The grief of the alienated parents

Gabe 2022-03-25 09:01:10

But it is an ageless classic, which perfectly explains the changes and alienation of the relationship between parents and children in modern society. What is home? Parents want a home with their children on their side, grow up healthily, and have their own happiness. The home that children want is just the home in memory, the home in childhood, young and healthy parents and good childhood memories. When I grow up, my parents have no home, their children are scattered, and the two are alone; the children have no home, and the aging parents have become a burden. Talking and talking will only cause trouble. Home is no longer home, no longer the warm haven in memory. The story of this film is simple. Parents who live in their hometown, go to Tokyo to visit their children and comfort their missing hearts. The realism is very strong. In just a few shots, the family's meeting, chatting, people recalling their hometown, etc., are well represented. Isn't that what we are now? The first stop was my eldest son who was a doctor. Koichi, the eldest son of the MD, is the pride of his parents. He is honest and old-fashioned. He is a street doctor on the edge of the city. The second stop was the eldest daughter who was a hairdresser. Tired of working all day, I lost the kindness I had when I was a child, leaving only bitterness and meanness. I was too busy to spend time with my parents, and I was reluctant to buy even better cakes. He could only entrust the daughter-in-law of the deceased second son, Changji, to accompany him. At the third stop, the second daughter-in-law finally took the two elderly people to visit the Greater Tokyo, but when they came to Kiko's residence, they found that the daughter-in-law was also having a hard time. The eldest son discussed with the eldest daughter. Both of them were busy. Let’s spend some money to send the old man to the hot spring to play around, but they forgot that the old man was looking forward to the company of his children, not to play. The fourth stop just went to the hot springs and the seaside, but I was defeated by those young people who stayed up all night. I could only say with emotion, it’s good, it’s just more suitable for young people, let’s go back to the countryside. Back in Tokyo, the eldest daughter said that she would organize a study meeting, and the two elderly people were homeless. They sat in the park for a long time, then walked around in a big unfamiliar city, and suddenly said, "We are also people without a home." Yes, home is not a place, but a person in it. Parents who have lost their children have become homeless. The old man asked an old friend for a drink. The three old men could feel the ruthlessness of the years and envy each other, but they didn't know that others in their eyes were happy, and they were unfortunate in their own eyes. The children didn't get along well, "Who made too many people in Tokyo?" The wife looked for Noriko. Noriko helps with the massage and talks about finding a good man to marry. The only one who remains enthusiastic is this daughter-in-law. From the longing of coming to Tokyo to the loss of leaving, I have to feel that although our children are not good, for example, others are not bad, "We are also happy." - What a sad summary of life, a lifetime Son, can only get a false happiness. Is this the alienation of family relationships in the industrial age, or is it the inevitable outcome of parents and children? Everyone has their own life, and they will put their own life first. Where are the hopes of the parents? Just as they are alienated from the previous generation, the next generation will inevitably be alienated from them, such a cruel family ethic. For the sake of the next generation, and to live up to the previous generation, can't parents and children have the best of both worlds? Before he died, his wish was fulfilled, and he saw all the children in ten days; after his death, the children gathered together and began to recall the beauty of the family. Do we hate the indifference of these children, do we hate the mother of the eldest daughter for doing that when she dies, and do we appreciate the filial piety of the daughter-in-law? But that's life. You became me and I became him. Kyoko and Noriko will one day become Fan, and Koichi is becoming more and more like his father. He runs around for the family and doesn't like to express his opinions. He just says "Yeah!" Both father and son are dual identities, and everyone has their own life. what. The sense of substitution strongly thinks of his relationship with his parents. My parents want their son to become a dragon, but I also live in the urban village in this big city; my parents are lonely at home, but I can't go back to accompany them, and I don't even want to hear their nagging. This kind of alienation of family affection has not changed after sixty or seventy years. Perhaps we can only comfort ourselves with Noriko's words, "When we were young, we thought that we would never become such a person. But at that age, whether we like it or not, we will become such a person." , will never become such a person. But at that age, whether we like it or not, we are who we are.” , will never become such a person. But at that age, whether we like it or not, we are who we are.”

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  • Sanpei Numata: I often wish at least one of my sons were alive.

    Osamu Hattori: Must have been hard to lose both of them.

    [to Shukichi]

    Osamu Hattori: Didn't you lose one?

    Shukichi Hirayama: Yes, my second son.

    Osamu Hattori: I've had enough of war.

    Shukichi Hirayama: Yes, indeed. To lose your children is hard, but living with them isn't always easy either. A real dilemma.

  • Sanpei Numata: I'm afraid we expect too much of our children. They lack spirit. They lack ambition. I've told that to my son. He said that there are too many people in Tokyo. That it's hard to get ahead. What do you think? Young people today have no backbone. Where is there spirit? That's not how I raised him!