Movies that keep me "playing".
Think of a lot.
Let's start with something irrelevant before entering the topic.
About Sweden.
maybe like sweden
At the beginning of the movie, there is a blue and yellow sign at the crossroads, and there is an instant play...I immediately thought of IKEA.
Think about the first time I learned about Sweden because of the song "be what u wanna be", the favorite song of the non-mainstream people. It is not impossible to say that the first cause effect is applied at the national level. At that time, this very small For the very small me, the country is simplicity and freedom.
For places that you have not been to, you can only imagine and fill in by feeling. Find a few adjectives, that is, clean, simple, comfortable, free.
I will go in my lifetime, I will go.
1. Regarding the elderly and work, needs and needs.
After my grandma passed away, I became very fond of old people.
Of course, the elderly also have many shortcomings. On the surface, they admit that they are too old to keep up with the times, but they like to "rely on the old and sell the old." You may find out on the day you go into the ground, alas, not necessarily. We seem to be incapable of speaking and find each other ridiculous.
In fact, I agree that the elderly are the living treasures of the family. Because they always inadvertently spit out golden sentences, which are rich in philosophy, and require you to read them patiently, such as tasting fragrant tea. It will take a few years to come to the aftertaste. We seem to always feel that we are not too young. When we were young, we felt that way because we were ignorant. When we are older, we feel that we are sensible when we are old, but we may not be sensible.
I remember a friend whose grandma was in her 80s and spent her later years on sleeping pills. One night she said to my friend: "My child, why do I always not grow up."
So I think if 80 years old is not grown up, isn't life always childish? Or maybe, growing up is never a perfect tense.
Ove lost his job in his later years. I remembered that my dad used to say that when people get old, they work not to make money, but to hope that they can move a little bit, not to be idle, and to prove that they can still stand in the society.
Maybe that is the so-called social value of human beings.
It's really hard to recognize old age. "The old, the weak, the sick and the disabled" have always been taken for granted. The sick and disabled are physical defects, and the weak is a generalization. The old seems to represent everything. Of course there is wisdom, but people have tended to protect this group since ancient times. , treat them as weak.
When I was in college, the uncle of the doorman in the Shaw Building in the school was said to be a graduate of the Chinese Department of Northeast Normal University.
I really don't understand why he came to do this job with no identity in my opinion at the time. Later, I realized that for them, the meaning of work is no longer for the work itself, but to spend their later years in this way, even a slightly poetic life. Not for money, but for self-serving.
So I also understand very well that for an old man, losing his job is equivalent to taking away his only spiritual sustenance after his wife leaves.
After my first failed suicide, I knew that Ove would not be able to commit suicide.
His heart is not completely without sustenance in the world.
When we are young and energetic, we may be very disgusted by someone clinging to ourselves, euphemistically calling it: being needed. But as I grew up, I realized the beauty of being needed.
I used to find my mother when my clothes were torn, my hair was knotted, my shoelaces couldn’t be worn, and when I had something on my mind, I asked my mother to send it to the airport. When I had no money, I asked my father for it. Looking for my father to repair... Slowly, we learned to deal with many things by ourselves. We thought that our parents were liberated and relaxed, and that we had grown up.
When we have something on our minds, we start to hide and tuck it away, and we are no longer as open-mouthed as we used to be.
Then I gradually read the sense of loss from that scene of being no longer needed.
"Shall I take you to the airport tomorrow?"
"No need, I'll take a taxi by myself"
Should Dad be relieved? It doesn't seem to be, but it seems that I rejected my father severely. There is a loss in his eyes, a loss that is no longer needed, a loss that has been deprived of the function of being a father.
We can do well, and the parents seem to be left behind. It's not that we don't want to grow up, but for parents, this is the paradox of child growth.
So the neighbors "offended" Ove again and again, there were always people who didn't follow the rules set by the committee back then, there were always people driving cars on the roads of the community, like pulling Ove back from the gate of hell again and again, hey, Ou Wei, we still need you here.
In my opinion, Ove was saved by a sense of need.
It turns out that we are nostalgic for the world, but also because the world needs us.
Ove told his wife that nowadays people can't know anything, and eating lunch has become the easiest problem. On the surface, he didn't care about the radiator of Ruhr's house. At the moment before he hanged himself, he realized that the problem of the radiator was still in his mind. There were so many things in the world that he cared about, how could Ove leave.
To feed the cat, teach the neighbors to drive, help with the baby, and maintain the order of the community for decades...
Because "no matter what we do in this life, we can't escape life"
2. About Ove.
The old things are still the scenery, and the personnel are not.
Defend the person and leave all her clothes, even the layout of the kitchen, and the pillow next to "my" pillow.
They had a conversation on their first date that I can't forget:
"Why eat at home?"
"Because then I can order what I want."
No matter how beautiful the restaurant's taste is, it seems that there is always a little bit of seasoning missing. That seasoning is the feeling of home, familiar but not greasy, only familiar to your taste buds.
Ove is a family lover. It is said that when he is about to die, he will quickly think of everything in his life. When Ove committed suicide, he remembered his father and Sonia.
Guard the old house, collect the watch after the fire, and keep the height and layout of the kitchen consistent, because this place that satisfies your taste buds should naturally be the same as when Sonia was there.
Ove is kind. Rescue the "stupid" neighbors in the fire, adopt a stray cat, first set the principle to be indestructible, no one except Sonia can live in this house anymore, and then "silly" broke the principle and adopted this poor cat The cat, even the will does not forget to explain the feeding matters.
Ove is stubborn, with a silly, hilarious stubbornness.
At the beginning, when I complained and argued with the clerk unreasonably when I bought flowers, I was thinking: You can make an order with the aunt behind. I didn't expect the plot to go this way... Grandpa, you are very cute.
Later, the competition with Roude Saab, Volvo, and BMW was also quite funny. "After all, you can't ask me to drive a Volvo for the rest of my life," Ruhr said.
In fact, it is an old man who is cold on the outside and hot on the inside.
Same for people and animals.
But I didn't expect that this rigid and stubborn grandpa could have such obsession with love. A little bit shy, but very dedicated and persistent.
If I didn't go to that life-and-death appointment as scheduled, the "superfluous" life was actually very exciting.
Sonia doesn't blame you.
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