I have been marking this movie for nearly half a year, and I just picked it up tonight in the list of movies I want to watch. It seems that I wanted to watch it because it won the Oscar for Best Original Title. I originally thought it was based on the movie name. A 20th century ukiyo-e painting of several women in a family, somehow I even opened it and read it when I forgot the content of the profile I read before. After watching it after midnight, I was pleasantly surprised. After reading it, I thought a lot, and I wanted to write something when I couldn’t sleep.
In the movie, mother Dorothea was born in 1924 and grew up as an independent woman through the Great Depression and World War II. She got married to the man she met when she was "supposed to be in love and she was scared never be in love" (best solution at that time) , gave birth to a child at the age of forty, she said:
“Wondering if you are happy is a short cut of being depressed.”
"Men always feel like that they have to fix things for women, or they are not doing anything, but something just can't be fixed. So just be there, somehow that's hard for all of you."
She fantasized about finding such a man, and finally found it
"He knows what I'm thinking and he makes me laugh, and he really sees me. He's gonna do what he says he's gonna do. So that's easy (to fall in love with him)"
She is worried that her son will have no one else to talk to but herself in the sensitive stage of her teenage life, so she recruited 24-year-old Abbie and 17-year-old Jullie to help her son understand the world and grow up. She wants her son to be happier than she is, and she worries that she can't do it on her own, a contradiction that is evident at the beginning of the movie.
Abbie, an art-seeking photographer, has cervical cancer, she says
"Whatever you think your life will be like, it will not be anything like that."
Jullie is a little girl who has a very bad relationship with her psychiatrist mother, lives in confusion, and wants to paralyze herself. she says:
"I think being strong is the most important quality, It's not being vulnerable, not being sensitive, it's not even about being happy. It's about strength and your durability against the other emotions."
The two girls I found really crossed the relationship between the two sexes, and taught Jamie how to accompany others when they are vulnerable, communicate when others are confused, he read the book of feminist, and he turned out a passage in the book and read it to his mother , trying to help a fifty-five-year-old woman face herself.
"I am gregarious, interested in others, and I think, intelligent. All I ask is to get to know people and to have them interested in knowing me. I doubt whether I would marry again and live that close to another individual, but I remain invisible. Don't pretend for a minute as you look at me that I am not as alive as you are, and I do not suffer from the category from which you are forcing me. I think, stripped down, I look more attractive than my ex husband, but I am socially and sexually obsolete, and he is not. I have a capacity now for taking people as they are, which I lacked at 20. I reach orgasm in half the time, and I know how to please . Yet I do not even dare show a man that I find him attractive. If I do he may react as if I have insulted him. I am supposed to fulfill my small functions and vanish."
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Although the conflict between the mother and son in the movie was finally resolved, Jamie told his mother that the two of them were enough, but I think the intervention of these outsiders allowed the mother and son who could not understand each other's thoughts in normal life, to open their hearts. In fact, we humans are always vulnerable, and we are always afraid of letting others understand us and entering our hidden hearts, aren't we? In the end, the mother drove the car and the son disappeared into the sunset together on the skateboard. Whether we will tell each other or not in the future, at least at this moment we understand each other, this is the feeling that family members should have. And I really think that what a mature person must have is to be able to deal with people of different genders normally, but this is missing for most of us, because in our adolescence education, these All grey areas. We ignore our basic understanding of each other as human beings with the attitude that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
Mom died before the start of the new millennium, and truly as someone who lived through most of the 20th century, came into existence and then disappeared. The good news is that she also knew what she wanted in those times, and she really shouldn't be so handsome when flying a plane~
The film also includes a speech by US President Jimmy Carter's "Crisis of Confidence", which was released on July 15, 1979. It was so depressing to think about the women of that era. However, we who were born in the era of millenials face a better society, but is that enough?
"As you know, there is a growing disrespect for government. The schools, the news media, and other institutions. This is not a message of happiness or reassurance. But it is the truth. It's hard not to see this and feel mad— it could have been written a year ago, if not yesterday. The progress Julie was able to take advantage of is threatened by an incoming administration that wants to roll back reproductive rights, and America is just as hostile to working women—especially mothers—as it was in the 70s. We are still obsessed with fertility, even as we swear that women (should) have the right to choose what happens to their bodies. And then there's everything else!"
One last post, Casablanca theme song As time goes by, this is my mom's favorite in the movie. Listening to the lyrics carefully, I found that this is really the case in the world.
This day and age we're living in
Gives cause for apprehension
With speed and new invention
And things like fourth dimension.
Yet we get a trifle weary
With Mr. Einstein's theory.
So we must get down to earth at times
Relax relieve the tension
And no matter what the progress
Or what may yet be proved
The simple facts of life are such
They cannot be removed.
You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh.
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by.
And when two lovers woo
They still say, "I love you."
On that you can rely
No matter what the future brings
As time goes by.
Moonlight and love songs
Never out of date.
Hearts full of passion
Jealousy and hate.
woman needs man
And man must have his mate
That no one can deny.
It's still the same old story
A fight for love and glory
A case of do or die.
The world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by.
Oh yes, the world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by.
8/16/2017 Late Night
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