Towards the end of the year, I read a book called Stoner. The protagonist Stoner should be regarded as a "phoenix man", from a farmer in a small village to a university professor in a town, after marrying the famous family he fell in love with for the first time, he thought he would live a happy life, but life is like this Yes, always makes you smash your teeth and swallow blood. After that, Stoner's marriage life was unhappy, his work was not smooth, he cheated in middle age, had a very comfortable love life, was defeated by public opinion, and finally lived his life numbly.
Life is like this, everyone is "other" in the eyes of others. Other people's sadness and happiness, other people's smiles and tears, other people's stories, no matter how moving, are other people's. To put it bluntly, it's none of my business.
Occasionally I like to watch dull movies with no obvious dramatic conflict, like this "Others", "Love", "Moonlight" I have seen before, and a story about a journey, I suddenly forget name. The older I get, the more I realize that the vigorous life that I used to envy might belong to other people. When I put it on myself, sometimes it doesn't fit well, sometimes it's not so good. Like "Boyhood", a child always has to go through a lot of things to grow up.
The "Wonderful Flower Conference" has recently been broadcast, and many people have remembered a paragraph of Gao Xiaosong's words, which is like this, "When you are young, don't let life go, kick it hard, don't think that you are cowardly in front of life. , life will let you go, no, life will not let anyone go." Naturally, life will not let people go, just like everyone who comes alive will eventually die. You and I are all other people in life. If there is a God, he will arrange different scripts, but the ending will be the same, and neither you nor I can leave any. Life will be as peaceful as no wind and no waves.
In the movie, David accompanies his mother to fight cancer. The first scene at the beginning is that the family is lying on the bed and saying "I love you" to each other. Mother Joanna's friend called and said sorry to hear the misfortune. I feel sad at the same time that the other person is shopping for food and making all kinds of requests about food, so you know, this is other people's lives, "Sick? Sick. Oh oh I'm so sorry I listened I got the news." "Did they get married recently? Yes. Wow, that's so happy, I'm having some trouble with my latest project..." "I heard that our teacher died of uterine cancer." "..." These It's none of our business, it's the lives of "other people", but we all point fingers and give opinions about other people's lives.
As the year draws to a close, I know that many people will have opinions on other people's lives, "Why are you still not married?" "Is it time for you to have children after two years of marriage?" Yes, when will we learn to "live your life" , when is progress.
Walking in the world until now, no one is not with a little bit of pain, about self-identification, about the confusion about the surrounding environment, about wanting but not getting it, about getting it, not wanting it, living forever lonely, and using the same Treat others coldly.
I also read a piece of news today. It was an uncle who brought his equipment and stole an inflatable doll from a 24-hour automatic sex shop in the middle of the night. Everyone was laughing. Some sympathized with him, saying he might be a widower. Some sympathized with the boss. People stare at it for so long and don't know. But everyone speaks from the perspective of others, that is, "standing and talking without back pain". He may be lustful and unsatisfied, he may also seek thrill from stealing, he may be too lonely, there are many possibilities for him, but he really steals against the law. He is the "other" in our mouths.
Everyone is "others" in the eyes of others, and they are lonely without exception, but why do they still laugh at others' loneliness? There is only a moment when I will feel that I am not the same as others, and it is only approximate. .
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