He loved me when I was nothing. (translation as I understand)
When I saw the name "Girls Genius", I thought it would be a story about how a gifted girl achieves success. Success stories are always intriguing. Just watching a movie can satisfy a little psychological desire for talent and success. Why not do such a thing. But "Genius Girl" is not such a movie.
Seven-year-old Mary was raised by her uncle Frank. Her mother, Diane, a genius mathematician, committed suicide when she was still an infant. Her father was an asshole and never paid attention to her. At the age of seven, Mary's mathematical talent inherited from her mother gradually emerged, which attracted the attention of her grandmother Evnlyn, who graduated from Cambridge University. Evnlyn wants Mary to use her mathematical talents to complete the mathematical equations that have not yet been cracked, and make a great contribution to mankind. She was going to confine Mary's life to studying mathematics, just as she did to Diane. This idea was opposed by Frank, and Frank and Evnlyn filed a lawsuit. The two fought for Mary custody and education rights.
What kind of environment should a gifted child grow up in? This is the question from "Genius Girl". Gifted children are destined to be special, but does this mean that they are born to live a different life and cannot have the desires and emotions of normal people? Their mission is to solve the world's problems, and they are born with that responsibility. No, the answer is no. At the end of the film, Mary continues to be raised by her uncle Frank. While studying difficult courses in college, she plays with her peers and lives a normal extra-curricular life. The best of both worlds is the most likable answer given by the film.
Based on the ending of the film, we believe that Mary will live a happy life. She is properly educated, and more importantly: her life will be full of love. Although the material conditions that Frank gave her are far inferior to Evnlyn, he can't even afford a piano, but through the film, we still believe that Frank will give her a happy life, not Evnlyn. In the face of Evnlyn's strength, Frank also made a compromise. He believed that he could not give Mary the best life. He was very afraid that he would ruin her life, so he and Evnlyn agreed to send Mary to a host family. Life, fell into Evnlyn's trap. When he finally saw that the so-called host family was actually controlled by Evnlyn and wanted to turn Mary into another Diane, he realized his mistake and rushed into the host family to rescue Mary. Why do we think that mary and Frank will be happy if they live together?
The biggest difference between Frank and Evnlyn is that Frank can give Mary unconditional love, but Evnlyn cannot. Unconditional love, which means that Frank loves Mary, and he will love her whether or not she is gifted with mathematics. When Mary was a powerless little baby, he cared for her, raised her, and never wanted anything in return from her. And Evnlyn didn't care about Mary, but Mary's talent, otherwise, why would she ignore a baby who was still in the swaddle, but was very enthusiastic about her when she showed her mathematical talent. Maybe it can't be said that Evnlyn doesn't love Mary. Sometimes it's hard to say please in a few words, but what is certain is that her love for Mary is conditional.
Conditional love seems like a deal. You fulfill my demands, then I can give you love, it's like you give me money, and then you can have something similar. It's a pity that a lover is not like a business. Do you think that if you give love, that person can fully accept it? Insincere love is unacceptable, because in such a situation, the so-called love is more like an exploit. No one can endure being used by others. People are not a tool. If you treat him as a tool, he will feel that he is being degraded by others, and his self-esteem will be greatly hurt. the so-called love.
Children, especially toddlers, need unconditional love. They want to grow and learn, they will make many mistakes, they need to be tolerated, accepted, forgiven, and they need all kinds of encouragement. Unconditional love can give them a great sense of security, allowing them to express themselves without fear of being abandoned. They don’t need to always try to please others and satisfy others, so as to beg for the love they need. They can be themselves at ease, dig out their true needs, grow in the most natural state, and eventually become the best version of themselves.
Unconditional love is pure and unpretentious, loves you just because you are you, loves you in your natural state, no matter how bad you are, it will give you warmth and encouragement. This is unconditional love. This kind of love is a luxury for most people, but it is precisely this kind of love that weak children need to help them grow up. Psychological research shows that if a person lacks this unconditional love in childhood, he will continue to seek it until he is satisfied, and as he grows older, the vacancy of love will become larger and larger. difficult to fill. This could explain why so many bad guys in movies, when it comes to why they do bad things, use the flaws of their childhood love as reasons for their motives. Such films are often jokingly summed up as "Daddy give me a little more love" or "Mom give me a little more love". Although such a joking summary is only for bloggers to laugh, it also happens to illustrate the gist of the film, whether a person receives sufficient care in childhood is very important to a person.
Mary, who was abandoned by her mother and father, needs unconditional love even more, and she needs such love to recognize the value of her existence. When Mary broke down in tears because her father didn't want to see her, Frank took her to watch the baby's birth and told Mary that he was so happy when she was born. This makes Mary feel that her birth can bring happiness to others, that she is needed, not optional. In Frank's place, Mary is free to do what she wants to do. When she gets along with Frank, Mary's pride and wit as a gifted girl is fully revealed. When she was with Evnlyn, Mary was more obedient. Under the protection of unconditional love, Mary can confidently reveal her personality. And if love is conditional, Mary will have to work hard to meet this condition. In Evnlyn's case, the performance is to study mathematics obediently.
It seems only natural that parents should care and protect their children when they are at their weakest, tolerate their mistakes and guide them. Children are like blank sheets of paper, with no strings attached to them. The moment he was born, nature brought a natural person to his parents. He was so innocent, self-conscious, and without fireworks, which made people feel soft. The reality is that not all parents can give unconditional love to their children. Evnlyn's love is of the Self, of the world, of humanity, and never of the child's personal wishes. In her eyes, as long as she can contribute to mankind, everything is worth it. Personal entertainment, love is nothing at all, and human beings should not be trapped by these ridiculous ego thoughts. It can be said that she loves mathematics more than anything else. She has lost her daughter's life and even her granddaughter's life. This kind of choice of using the big self to sacrifice the small self is common. In the ancient society where the ruler is the ruler and the father is the son, there are many fathers who have made "great" choices for their children. The pro-princess, the prince who was taken as a hostage, for the sake of the country and the nation, they must sacrifice their ego and achieve the greater ego. If you choose, people will praise you as a hero, if you are forced, you can only cry and complete your mission. At this time, the contradiction between the individual and the society cannot be reconciled. In a modern society of equality and freedom, civilization progresses and science and technology develops, such ancient propositions still exist. However, we say that you do your own things yourself. The evolution of civilization makes most people think that parents make life choices for their children. Give advice because people believe that only they can make decisions for themselves and be responsible for them. In fact, the self-generated motivation to do something is indeed better than the completion of the completion under the coercion of others. Just as it is often said that interest is the best teacher, a career driven by an inner source can often bring surprises to people. Mary loves math, and she has the motivation to teach herself math without anyone's urging. She wants to make a name for herself in the history of mathematics and put her pictures in the corridors of the university. Without Evnlyn's urging, she'd study math on her own. A thing that I like to do is forced to fit into various rules and regulations, and the enthusiasm of my favorite gradually disappears in the polishing day and night, which is more sad than being forced to do something I don't like. What you don't like can be hated to the end, but the cause you once loved so much has to hate it, from love to hate, how painful.
In fact, whether or not Mary can solve mathematical problems for mankind, human civilization will not stop because of a genius decision. What we see is living in Frank's company, Mary is so happy, unconditional love gives her more joy and encouragement, a seven-year-old child, most people want to see her grow up happily, That's enough.
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