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When you were surfing on the street, did you pay attention to the small advertisements on the telephone poles on the street?
Missing people notices, finding things, rental information, medical advertisements... There are all kinds of things.
I have observed statistics, in addition to the treatment of psoriasis advertisements, the most should be "heavy money to seek children".
Advertisements that pay a lot of money to seek children, on the one hand, take advantage of people's greed for money, and on the other hand, reflect the traditional idea of procreation and reproduction.
In fact, except for singleness and non-marriage and DINK families, the concept of fertility in Western families is similar to ours.
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Private Life (2018)
"Private Life" describes a middle-aged couple who have been married for many years and have always longed to have a child of their own.
On the long road of seeking children, they fell deeper and deeper, endured various torments such as infertility and adoption.
When they are about to despair, a young niece comes into their lives, bringing hope to a couple desperate for a child.
However, in the difficult process of seeking a child, the couple was tortured and exhausted, and cracks gradually appeared in the marriage.
The film was written and directed by American independent film director Tamara Jenkins .
She wrote her experience of surrogacy and childbirth into the film, making the film semi-autobiographical.
She wrote and directed "The Savages", which was nominated for Best Original Screenplay and Best Actress at the Oscars.
It has been 11 years since the last work. Her comeback has fans of independent films cheering and cheering.
93% fresh on Rotten Tomatoes. Critics have praised this latest work.
Richard (played by Paul Giamatti), a middle-aged uncle with a fat body and a Mediterranean head.
Don't look at greasy, beer belly, people are filled with talent.
He was a small accomplished playwright, with his own theater and small company, and a small boss.
His wife, Rachel (played by Katherine Hahn), and two dogs live with him in New York City.
When they were young, they were busy with their careers, and when the mid-life crisis came, they realized that it was a pity not to have children.
In order to race against time and desperately to have children, they have tried various methods.
In order to improve the fertility success rate, they tried N times of artificial insemination , but none of them were successful.
Later, they tried in vitro fertilization embryo transfer.
In order to make in vitro fertilization smooth, Rachel made full preparations in the early stage, eating a lot of hormones to stimulate eggs every day.
However, during the treatment, they were told that Richard's tube was blocked and there were no tadpoles in the semen.
What should I do if the pipe is blocked, then unblock it!
However, Richard is worried that the operation will fail and that the ball will be broken, because this is the only one left for him.
Under the doctor's guarantee, in order to obtain the few tadpoles in the eggs, Richard went ahead and performed the operation.
After a while, the tube had to be cleared, and the eggs had to be picked for a while.
Sadly, in vitro fertilization failed because Rachel's egg cells did not develop well.
Various surgeries and high fees make them feel stressed. However, that didn't stop them from wanting a child.
In the end, doctors advised them to opt for surrogate egg donation , which can improve the chances of a successful pregnancy.
By using other women's eggs, they are fertilized with Richard's tadpoles, and then this fertilized egg is loaded into Rachel's belly, allowing Rachel to experience the feeling of being a mother.
Initially, Rachel was against this method of surrogacy.
She can't accept her husband's children with other women. What she wants is for husband and wife to create babies together.
With Richard's encouragement, the two arguing still considered the ultimate goal of pregnancy and childbirth, and accepted the doctor's advice.
So, where to find this egg?
The couple began to look for some legal surrogate girls from the website recommended by the doctor, and finally felt that it was not suitable.
Until a young woman appeared, rekindling their hopes of pregnancy and childbirth.
Sadie , who is still young , has just finished college and failed the exam.
She has a free-spirited personality and especially wants to be a freelance writer.
She has another identity: Richard's step-niece.
With her dream of being a writer, she has always admired and envied the family life of Richard and Rachel, and she is simply a fan of the Richards.
Instead of looking for a strange woman, it is better to look for someone who is familiar with you.
The couple began to tell Sadie about the idea of surrogacy, and they were going to borrow an egg from her.
To the surprise of the couple, Sadie readily agreed to them.
She believes that egg donation will give Richard and Rachel a happy family, which is the most precious gift.
Egg donation is a very controversial matter in any country, let alone the donor or the niece.
Sadie's mother strongly disagrees with this approach, and she strongly opposes her daughter making such a decision.
Although there are ethical and moral issues in egg donation, Sadie is an independent thinking adult woman, and the choices she makes can no longer be interfered with by anyone.
In the end, her parents respected her ideas and choices.
After much deliberation, Sadie, Richard and Rachel decided to complete the egg donation procedure.
However, it backfired, and this time the surrogate egg donation was not very smooth.
After each failure of therapy, hope is always shattered by reality, the life of this middle-class couple begins to face more crises.
Faced with the impossibility of getting pregnant and giving birth, some people may say, why not adopt a baby?
In fact, as outsiders, we don't know how complicated adoption is.
If you've ever tried to adopt a child, you know that the adoption process and issues can become very complex, morally, emotionally, financially, and socially.
In order to realize their dream of being a parent, the couple tried adoption.
They once got in touch with a teenage girl who was pregnant out of wedlock, and they were finally put on pigeons and the adoption failed.
An eggy man and an infertile elderly woman are working tirelessly to realize the dream of being a parent.
In the end, the couple returned to the road of adoption and continued to wait for the gift of God...
The title of the movie is "Private Life". However, the so-called "private life" has become less private, which highlights an embarrassment, a kind of absurdity.
You are doing a very personal act in order to conceive a child.
But when there is a problem with having a baby, or not having a baby, everything that is private becomes part of the conversation. For example, some private things like infertility, adoption, etc. are brought up for discussion.
In the crowded small waiting room, many people are sitting quietly, silent.
The director used to pull the camera many times, so that you can experience the feeling of this kind of private issue being publicized and scrutinized.
In the movie, the shots and transitions arranged by the director are particularly lively and interesting, which blends into her delicate observation of life.
One second she was scolding her mother, and the next second she was smiling politely.
I thought Rachel was crying because she couldn't conceive a child, but when the camera turned, it turned out that she was crying because she was smoked by onions.
Little porn that can't be turned off, out-of-control remote control, just like Richard's out-of-control life.
The interpretation of any film depends on the angle of your analysis, and so does Private Life.
First of all, after reviewing this movie carefully, you will find that this is not a brainless comedy about pregnancy and childbirth.
In fact, it uses the story of middle-aged couples "seeking to conceive and have children" to interpret married life and mid-life crisis, allowing us to see the cracks and repairs of marriage.
Although there is no problem of being forced to have children, "seeking pregnancy and having children" is also a sensitive topic for Western families. Lack of communication, consuming each other's patience, and potential problems in marriage are all stimulated by "seeking pregnancy and having children".
The process of the couple waiting for the child can also be seen as "waiting for Godot". Their expectation for the child is an endless and hopeless waiting, which makes people feel a sense of absurdity and existential tragedy.
Swollen suddenly remembered a saying that parents often say: When you are young, hurry up to have a child, or when you are old, you will not be able to give birth.
Second, as a female director, the director points out the inequalities that contemporary women encounter in career and family.
When Sadie confronted her mother, she directly pointed out that women must sacrifice a lot to choose marriage and have children, and sacrifices must be made between career and marriage.
Take the director herself, she has not made a movie for 11 years.
Such a long creative blank period reflects the low status of women in the American film industry and the lack of attention to female filmmakers.
Tamara Jenkins also once said: I used to think that I was the only one who found investment difficulties when making films. Later, when I looked around and saw Patty Jenkins (Wonder Woman, Wonder Woman), Debra Granick (Winter's Bone, Leave No Trace), I knew I'm not alone in this predicament.
Tamara Jenkins on set with the lead actor.
"Private Life" is a sketch of life.
It is full of the American middle-class life sentiment, warm and comfortable, humorous and humorous, making people laugh with tears, and joy with bitterness.
Just like the waiting and longing of Richard and Rachel at the end, there is still hope and yearning for life in the face of failure.
All this flavor combination is life, C'est La Vie!
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