a long time she often forgets to love herself, and is often surrounded by a sudden sense of loneliness.
Thousands of housewives like Nelite in marriage, gradually become greasy under the infiltration of firewood, rice, oil and salt, reduced to fertility tools under the abduction of the world, annihilated in a corner of the kitchen, and turned into a fog of despair. Tough girl.
The only thing that can come to a self-redemption is to learn to truly please yourself.
Or release poetry and the distance on a bookmark, or let your mind wander in the April sky when the world is full of fragrant flowers, or tap the next line of dense handwriting in the silent midnight, or taste a pot in the afternoon when the sun is just right Oolong tea fragrance.
Maybe in this bustling urban forest, the lively atmosphere is an illusion after all. In fact, each of us is just moving forward alone in different time zones.
But even so, you still have to take a moment to love yourself. Even if it is limited by the kitchen and love, even if it is limited by the chicken feathers of life, even if it is limited by the last breath, still have to work hard to live a delicate appearance.
The rest of my life is not long, and I have no regrets.
Please love yourself well.
Author: Luo Xiaoke, a commoner mother who married to Taiwan, writes everything about Taiwan, and is obsessed with film reviews of European and American dramas. Don't forget the original intention, Fang De is always.
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