Crossing that chasm is when your heart and my heart are close, and I think that's impossible...

Gerhard 2022-03-26 09:01:09

A mother born in 1924, a child born in 1964, the distance of 40 years from each other can be inserted into another life. As the teenager grows up and enters adolescence, as a mother (single mother), she is both worried about her own life and anxious about the negative aspects of the teenager's growth. In the end, she has to ask for help from two girls, Abbie and Julie, who are slightly older than the teenager. But there is no doubt that the generation gap of these 40 years cannot be filled. No one understands the joys and sorrows experienced by the other party in that era. The conflict escalates when Abbie repeats "menstruation" aloud during the meal and Julie talks about his sexual experiences. In fact, these are all necessary processes in youth, and there is no need to deliberately avoid and prohibit them, but they just need some correct guidance. Don't worry too much about this generation gap, it's inevitable that it can't be filled, and it's more about tolerance and understanding, just let it flow, just like the teenager said at the end, "I think that I have started a new relationship with her since then, just when she The time to really talk to me begins, but maybe there will never be a time like this again, maybe this is it." Do what you should and want to do at every age, don't avoid it and leave no regrets!

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  • Jamie: I thought that was just the beginning of a new relationship with her, where she'd really tell me stuff. But maybe it was never really like that again. Maybe that was it.

    Dorothea: In March of 1999, I'll start to feel tired and confused. When I finally go to the doctor, he will say that the cancer in my lungs had already travelled to my breast and brain. I'll try to teach Jamie what to do with my stocks, but my instructions will be impossible to understand.

    Julie: Abbie will take me to Planned Parenthood. And I will go on the pill. I will go to NYU and lose touch with Jamie and Dorothea, and I will stop talking to my mom, I will fall in love with Nicholas, we will move to Paris, and choose not to have children.

    Abbie: I will stay in Santa Barbara. In just two years, I'll marry Dave. A month after I get married Carlotta will die. A week later, Max will die too. I will work out of my garage and show in local galleries. Against my doctor's advice, I will get pregnant, and by the time I'm thirty I'll have two boys.

    William: I'll live with Dorothea for another year. Then I'll open a pottery store in Sedona Arizona. I will marry Laurie, a singer-songwriter. We'll get divorced in a year. Then I'll meet Sandy, we will marry, and I will continue to do my pottery.

    Jamie: My mom will meet Jim in 1983, they'll be a couple until she dies. On her birthday each year, he will buy her a trip on a biplane. Years after she's gone I'll finally get married and have a son. I'll try to explain to him what his grandmother was like - but it will be impossible.

  • Jamie: [to his mom] You know, when the firemen come... people don't usually invite them for dinner.