More and more I feel that it is too difficult for people to defend a sincere love. Because it seems that many things in this world are against love. Dowry, house, car, age, parents...even, sometimes a toilet can put a relationship in crisis!
In 2012, there was a marital crisis caused by toilets in India. A bride named Anita Nally ran away from her husband's house on the fourth day after marriage. The reason was that her husband's house did not have a separate toilet, and she needed to communicate with women in the village every day. She organized a group to go to the toilet in the wild. After she ran away from home, she said that if there was no independent toilet, she would not go home. After hearing the news, a charity built a toilet for her, and after the toilet was built and put into use, she returned home.
This news was later made into a film by Indian film artists who love to discuss social issues - "Toilet: A Love Story".
This movie and Wrestling! "Dad", "Mysterious Superstar", and "Starting Line" are as sharp and sharp, and they are intended to run for women's rights. However, this time the core issue is the toilet.
Before going to the movies, I was also very surprised, what is there to discuss in the toilet, why is it worth making a movie? After reading it, I found that this is really a big problem for women in India.
In the film, the heroine Gaya is a high-caste person, that is, the upper class in India. She is highly educated and is a local teacher. She fell in love with a rural boy who ran a bicycle shop and eventually got married. According to popular saying, she broke the shackles of class and married love. But on the night of the wedding, she discovered that her husband's house didn't have a toilet!
Did you build a toilet because you didn't have the money?
No, it's because of religious beliefs, or the so-called traditional culture!
In India, many Hindus love cleanliness. They think that going to the toilet in the house is unclean and even blasphemous, so many places do not build toilets at home. Unfortunately, the main character Koshav's father is a stubborn Hindu.
So how do they solve the problem of convenience?
Go outside and fix it! Men are simple, they can easily solve it in their own yard. And the women are in trouble. Even if they want convenience during the day, they have to hold it back until at night, under the organization of the village women's toilet committee, they go to a small forest in the wild for convenience!
They don't use toilets at home, but use the wild ones as public toilets!
This kind of custom, as a non-religious person, is unbearable. Gaya is different from her husband. She has been going to the toilet at home since she was a child, so in the face of such a situation, she immediately froze, and immediately said to her husband: "If I knew, I would not marry you."
Koshav doesn't fully understand his wife. He is habitually thinking that other women in the village have been going to the toilet like this for decades. Are you burnt out by the knowledge you have learned?
But out of love for his wife, he still thinks of many ways to solve the toilet problem for his wife, such as taking her back to the sick grandma's house, going to the grandma's house to go to the toilet under the pretense of visiting the patient, and taking his wife to the toilet every day on a motorcycle. Toilets on nearby trains...
However, the wife finally chose to go back to her parents' home because of the various situations she encountered in going to the toilet, and the two even made trouble to the point of getting a divorce. Only then did Koshav gradually realize that the problem of going to the toilet, in his opinion, is a small problem, but in his wife's opinion, it is a big problem.
In order to save his wife, Koshav made a lot of efforts, and even risked going to the crew to steal other people's mobile toilets, but he was caught and caught.
The wife went to the police station to bail him, and complained: "You are always thinking about expedients, but you never think about solving the problem completely."
Koshav finally came to a realization and decided to solve the problem from the root. He tried to persuade the villagers to build public toilets, but was sprayed with blood.
Surprisingly, almost the entire village felt that it was normal to go to the toilet in the wild, and even the troubled women opposed the establishment of public toilets. Even because of going to the toilet in the wild, a 17-year-old girl was raped and then chose to commit suicide.
What is scary is not suffering, but people living in suffering, brainwashed by cultural traditions, that suffering is not suffering. It is often not others, but yourself, that make yourself deeply miserable.
Just like the toilet problem in India, in fact, the government has been encouraging the construction of toilets, and even allocated a special fund to build public toilets, but the people are opposed to the establishment of toilets, and they are more willing to go to the wild, so the government cannot spend it even if it has money. .
He could never wake those pretending to be asleep, so Koshav sold his beloved motorcycle and built a toilet in his own yard!
But I didn't expect that I just fixed the toilet on the first day, and sent a photo to my wife. Looking for someone to level it up.
In desperation, Koshav finally thought of a last resort solution, that is, to divorce his wife.
I have seen divorced because of personality incompatibility, and divorced because of cheating, but who has ever seen divorced because there is no toilet at home?
In fact, this is Koshav's painstaking efforts. He loves Gaya very much, and since his marriage, he has been working hard to give her what she wants - a toilet. In order to satisfy his wife's request, he even did not hesitate to be a thief, to turn against his father, or to be the enemy of the whole village, but in the end it was of no avail. Since you can't give her what she wants, let her go and let her choose what she wants (there should be Li Shengjie's "Hands Off" BGM here).
Koshav is actually a very filial person. Even at the age of 37, he still obeys his father's orders, but in the face of love, he chose to challenge his father's authority, the whole village, and his religious beliefs. He is the kind of For love, a person who can be enemies with the whole world. Therefore, the love line in the movie is very touching.
Although the problem of the toilet that this movie points to, it is not always the problem of the toilet, as well as the problem of the original family, and the problem of three views. In love, these are all things that need to be considered. A very important factor in determining whether a relationship can last for a long time is whether you can give your partner what you want. In India, what determines whether a marriage is happy or not may be whether there is a toilet at home. In China, it may be a house that determines whether a marriage is happy or not.
It sounds like there may be a huge disparity between the two, but in fact, whether it is to give a toilet or a house, it is almost as difficult as the sky. But if you want to defend the sincere love that you have finally met, no matter how difficult it is, it is worth working hard for!
There are no expedients in love. If you want to love well, you must do your best!
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