God, grant me peace,
To accept what I cannot change.
Give me the courage to change what I can,
Grant me the wisdom to discern the difference between the two.
- "Niebuhr's Prayer"
With Melrose over, and with all the people around David dying from his childhood pain, he finally has a chance at peace. There is a key line, "After all, ideas are used to change", and then everything seems to be relieved, and he finally walks into the radiant passage, towards a new life.
David went through drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and interpersonal struggles for thirty years. In the end, I realized that as long as I put it down gently, it is enough. But pain is not fake, and neither is time. He needs someone who can finally forgive him after going through it all.
The logic of this kind of forgiveness is as follows: David suffered an unspeakable trauma in his childhood. In order to fight this trauma, he used all methods, at first self-destruction, and then pretending to be a normal person. destroy. I got a little better during the period because I could open my heart to my friends and tell the truth, but I won sympathy. In the end, in order to heal this kind of pain, it needs a person who truly loves David. David first dared to tell her the truth. This person dared to accept the unspeakable trauma he had suffered, and dared to say that after he did so many wrong things, Still choose to love him. You know, the trauma wasn't his fault, but it was a shame. It's his fault for hurting others because of trauma. The two errors are repeatedly entangled. He struggled alone, not knowing if there was some way to be redeemed. The ultimate solution is actually very simple, he always starts from his own subjective: I was wrong, I was wrong, but there is a reason, I am more and more like my father, I am afraid, in order not to let me become My father, he had to drink heavily, commit suicide slowly, and he would not let this family drug pass on when he died. What he didn't know was that the criteria for evaluating him as a human being were not only his own subjectivity, but also the subjectivity of others. For example, his son, his son watched his attempt to cheat in the middle of the night, listened to his quarrel with his mother, and knew what he was like when he was drunk. In order to avoid hurting his family, he would rather separate. But his son still chooses, you can still change your mind and go home for dinner at night instead of being alone in the apartment.
The last image he imagined was a boy who bravely said no when his father was about to commit violence. This struggle is something the Melrose family has never had before. His father is just a person, everyone will do evil things, if no one stops him, he will do more and more outrageous evil, and eventually he will become a beast who does all kinds of evil and only tries to satisfy his selfishness. If Nicholas, Brigitte, Mom... Mom's sister, even if someone stood up to stop him, things wouldn't end up like this. But it is not right to rely only on others, and he himself did not express any objection when he was hurt, and would only blindly escape for more than 30 years. Where else could he escape? In the end, it is nothing more than choosing to change and saying no to yourself.
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