I remember when I just finished watching it, I shouted in the circle of friends: This is the romantic light comedy I have seen, THE BEST EVER. I
went back and checked it again. When I starred in this film, Aunt Mei was 60 years old. The heroine in the middle is also an old woman in her 50s who still has charm.
What the film tells is actually a very serious theme and a very heavy reality, but the details are super hilarious and exquisite, there is no idle writing, and each character is tailor-made, it is easy to make the audience feel like they are there... ...And then, like the photo I chose at the head, the ex-husband and ex-wife, who are still in love, sat respectfully on the swing chair on the lawn in front of the door, and sighed like a cloudless breeze: It's complicate. Love is complicated.
When we were young, we always felt that love should be very simple. Love is love, and not love is not love.
As I got older, I really realized how simple it is.
However, this is where the generation gap lies, right? It has nothing to do with age, but only about mentality. When you lament that everything in life is not simple and unclear, you are officially announcing to yourself: you have bid farewell to youth.
Of course, there are some people who will never say goodbye to their youth. For example, the ex-husband in this film who drives a sassy sports car, has a sweet wife and young children, and at the same time can rekindle a fiery love for his beautiful and youthful ex-wife, as long as you don't talk to him for the rest of your life. What kind of responsibility + trivial life, this person can't pick out any faults.
Probably, it will take a long time to live for a woman to understand that there is a kind of man who can never understand what responsibility and responsibility are... In fact, there is no way to make such a person understand through communication or communication. His personality, his experiences, and his values have determined that in this regard, he will always maintain a state of talking with the people around him. You can't say that others are not good, you can't say that he's not attentive, and it seems that he can't be labeled as someone who doesn't understand feelings. He just always pays attention to the specific content of "responsibility" and "responsibility" (basically, it refers to all the trivial things in life) Keep your eyes open.
Just like in the film, there is one detail that touches me very much: the ex-husband came to the kitchen of the ex-wife, stood in the middle of the floor, and poured out his love to her affectionately, while the ex-wife was busy cleaning up, and she was familiar with it under the eyes of the ex-husband. Familiar feet put a bucket full of water for the water dispenser... Both of them are obviously used to it, the woman has completely never expected to ask the man to help, and the man is completely unaware that this matter seems to be Something a man should never have seen.
If life really ends up like this, one side will naturally never think of a need for help, and the other side will naturally never think of a helper, then what is the so-called family, affection or even close contact with each other, which can save such a period that the two sides are essentially complete Unrelated relationship?
The attraction of hormones is indeed the beginning of love, and it may also become the cornerstone of marriage, but in the process of day and night life, if there are no trivial details that two people can naturally think of to deal with together, then "love" This word will become the most false illusion.
What exactly is love? If love means that two people are very happy together, then put aside the details of life, just in terms of physical pleasure, it is not too happy for an ex-wife to reconcile with her ex-husband. Satisfaction is simply not too cool); if love means tolerance and acceptance, then the ex-husband is even more affectionate when he looks back. As long as he is willing to forgive the past, then the ex-wife and the ex-husband’s family will be reunited with beauty, isn’t it the best explanation for true love? If love refers to soul bonding, the two of them are very familiar with each other after 19 years of marriage. The ex-wife’s desire to indulge occasionally is no better than the ex-husband who understands it. Adam, the person who understands his ex-wife best is probably still an ex-husband.
If the above is love, then for love, ex-wife should be with ex-husband, right? But the strange thing is that, in any case, the ex-wife who is with her ex-husband is not right.
Is the screenwriter too conservative? Or is it a female audience like me being too picky and demanding? In the end, whether there is love, you should not care too much, or whether there is love or not, in the details of life, you need to care about it to the end?
Care about this kind of thing, if the husband and wife both care about the same logic, use the same standard to care about and consciously accept the consequences of resolving the care, they can probably get along well, right? If it is always where you care about, he thinks that you should not care about it, and you feel that you cannot understand and accept the consequences of his care. Then, whether you love it or not, getting along will become a disaster, right?
There is no love, but we can get along, and life seems to be able to go on... No matter how much love, but can't get along for more than ten minutes, how can we live?
But then again, if you can't get along, how can you be in love?
What exactly is love?
Living at this age, I finally understand: love, whether there is or not, is unreasonable, and there is no law of cause and effect. There is no need to ask myself this question, and it is not necessary to live 24 hours a day. connect.
Whether there is a person in life who can get along with each other and take care of each other day and night is probably really worth thinking about: how to live with such a person, and how to live without such a person, only then need to form a really clear idea... love There is absolutely no automatic solution to living problems! And God's favorite test for the human mind is to give people a good feeling, but never tell people how to solve all the problems that go hand in hand with good feelings.
The ex-wife played by Aunt Mei in the film, just when her ex-husband came back to pay her a lot of fun in the twilight of her life, she was faced with the problem that the way to get along would be chaotic again, and it was difficult to resolve it.
The strange thing is that the ex-husband is not very entangled. Just like ten years ago, he was able to divorce his ex-wife with three children and remarry. Now he can quickly separate from his ex-wife with his youngest son and immediately return to his ex-wife. The bed... Therefore, in the relationship between the two people, the one who is worried about the future is always the one who is concerned about the future, and the one who is comfortable just in front of them will not be troubled.
It doesn't matter whether it is male or female.
Can you say that your ex-husband doesn't love his ex-wife? That is to say, is this kind of love worth nostalgic? In the ten years when the ex-wife needed people to share the responsibility the most, this man ran away and disappeared, and now the ex-wife has fully adapted to the splendid life without this man. , are you going to keep him?
In the ordinary daily life, there is such a person. It is better to exist than not to exist, and it does not affect anything at all. Is such a life simple or complicated?
The answer that Aunt Mei gave was that she didn't want this man, and she didn't want this love that was too complicated.
Getting along requires running-in, and complexity is too tiring. If two people fail to complete the work of running-in for a long time, in the end, the two can only "complicate" their "love" with each other. definition, then, it is best to give up.
Everyone should find a way of life that they accept in their hearts, without entanglement, without repression, without reluctance, without feeling complicated, and enjoying it. Then simply repeat this life pattern, day after day, week after week. In this way of life, it's a great blessing to have someone you can get along with... If you don't, it doesn't really matter.
Love is pure liking for the kind of life style that you really accept in your heart, right? There is a certain person who happens to be in this mode, and he will like this person sincerely and pure, and if a certain person is not in this mode, no matter male or female, he is destined to be only each other's passers-by. thing.
During the ten years of her ex-wife's divorce, she took care of everything in her life in an orderly manner. What she loves most is this life style that she really enjoys, right? Although there is indeed a lack of a man in this model, if you choose to return to the ex-husband, this life model will be destroyed again... So, the ex-wife whose life model has been destroyed by her ex-husband, this time, finally there is no more The wisdom of drinking doves to quench thirst.
Can there be such a wise choice, is it because the movie still arranges an Adam for the ex-wife? In real life, there is probably no Adam who knows pain and is willing to support and cooperate to perfect his ex-wife's life style... But what does it matter? With or without Adam, as long as you don't choose the ex-husband who is over half a hundred years old but still doesn't know how to live, the ex-wife's own life style will no longer be negatively impacted. This is the answer the film wants to tell the audience.
Love is very complicated and cannot be described... But life should refuse to be complicated, keep your mind bright and refreshed.
In other words, I like the little son-in-law in the film very much, the number one of the sweet and warm man. Finding out that Aunt Mei and her ex-husband were having an affair was even more nervous than Aunt Mei herself. When Aunt Mei was about to chat with her ex-husband alone, she heard that the tone was wrong, so she stepped forward without showing any signs and took the meat cleaver in Aunt Mei's hand. Put it aside, it's funny and touching.
In addition, the desserts in the film look very delicious. I have always wanted to be able to have this kind of craftsmanship myself. Unfortunately, I am not patient enough right now. Maybe I can try it when I am older.
Oh, by the way, I also like the big house of Aunt Mei's house. There is actually an idle plot that can be redesigned according to my own preferences. It looks like a pastry chef can make money. The full two-pipe fountain is always just right to appear on the scene, laughing to the point of spraying rice, hehe.
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