Between the two sides, there are bound to be sacrifices.
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Almodovar has been on my film list for a full year, but after work, my personal time is squeezed less and less. Occasionally, I try to spend at least half a day going out on weekends to get some air, so I put it on hold for a long time.
The theme to be talked about today comes from "Speak to Her", which is also a film that analyzes the relationship between men and women. It uses the theme of love as a medium to reflect the passive and active relationship between the sexes in emotion. Probably since I came into contact with Jarmusch four years ago, I have stepped into the myth of exploring people and people, and time and space. Personally, I have always been indifferent to all kinds of relationships. I think it has something to do with the life experience of running around with my family when I was a child. The growth process of teenagers always runs through and affects most of the later stages of life. No way to notice.
There are two classic scenes in the film, one is the stills of the silent film "Shrinking Lover" quoted in the film, in which a man shrinks and penetrates into a woman's vagina. The passive and active relationship between men and women in emotion has been explained very clearly. The more paranoid party needs to gain the initiative in the relationship through possession, but finally perishes and loses himself in the other party's body. The fundamental reason for this irreversible behavior, which can be called self-abuse, is that the paranoid party loves himself too much and needs to prove himself by owning the other party, which is essentially a kind of nihilistic existentialism.
After spending a period of time with a person who has no congenital strong relationship, such as blood relationship, the one who can withdraw after clearly realizing that there is no emotion between the two is often the more rational one. Regarding what is rational, I personally think it is to stand on the timeline of the whole life and assume that if the two of them barely maintain a relationship because of the spiritual and material sacrifices they have spent together in the past, what will happen in the future, I see no common topic It can be talked about, there is no basic sexual attraction, there will be no idea of forming a family and having children, even if a marriage is maintained under social pressure, it will eventually end in an unhappy divorce such as derailment and divorce. However, in society's attitude towards men and women, divorce seems to be more inclusive than insisting on waiting until you meet the right person. This peculiar phenomenon is not unique to the Celestial Dynasty, although it has recently been used as an argument by many articles promoting women's rights. , I still feel that this is rooted in a lack of human rights. This is off-topic, and I don't intend to expand.
In another shot, Benino and Mark stand side by side behind the lounge chairs of the two vegetative female protagonists. Benino excitedly tries to inspire Mark to imagine a conversation between two women about two men. If you have seen the film, you will definitely not talk about the conversation between Mark and the matador heroine Lydia in the car returning from Mark's ex-girlfriend's wedding. The woman said to the man: "We need to have a good talk when we go back", the man said " We've been talking for an hour", the woman replied "that's what you're talking about". Almodovar’s preference for women is extreme. The heroine of the matador in the movie is heroic, independent and beautiful and affectionate. From the end of the film, we can guess that Lydia wanted to tell Mark that she was still in love with her ex-boyfriend, but Mark let him Lydia had no chance to express her heart until her death. Another pair of men and women even interpret the asymmetry of communication in the relationship between the sexes to the extreme. In order to illustrate the problem, Almodovar even made Alicia become a vegetative person in a car accident not long before the car accident. Xia’s family peeped at her under the pretext of seeing a doctor. After four years of caring for Arisia, who became a vegetative state after a car accident, she even raped her. Benino’s self-confessed relationship has always been his own one-sided emotional appeal. On this basis, the illusion of response is created through imagination and empathy.
If the asymmetry in the relationship between the two sexes is a joke made by God, then the rejected party chooses to deceive himself because he cannot accept the consequences that he is unwilling to bear. Because the person you are afraid to bear refuses to communicate, just as you cannot wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep.
Regarding the solution to the unequal relationship, Almodovar also warned at the end of the film the fate of not paying attention to the reciprocal communication in the relationship - between the two parties, someone is destined to sacrifice.
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