How do we love?

Boris 2022-03-25 09:01:11

The film mainly tells the story of a retired old man who lives a lonely life after losing his wife. In order to welcome the children home for dinner, I diligently cleaned and decorated the garden and went shopping at the supermarket. In order to allow the children to sit at the dining table and enjoy the time together, even the wine purchases are carefully selected and consulted. However, everything seems to be ready. The children, however, have their own business, and they can't come back one by one. Disappointed, he thought that since the children couldn't come, I could go see them. So he ignored the doctor's dissuasion and set off with a bad heart in his suitcase. He first looked for his younger son but couldn't find it. Then he went to the eldest daughter. The eldest daughter seemed to be living a carefree life, but she kept saying she was in a bad mood, and her face was covered with dark clouds. Her father's arrival took her by surprise. Then, he went to the eldest son again, and he was happy that the son was really a conductor. But when he came, the son was just rehearsing and playing drums at the dance. Without saying a few words, he had a dispute with his son because of his smoking. He had to rush to the youngest daughter overnight. The youngest daughter lives in a luxury apartment. He thought her daughter was a shining star on the stage, but was interrupted by the voice of the answering machine in the room. When he came, he took the train and the car all the way to various children in different cities. At this moment, he felt really tired, and the children seemed to be very busy and were covering up something. So he chose the plane he had never been on and said he wanted to go back. He was eager to end the journey. He wanted to go home quickly. He knew that his sons and daughters were hiding something from him and that they were going through all kinds of hardships. But he just couldn't figure out why. He wished the children could speak to him too. He was always worried about them, but the more worried they were, the more they didn't tell him what happened. The medicine was gone, and he fell ill on the plane. In the hospital the children finally got together without seeing David. He was most worried about David. Looking at the kids, he said I don't believe you now because I just want to know the facts. The kids had to tell him he had a heart attack. Then tell him the news of David's death. The aging father, he was reluctant to accept and reluctant to admit it for a while, but after a while, the tears could not stop falling, with regret, guilt, and self-blame. In his illness, he kept thinking about the little things that happened. He slowly understood the feelings of his children and guessed what the children didn't want him to know. Discharged from the hospital, the sun is shining in the garden. He went to the cemetery and told his wife that he regretted not listening to her, ignoring the children and asking too much of them. Christmas is here, and the kids all say they want to come back for dinner. On this day, the family finally had Christmas dinner together. The staple food of dinner is the most

The whole movie revolves around the theme of love, the plot is delicate and real, and the warmth it gives is like a family sitting together by the stove at the end of the film. You talk and laugh and eat together. Detailed analysis 1: The father has always loved the children deeply and wants them all to be happy. Example 1: He is going to visit the children and he has been busy with work because his wife has been taking care of them. In fact, he always wanted to spend more time with the children. Example 2: Before he left, he gave each child an envelope with a photo of them together. He enjoyed his time with the children. Example 3: He brought his camera and wanted to take a few more pictures of the children, so he could look at them when he thought of them. Example 4: When he is leaving, he always does not forget to ask: Are you happy? With a serious expression. Detailed analysis 2: The children actually love their father deeply, but they just don’t know how to express it. Example 1: The eldest daughter has always been too worried about her father knowing about David, and tried her best to hide it. Example 2: The eldest son specially introduced his father to the conductor of the band to let his father know that he has a good relationship with the conductor. He was doing fine. Example 3: The younger daughter rented a luxury car to pick him up, and wanted to take him to a restaurant in the sky to show that she was living a good life. I don't want him to worry. Detailed analysis three: love is to accept, whether you know it or not, accept each other as they are. The important thing is that you are happy. Example 1: Children are reluctant to tell their father that something bad has happened to them, just because the fear of being disappointed by the father makes him more worried. Example 2: Children are always willing to tell their mother everything, because mother always listens and father likes to give advice. Example 3: Dad finally knows that to be a good father, the most important thing is not to ask the children to be who they are, but to be happy that the children choose to be who they are and do what they choose. Detailed analysis 4: When a person looks back on his life, no matter how great he has been, at best, it cannot equal the forever great father in a child's heart. Example: On the train, Dad kept asking the woman across from him to guess what he was doing. The woman guessed many times and couldn't guess, and she was impatient to guess. When he finally said that he was covered with wires, so that communication entered thousands of households to connect you and me. The woman was just silent. Contrast ratio: Dad bought his son's posthumous work in the gallery's warehouse. The staff said that David's painting has its unique value. The picture is of a telephone pole. The staff also said: "David said if it wasn't for my dad, I might never have been a painter. This is where the father-son relationship is evident. Detailed analysis five: Why is the father always strict with the children? The reason is that at that time, Dad had no conditions to choose. He could only work for survival and marry for life. He never thought about what he wanted to be. After having kids, he just wanted to be a good father. Now that children have conditions to choose from, he should be strict and help them choose a better path. He didn't want his regrets to happen to his children. But the reality is that children can't be the children they love when their father expects them to be. If there are regrets in life, that's the life they choose. The mutual understanding between father and child is the release of love and a new beginning of another journey of love. Let us experience love deeply: love does not say anything, but does not say anything. Love is what it hears, not what it sees. Love is not asking for better, but accepting actual failure. About How to Love: Don't Give Pressure in the Name of Love The first rule of thumb for love communication is to stop and listen carefully What is love? Love is when we all make each other happy.

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Everybody's Fine quotes

  • Frank Goode: So what am I suppose to do?

    Young David: Act as if nothing's wrong. That's what Mom did. It's best for all of us.

  • Frank Goode: [at wife's grave] ... if I could do it all over again, I would ask less of the kids. As long as they were happy, that would be fine with me.

    [sighs]

    Frank Goode: I know I have to stop thinking of them as if they're still children. I can't tell them what to do anymore. They have to find their own way. And... sometimes... you talked to me about things that I should have listened to you more carefully. You presented me with the details of our children's lives, and I, I, I, ignored them. And for that,

    [pause]

    Frank Goode: [shakes head]