First published on WeChat public account: The heart is the host and the body is the guest (shenshike-HK)
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Recently, an article about being a nanny became popular. I just watched a French movie "Grim Ritual", which also tells a story about being a live-in servant. I went to see Aunt Isabelle Huppert, who knew that Aunt Huppert was not playing the maid.
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Mrs. Leliffe met Sophie for the first time in the cafe and immediately had a good impression of her. The thin, blond woman was plainly dressed and graceful, with impeccable manners and résumé.
The interview went well, and Mrs. Leliffe decided to hire Sophie on the spot, and offered Sophie a salary slightly higher than her asking price: 6,000 francs. (I really didn't mean it, the nanny who wrote the slow fire was also paid 6,000 yuan.)
Le Lifu's family of four lives in a very remote place with a large house and a lot of housework.
Sophie is diligent, capable, and even cooks a good dish, and was quickly recognized by the Le Lifu family.
However, Sophie has some strange behavior:
always do not tidy up the study;
Do not use a dishwasher, wash dishes by hand;
The Leliffes want to pay Sophie to learn to drive. Such a good thing, Sophie refused, saying that she had poor eyesight and needed additional glasses. The Leliffe family took her to get her glasses fitted and paid for her glasses.
Once, Mr. Leliffe left a very important document in the study and sent a colleague back to get it. Call Sophie and tell her to get the document off her desk and give it to a colleague. Before Mr. Leleaf could finish speaking, the phone over there was connected, and no one answered. When a colleague arrived at his house, he rang the doorbell wildly, but no one came out to open the door.
Mr. Leleaf came home in the evening, furious and screaming to fire Sophie. She was persuaded by Mrs. Leliffe.
However, Sophie's behavior increasingly dissatisfied Mr. Leleaf. What touched his nerves the most was that Sophie actually had a relationship with Jeanne, whom he hated the most.
Jeanne worked in the post office and was prosecuted for her daughter's death. Although she was later acquitted, Mr. Leleaf believed that Jeanne was the suspect responsible for her daughter's death, and also suspected that she took advantage of her position to take advantage of her own position. Every one of his letters was opened, and he rushed to the post office to reason with Jeanne.
Mr. Leliffe forbade Sophie to bring Jeanne home.
One night, the Le Liffes came home to find their 20-year-old daughter in tears. It turned out that she had been threatened by Sophie.
Mr. Leleaf angrily ran into Sophie's room, saying that threats could not be tolerated, fired her, and asked her to leave in seven days.
Did Sophie just leave so obediently?
What monsters would she and her friend Jeanne come up with?
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It's a war between employers and babysitters.
It's a war between the middle class and the underprivileged.
Some people say that this film has no stand, but quietly filmed the irreconcilable contradictions between the two classes, which eventually led to an unmanageable situation.
In fact, it has an attitude and a standpoint. The film stands on the stand of a nanny and exposes the hypocrisy and meanness of the middle class, even though Sophie is actually a murderer.
[The comments below contain spoilers]
The film introduction, as well as some film critics, blamed Jeanne (played by Aunt Huppert), saying that the relationship between Sophie and her employer deteriorated rapidly because of Jeanne's provocation.
In my opinion, Jeanne is "the life of the disgusted Jeanne". She is warm and lively by nature, and she also had dreams when she was young. She wanted to be an actress, but people thought she was short. Unmarried and pregnant, she was abandoned by a scumbag and insisted on giving birth to her daughter. A single mother had a tough life, and her 4-year-old daughter tragically died due to her negligence. She was charged with the murder of her daughter. Although she was cleared of the crime, everyone still looked at her with colored eyes. She was demoted to a remote post office job, maddeningly deserted and boring, where she read books. (Actually, this kind of work cost me two dozen.)
Jeanne was suppressed at the bottom of society, and the people and things around her were so disgusting. She volunteers, sorting donated clothes for the church. Brought Sophie to the door to collect donations, and humiliated the stingy and hypocritical old couple: Are you a poor person who picks up rubbish? What kind of shit are you donating?
The old couple complained to the church that the priest reprimanded Jeanne and Sophie, fired them, and did not allow them to do volunteer work.
The director deliberately filmed a strange-looking priest with a strange voice and a strange talk. These donations are just a form of walking around, so that everyone feels that they are a kind person who is willing to give. Hypocrisy so!
(Aunt Huppert won the Caesar Award for Best Actress for this film.)
Jeanne's life can be said to be unfortunate. She has never hurt anyone, but she has been hurt in various ways. After enduring all kinds of hostility, it is impossible for her to have any kindness towards society, especially the rich. She yearns for the rich and hates the rich, and will play some tricks to make fun of the rich, such as taking advantage of her position to open letters and spy on other people's privacy.
Sophie also loves to pry into other people's privacy. When the Leliffes were talking, she was eavesdropping behind the door. Le Liv's daughter was on the phone, and she was overhearing on another line.
They all love to spy on other people's privacy, they all have a background of suspected murder, and they are all at the bottom of the oppression. How could Jeanna not be friends with Sophie? She felt that Sophie was honest and was always exploited by her employer, and she had been teaching Sophie to resist.
How could she have thought that Sophie was the real boss.
Jeanne opened her heart to Sophie and said everything about herself, but Sophie never told Jeanne about her own affairs, even the illiterate.
The film uses a sympathetic tone to describe Sophie's efforts to hide her illiteracy. Extreme inferiority complex turned into a kind of paranoia. She stayed away from all books and words, refused all help, refused to face the reality, let alone overcome and change her own shortcomings. Moreover, whoever wants to expose her layer of scars, she will die with whomever! This is the dignity and bottom line she defends.
Why is she illiterate? It should have something to do with her father. How was she treated as a child? ──She set fire to her paralyzed father, grinning and telling Jeanne that her father smelled of "urine".
The appearance is normal, and Mrs. Leliffe thinks that Sophie, who looks like a good person, is actually a psychopath.
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Uneducated babysitters spying and gossip about other people's privacy, educated so-called cultured middle class is not much better, also do not know how to respect people.
Mrs. Leleaf looked polite and kind, and made Sophie so much to take advantage of it that she even asked Sophie to work on Sundays. The daughter of Le Lifu's family criticized: You treat her as a robot. (Filipino maids in Hong Kong have one day off a week, which is a statutory holiday.)
Sophie's birthday invited Jeanne to volunteer at the church. Mrs. Leliffe said that helping others is also a good thing. Do what you need to do, and I will do the rest. When the day came, Mrs. Leleaf had no intention of letting Sophie take a holiday. Sophie got everything ready and slipped out, Madame Leleaf looked in disbelief: How could she do this?
Sophie took Jeanne to Le Liv's house without authorization, checked everywhere, and even followed the books, violating the rules that a nanny should abide by. The employer who did not give a holiday to a nanny would have violated the rules long ago.
The Le Lifu family (except for the daughter) are disrespectful and hypocritical.
The family happily discussed Sophie's "servant", and Mrs. Leliffe said, "It's too bad to be called a servant."
When his teenage son smoked, Mrs. Leleaf reprimanded him in front of the whole family, and when no one was there, handed the cigarette to her son.
Mr. Leliffe stared at the women of the disadvantaged class all day long and was preoccupied with it. Mrs. Leleaf opened a gallery, never sold a painting, and only fooled around with her lovers in name. Mr. Leliffe knew about it, but pretended not to. This tortoise deserved... he didn't feel ashamed, but when he heard that Sophie was illiterate, his first reaction was too embarrassing for his family.
This "no white ding" Mr. Leliffe has good taste, plays with shotguns, listens to Mozart, and watches operas. As a result, such a wonderful scene appeared: a family dressed in formal dresses, sitting upright, sitting in front of the TV at home, enjoying the opera.
The son dozed off, but denied: I was reminiscing about the opera I just watched. Sao Nian, is it really okay to be so hypocritical at such a young age?
The cutest thing in the family is the daughter.
She criticized her parents' attitude towards Sophie, and was always friendly to Sophie and Jeanne, her friendliness quite different from her parents' condescending hypocrisy towards Sophie.
She jumped out of her car to repair the little broken car for Jeanne, and got her hands full of oil. It's a pity that Jeanne is full of hostility to the rich and no longer appreciates it.
She found that Sophie was illiterate, and she did not look down on her, but said she could teach her. It's a pity that Sophie's whole person is already very twisted, and she won't accept the daughter's kindness at all.
The daughter is the only innocent character in the movie. She was born in this family, caught in the struggle between the two classes, and became a victim. This may be the meaning of the title of the film "Grim Ritual", right?
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If you have a nanny at home, you can look for this movie and watch it to be vigilant.
Who knows what kind of psychopath a normal looking babysitter can be?
Finally, what kind of disaster will it bring to the family?
The conflict between the babysitter and the employer cannot simply be attributed to the lack of love and sympathy for the lower class by the Le Liv family. The daughter of the Le Lifu family didn't care about Sophie. Social cruelty, lack of education, childhood shadows, and even hereditary personality, etc., can form a personality like Sophie.
After talking about the movie, go back to the article about the babysitter that I mentioned at the beginning.
Fan Yusu's writing skills are very strong and have a good sense of rhythm. Whether she is a nanny or not, she is a very good writer.
Not long ago, Luo Yufeng wrote an inspirational article, which was also written in one go, beautifully written, with a rough life experience, and unyielding resistance, which moved many people to bad. Later, Luo Yufeng blew herself up, and someone brushed her pen.
Now faced with articles like "I am Fan Yusu", I have a gloomy thought: Could it be another hype? With an entire PR team behind it? Especially at the end of the article, the words "Huiyuan Juice" appeared abruptly, an advertisment?
However, not many people feel that the words "Huiyuan Juice" are so dazzling. It seems that there really is such a 44-year-old nanny Fan Yusu from Xiangyang and Beibiao.
Well, congratulations to those who were deeply moved, there is one more Tolstoy and one less nanny in the world.
Why would there be one less nanny?
Because, who would dare to hire such a nanny?
It feels too scary, is there? After paying the money, I hired a nanny to come back, criticized the employer's private life, and exposed the employer's privacy to the whole world.
Fortunately, for the time being, I don't need a babysitter.
Although I don't want a babysitter, I'm also very afraid. If there are relatives and friends around me who ignore other people's privacy like this, no matter what job she does, whether she is a babysitter or not, as long as she can write, if she is unhappy, she will shake my private affairs. Show the world. Although I don't have anything shameful, the thought of having such a ticking time bomb around me is really scary!
(The picture comes from the Internet)
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