What is it like to truly enjoy being alone?

Ludie 2022-03-26 09:01:11

Is it the only type of person who can truly enjoy loneliness? Gao Ming's book "Genius is on the left, lunatic is on the right" contains many such real cases. What impresses me is the first story in the book, "The End of Life". The heroine in it hasn't said a word to anyone for several years. Every day in addition to eating, sleeping, going to the toilet, she is squatting in front of stones or flowers and studying carefully. Even talk to them softly.

In order to get to know her, Gao Ming spent half a month doing the same thing as the heroine every day in the mental hospital where she was staying. Finally, he aroused her curiosity and asked him, "What are you doing?" This opened up her mental state. She said: Humans have always thought of the outer space to find advanced life, but advanced life may be around us, but we are trapped in our own perspective and cannot see it.

For example, an ant may be an advanced life, if you regard an ant as a cell and a colony of ants as a living body. Another example is that stones may also be advanced beings, but the rhythm of their lives is much slower than that of humans, so humans cannot see their birth, old age, sickness and death. Therefore, she decided to "find a way to communicate with the stone", and then "find out if there is a life that looks at human beings like a stone."

She can say these words, can we still say that she is a mental patient? We always feel that the right to exercise "different eyes" on such people with the thinking of ourselves as normal people is to treat them as heretics, and we are unwilling to approach and accept them. Perhaps in their eyes: we are already mediocre and hopeless.

Therefore, only those who really do not regard these lonely geniuses as lunatics will truly enter their spiritual world, and perhaps become good friends and confidants.

When David Lipsky simply used his "Rolling Stone" reporter to interview David Foster Wallace, the best-selling novelist, he simply wanted to find out whether Wallace was addicted to drugs. Wallace fans, more like a confidant.

The words David read in the bookstore at the end of the film "Travel's End", I still can't help but burst into tears every time I watch it:
When i think of this trip, i see David and me in that front seat of his car
.
we are both so young. he wants something better than he has, i want precisely what he has already.
neither of us knows where our lives are going to go.
it smells like chewing tobacco, soda and smoke.
and the conversation is the best one i ever had.
david thought books existed to stop you from feeling lonely. if i could, i'd say to david that living those days with him reminded me what life is like instead of being a relief from it. A relief from life, but a reminder of what life is like.
and i'd tell him it made me feel much less alone.

David of "Rolling Stone" really understood the loneliness of the writer David, just as the writer David reluctantly sighed: "If there is someone you can live with and share with you, how good it would be, whether it is happy or confused, you can face her Let go." It can be seen that the seemingly arrogant and eccentric genius writer needs someone who really understands him, and then shares the joy of success, pain and confusion with him.

The purposeful interviews made me understand the way I need to live. The writer David later committed suicide. I don't know if he couldn't bear the ignorance of too many people, and he didn't want to use his loneliness to heal others' loneliness. He revealed to reporter David that he had been addicted to writing, so he was drunk, sexually promiscuous, and even thought about death. Although he later became a best-selling author and became famous, this success was not enough for him to forgive his once degenerate self. This conflict added to his sense of loneliness. He longs for others to understand, but he can't be bothered too much, because he needs to be alone when writing.

Geniuses are not born to enjoy loneliness, but when they are addicted to one thing, they will have a very strong "self-awareness". This kind of "self-awareness" will make ordinary us feel selfish, arrogant or even abnormal. They do not want to Bringing such emotions to us, we will choose to stay away from the crowd and choose to be alone.

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Extended Reading
  • Wendell 2022-03-16 09:01:06

    Feeling can be used as a teaching material for "how to write a witty and natural character dialogue".

  • Abby 2022-03-27 09:01:18

    It's even more sad to know that David Foster Wallace actually died by suicide. How to break through the many barriers of individuals and society and live with each other, this is like the dawn, and it is like the last shovel of dirt on the coffin.

The End of the Tour quotes

  • David Foster Wallace: It's so much easier having dogs.

    David Lipsky: Ha, ha - I'm sure.

    David Foster Wallace: I mean, yes, you don't get laid, but you don't have that feeling, like you're hurting their feelings, all the time.

    David Lipsky: Right, right.

    David Foster Wallace: I'd like to emphasise strictly platonic relationship with the dogs.

    David Lipsky: He he; I'll make sure I'll highlight it in the article, sure.

  • David Lipsky: Do you wanna have kids?...

    David Foster Wallace: Yeah, I think that writing books is a little like raising children, y'know -you have to be careful; mm; it's ok to take pride in the work, but I think it's bad for someone to want the glory to reflect back on you.

    David Lipsky: I mean, sounds like you're worried about having children.

    David Foster Wallace: I'm not wanna say anymore about that - if that's ok?