The film tells the story of a couple whose relationship tends to be flat to seek a way to get back their passion from a counselor. The consultant recommended a place for them to go on vacation. It is said that the couples who have been there have come back in love. So the two drove to that mysterious place. But soon they discovered that there was a pair of men and women who looked exactly like them hidden in that resort area. Not only are they the same in appearance, they are clear about their past events and even the conversation between the couple just now. They gradually can't tell who is the real partner, or who is the real lover. The ending is not explained here, it is a reservation for the reader and himself.
Although the movie is fictional, for me, who likes to open my mind, such a fantasy like "changing identities" has existed for a long time. Anyone who has watched "The Mermaid" as a child (Emma revealed her age) knows a plot: Zhang Ziyou spent a happy time with Peony, the incarnation of the carp essence. He has never seen his wife so innocent, so he loves it very much. I fell in love with this lovely her, and loved this kind of life of mutual support. But when he knew that the true identity of Peony's appearance was actually the carp spirit he hated, he would rather die than accept it. Although he later realized that the person who made him feel love was indeed the carp spirit, the process of changing his cognition was also very difficult.
I used to dislike a relative, but one day I had a whim, if one day I learned about my true origin - it turned out to be the child of that relative, and my family was just people who were not related by blood! What would I think? Perhaps from that moment I realized that the attachment of a person in a relationship is probably not based on superficial identity, but on attitude toward that person in addition to identity. I love my parents, and if one day I learn that I am not my biological one, I will not deny my affection for them; I don't like that relative, and if one day I learn that I am their child, I will not have the slightest affection.
When I was a child, the perception only stayed in considering whether I liked a person whether I liked his appearance or his feeling. Yet the film leads us to think about the difference between two kinds of infidelity—physical infidelity and spiritual infidelity. The debate over which of the two types of infidelity is more unacceptable has been endless. Maybe we can get some new inspiration from the perspective of "changing identities".
The first situation is that you still love him without knowing that the other person is not a true lover. In the movie, the heroine met a man who looked the same as her husband for the first time, mistakenly thought it was her husband, and went through the clouds and rain with him happily. The next day, when she and her husband both found out that the man who appeared last night was not the real husband, the husband was just a little jealous. When the wife thinks about him as her husband and enjoys this kind of love that she doesn't know is wrong, she is derailed physically, but not mentally.
The second situation is to know that the other person is not a true lover but still love him. The heroine gradually fell in love with the more romantic "fake husband". In order to investigate her, the real husband pretended to be a gentle "fake husband" and attracted the heroine to go to bed. But the next day, he was really angry. Because the feeling that the wife enjoys is given by the "fake husband". At this time, she is not derailed physically, but derailed mentally.
Thinking about it this way, I seem to find the debate about "physical infidelity and spiritual infidelity" less difficult to think about. In the past, we always imagined that a person who is physically unfaithful still has his first spouse in mind, or that he lives with his original spouse with someone else in mind. It is difficult to completely separate the two types of infidelity. Even if a person is willing to give his body to others, even if he still feels guilty, it is difficult for us to exonerate him; for a person who can live with his original partner, it is also difficult for us to compare the difference between the deviation of the other party's spirit and the normal emotional flatness. . Just imagine, when one day you learn that your partner is in love with you when you think that the other party is you, or rubbing your ears when you think you are someone else, which one is more unacceptable, maybe there will be a different angle, although Such a scene exists purely for debate.
Back to the Zhang Ziyou example above. He thinks that he loves Peony, and the object he likes to live with is Peony, so he thinks he is 100% loyal. But in fact, he not only derailed physically (the carp essence lives with him), but also derailed spiritually (Peony is a lady, and only respects him in life. What really gives him happiness is the liveliness and cuteness of carp essence). When he suddenly knew about this double blow, and felt that he had turned from a loyal scholar to a scumbag who had cheated on him overnight, how could he not collapse?
After all, it is an illusion, and reality does not need to think about so many possibilities to spy on the hidden evils of human nature. We will get used to being alone, and we will gradually lose track of where we like him. Ta can't really put on another painted skin to fall in love with you, nor will there be an identical painting skin that makes you mistake him for him. If you feel that this partner is irreplaceable no matter how she looks or feels, then she is indeed the one you love.
End today's brain hole with a lyric.
Can't see through is your lost soul.
Can't guess is the color of your pupils.
Looking at you holding me ,
eyes are like moonlight, lonely , so
you are happy in someone else's arms.
Loving you is like a heartbeat.
It's hard to touch. Skeletons
remember that your face
is my persistence in waiting for you,
you are my endless song
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