The American TV series introduced today is "POSE". At the beginning of each episode, there is a sentence "Live, Work, Pose."
Every character in the play is like this sentence, " Live, live better, and live a posture. "
1
The show is set in the 1980s, and the heroine Blanca Blanca is a transgender (Transgender). Transgender usually refers to a person who is psychologically unable to identify with his natural gender. You should belong to another gender.
Blanca knew from an early age that she was not a boy. She has kept this a secret for herself, hiding her sexuality from her parents. When the parents were asleep, she would dress up to the dance and sneak home before they woke up.
It wasn't until Thanksgiving one year that her mother thought that Blanca had a girlfriend, so the girl stayed at home for the night. Her mother said with relief, "I'm glad you're not a shameful gay."
Hearing her mother's disdain for homosexuality, Blanca finally gathered up the courage and told her mother, "I am a woman. I am your daughter, not your son." The mother couldn't accept it, and Blanca was kicked out of the house.
2
Several years have passed. Blanca is finally herself, a woman. She also adopted her own child.
One day, a former old friend called to inform her that her mother had passed away.
Blanca rushed to the house immediately, and her sister opened the door but did not let her in.
Blanca asked her sister why she didn't tell her mother's death, when she heard about it from someone else.
The sister accused Blanca of not staying by her mother's side when she was sick.
Blanca is sorry for not being able to accompany her mother, but it was not her original intention to be kicked out of the house.
At this time, my sister began to vent her inner confusion: "I don't know who you are? You were my younger brother. I have a daughter now, how should I tell my daughter that her uncle is gay, every day? Running around in women's clothes."
Blanca replied calmly, "Tell her the truth, you tell her I'm a woman."
My sister couldn't accept this answer, "Then how should I explain to my family, you are not dead."
Blanca asked her in surprise, "Did you tell them I'm dead?"
The sister replied, "I didn't say it, my mother said it."
Blanca did not expect that her mother and all her family denied her existence.
3
In the evening, Blanca had dinner with her best friend, Pray, and remembered cooking with her mother when she was a child. It was their exclusive time. She misses her mother, and she loves her.
However, when Blanca didn't want to be her mother's son and just wanted to be her daughter, her mother's abandonment of her also broke her heart.
At this time, Prey said something. "In fact, parents are also human, and they make mistakes."
When Prey's father died, he went through the same thing as Blanca, blaming himself for arguing with his father and regretting the lost time.
When Blanca asked Prey if he had forgiven his father. Prey smiled, "It depends on the mood."
The two laughed helplessly.
Blanca is hesitant to attend her mother's funeral. After all, her mother refused to accept her before her death. Moreover, all her relatives will attend, she is afraid of unforeseen incidents.
Prey enlightened her, "You are a mother now, and you have adopted your own children. You should set an example for them and teach them how to face death. As a family, we will support you by your side. You don't have to be afraid. Participating in my mother's funeral is also a kind of reconciliation, and maybe the wound will heal faster."
4
Blanca attended her mother's funeral as scheduled. She wanted her mother to be proud of herself, and she forgave her.
At the funeral, although everyone was whispering, Blanca's aunt still expressed her friendliness and invited Blanca to go home and sit for a while.
Blanca returned to her home, filled with emotion. She remembered the time she used to cook with her mother and wanted to take her mother's recipe. But the brother did not agree with Blanca to take anything from the house, even if it was just a notebook, and humiliated Blanca.
In fact, in Blanca's life, stigma and discrimination against transgender people are everywhere, as her friends said, they belong to the bottom of the society. Usually, these "marginal people" stay in their own confinement circles to avoid being malicious from the world, but it is their family members who hurt them the most.
Blanca left home in grief and anger and returned to her current home.
She is with her adopted LGBT children.
She strives to be a qualified mother. Although her family is marginal, they will not hurt, ridicule or humiliate each other. They are warm and loving, and try to live their own way and their own attitude.
This is the real home.
5
At the end of the story, Blanca and his adopted son Damon cook together, but they can't make it as expected.
At this time, the doorbell rang.
Blanca's sister sent Blanca the recipe and told Blanca that she had lied, and that her mother always talked about Blanca until the end of her life.
Mom has always regretted not treating Blanca well. Although she does not agree with Blanca's choice, her mother loves her children.
Blanca finally let go.
She remembered saying to her mother as a child, "I love you, will you love me forever?"
Mom replied, "I will always love you."
6
I think Blanca's question at that time must be mixed with a lot of complicated emotions. What she might want to ask is "Mom, will you love me forever? If I wasn't your son, I chose to be a girl, you Will you always love me?"
We all want to hear Mom say, "Yes. I love you and I will always love you. Even if you become a girl and you choose another path, I will always love you."
The truth is, the mother kicked her child out of the house when Blanca chose another path.
Even now, my sister tells Blanca that my mother regrets doing it, and that my mother loves you.
I still think, love, does it need a reason?
Don't we love a child when he is what we expect him to be?
If my child (little wolf) chose another path like Blanca, would I still love him?
Of course I can now confidently say, "Little wolf, if you're like Blanca, I still love you."
It's 2018, and I don't think there's a difference between LGBT and heterosexuality, they're all the same.
But if it were in the 1980s, would I have the guts to say these words?
Will I be the same as Blanca's mother, out of fear and ignorance, will only rudely kick my child out of the house!
Or, what I have encountered is a new situation that I don't know yet, can I deal with it calmly, and will I support him 100%?
The title I wanted to title the article earlier was, "If your child isn't perfect, do you still love him?"
After writing the article, I felt that I was too superficial.
In more cases, it is actually because the parents are not perfect, and the love of the parents is mixed with more utilitarianism.
Parents think that their children are about to get married, to have children, and to have a stable job...
In fact, it is up to the child to decide what he wants.
I hope I will never hurt my child out of ignorance, out of fear, out of face.
As long as his choice is true to himself and doesn't hurt others, I support it 100%.
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