The first thing to say is that I seem to have read the book "He Actually Doesn't Love You That Much" before. One of the points conveyed in the book is, don't worry about why he hasn't contacted you yet, whether he has encountered anything special, and use this to find various excuses for the other party to convince yourself that he loves you, don't be stupid, If he doesn't make you feel safe, it's just because he doesn't love you that much.
After watching the movie today, I read the sentence "Actually he doesn't love you that much". Suddenly I feel that the subtext of this sentence is not that he doesn't love you that much, so he left him. It's that he doesn't love you that much, so don't say goodbye easily, feelings are sometimes fragile, he doesn't love you that much, so don't take yourself as the center of others, everything revolves around you, give each other more space, and then While giving space to the other party, you must also leave a piece of silence for yourself, and you will be completely devoted to yourself, and you will also lose yourself.
There are a few things in the movie that moved me. It's as if it's a mental journey that he has just walked through.
1. Alice is trying a new single life in New York. She is first attracted by Tom, with a handsome face, a burly and muscular body, and it is said that Alice is in love right away. The hormones are fired up, and they have a %& of intense frenzy. When Alice regained her sanity, she heard Tom say how many girls he had had sex with, and never let them get up and make breakfast, "It should not be allowed to stay overnight". Alice felt a sense of loss at this time. She didn't pursue a moment of physical pleasure. "At least it's not the only one." to happiness and joy. Even though Josh is a little less exciting and fresh for her, the plain warmth is the home she longs for. She wants love and gets love.
2.josh rejected Alice. Josh invited Alice to his house for a party that day. She was absent-minded and couldn't fall in love with other boys. She wanted to see the Christmas tree. At this time, the Christmas tree is a light in her heart, illuminating the haze in her heart, and seeing the future is optimistic. The rich black man she met just in time made her want to lean on her shoulder. At this time, she needs to feel loved. Maybe it doesn't have Josh's two little guesses, and Tom's passion, but it is like a tree that allows the tired Alice to stay and rest. However, the love is hidden, the love can't reveal his true information and emotions, and can only announce the end.
So far, family love, passionate love, and dependent love have not allowed Alice to find her final belonging.
When you're anxious to find something, you can't always get it.
Once I abandoned family-like love without passion, and instead of looking for a boyfriend, I hoped to get short-term pleasure from the body, and later found that this could not meet the needs of my vacant soul, I needed to be loved. And when you point the finger and look for a support, you are probably wrong again. No one is stupid.
So is the finale written?
We must begin to live strong and independent lives. No longer holding the princess dream, no fantasies, no longer simply relying on passion and a good future to choose the other half.
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