Confused family, persistent youth

Mittie 2022-03-28 09:01:13

After watching this movie in the bedroom, I have to say that it has been a long time since I have seen such a movie that makes people feel so empathetic and makes people feel rushing. First introduced the film's director Javier Dolan Born in Canada in 1989, he was only 20 years old in 2009. He wrote, directed and acted in this film, which won three awards at the Cannes Film Festival that year, and then made many thought-provoking films, because he is gay, So the plot is mostly about the same sex. In 2015, I was personally invited by Adele to shoot the mv of "Hello". The word genius may describe him! Speaking of the movie itself, when I first saw the title of the movie, I thought it was a juvenile crime movie full of bloody violence (this idea is related to my long-term watching horror movies...) But when I watched the full movie, the whole drama did not appear true Murder scene. The film's male protagonist, Hubert, was born in a single-parent family. At the beginning of the film, he had a trivial quarrel with his mother. The same non-stop, fierce quarrel accompanies almost the entire movie. These quarrels seem meaningless, but they are reasonable. , All kinds of trivial things in life will become the fuse, and later Hubert moved to the teacher's house because he hated his mother, was asked by his mother to transfer schools, took medicine with his friends and returned to the original place to sit with his mother at the end of the film. It has to be said that the whole film is made in one go, and it is difficult for people to imagine that it came from the hands of a 20-year-old director. In my opinion, almost all the contradictions in the film resonate with me, the quarrel over the news on the drive, the quarrel over the promise when I get home... These are all things that have happened in my life. It can be said that no one is good or bad in this film. You may feel that your mother is vicious after watching it, or you may feel that the male lead is sexual, but from a rational point of view, the male lead comes from a single-parent family and lacks fatherly love since childhood (this One thing I know...) He couldn't get the love he needed in his mother, and I think that's one reason why he and so many gays. He was cynical and could speak to his mother without any hesitation, because he felt that her mother did not follow his wishes, that he did not trust him, that he was not taken seriously and understood. In fact, it can be seen from many details in the movie that it is not spoiler. But looking at the mother, she loves her son in her own way, she thinks she loves enough, she doesn't hold a grudge against her son or scolded him hard because of his tone of voice and words. As a mother she may have struggles, but breaking her promises is unpleasant. The male protagonist said that he hated his mother in most of the quarrels, and as the lines in the play said, "We may all hate our parents, but we just don't show it." But in fact, deep down he doesn't hate it. , the first time after he took the medicine, he went home and talked to his mother, and he said all the words from the bottom of his heart, After quarreling again and again, he can always reconcile with his mother... These all prove that the male protagonist loves his mother in his heart, but it is the way his mother loves him that makes him feel tormented. To my surprise, when my mother heard from the male lead's boyfriend's mother that the male lead was gay, the shock she showed made me think that there would be a forced routine (most gay films will have...) but when the mother was in the kitchen When I quarreled with my son again and said this, I could feel that my mother was only full of concern and love for her son, and the part where my mother sent her son to the boarding school also made me feel very emotional. On the one hand, sending off is for the sake of self-fulfillment, and on the other hand, it is also for the development of the male protagonist. This part is the one with more intense contradictions. It can be said that almost all the conflicts in the second half are related to this. The first time when the mother sent the male protagonist to the past. In the evening, when parting, the male protagonist complained and scolded his mother for a while, but when he really parted, he asked: "What would you do if I died today?" After dozens of seconds of silence, the mother said: Then I will die tomorrow. "Just asking and answering these two sentences gave me a deeper understanding of the psychology of mother and son. A mother's love for her son is a great love. It will not shrink back because of her son's arrogance. He hides his mother's love in his heart. He thinks that he hates his mother, but in fact he still has hope for his mother. In fact, the opposition between each other reflects a family, and the child is the victim of tragedy. , this is the tragedy of some single-parent families in any era. Slow motion mixed with electronic rock music forms a unique "Dolan aesthetic". The pictures in the black and white camera in the movie are the inner words of the male protagonist, almost all The black-and-white shots of the film all tell me that I actually love my mother very much, and there is one line that impressed me: "The strange thing is that when someone hurts her, I have the urge to kill that person. "Indeed, mothers should be the number one in our hearts, at least in our hearts (or fathers), we say we hate it, but we repent time and time again in our hearts for what we said and what we did. In today's society, communication between the two generations may have become a problem. We hate our parents for taking care of us too much, but we have to rely on them to live. Complaining about or missing the things that have been missed, it is a shame that many things are gone forever. It is worth mentioning that at the end of the film, the male protagonist becomes the groom and chases the mother who has become the bride, but in the end he fails to catch her, which reflects His love for his mother may have transcended the mother-son relationship, or it may be explained by his desire for genuine communication with her, but The mother kept running away, pushing him away again and again, showing her inner pain, hope and love. At the end, the mother said that her anger was all vented on the principal of the boarding school, and she accepted her son's boyfriend. Sitting on the rubble is reunited in childhood videotape. Finally, I want to say that no matter what the current situation is, we should face life positively, find our true selves, and discover our uniqueness. Homosexuality is not scary, but it is scary that we dare not recognize ourselves. everyone is unique. Love is invisible, especially the love of parents, learn to be considerate of parents, after all, as the mother said in the play: "I am not your servant", many times we think that parents should do things for themselves, but parents are not born They are human beings, they were also us now, think more from the perspective of your parents, don’t be rude to your parents because of some trivial things or just because you are polite, learn to think more in empathy, and remember everything. Everything now is given by our parents. Gratitude and love are what we must do. The last sentence! I may still only see a lot of superficial things... If you have seen it or want to see it, you can discuss it with me! ! and! Dolan is really, really, really, really, really, really, I think a very talented person... The point is that he is also very handsome! ! !

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I Killed My Mother quotes

  • [subtitled version]

    Hubert Minel: We should be able to kill ourselves. In our heads. And then be reborn. To be able to talk, look at each other, be together. As if we never met before.

  • [subtitled version]

    Julie Cloutier: I don't have a class right now, let's get a bite.

    Hubert Minel: Isn't it illegal for teachers and students to hang out?

    Julie Cloutier: Not as much as killing your mother.