I heard that when a person is alone, he likes to look at the stars. Do you usually feel lonely? What do you do when you are alone?
Behind Makoto Shinkai's anime film "Children Chasing the Stars" is the lonely truth that adults dare not look directly at.
1 I'm here to meet someone who holds a lamp and sees himself in me
"Before, just that one time, I listened to very mysterious music. Music that I had never heard before. It was as if the human mind became that music.
At that time, feelings of happiness and sadness came together. Makes me feel like I'm not alone. Always stay in my heart. I want to hear that music again. "
Asuna and Shun met.
The music that Asuna will never forget is the instant sound of life.
There is an attraction of the same frequency between people.
She can recognize him, he can recognize her.
Even though he was from another world, Yagotai, a place she had never heard of.
When they met for the first time, they seemed to be confidants.
Zhou Guoping wrote in "Love and Loneliness":
"A life that is so unfamiliar that you don't even know its name, discovers your life from a distance but is so close, and through the appearance of secular utility and culture, echoes your life without asking for anything in return, isn't this not in life Impressive encounter?"
As Thomas Transtromer once said, "I am here to meet a man who holds a lamp and sees himself in me, and we must believe in a lot of things lest we suddenly fall into the abyss when we get through the day. ."
We have always expected that when one person meets another person on the same frequency, when one person's soul and another person's soul are perfectly aligned, we are no longer alone.
In this world, there are so many people who have been looking for a soul mate and looking forward to the emergence of a soul mate.
Xu Zhimo once sighed, "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast crowd; if I get it, I will die; if I can't, I will die, that's all."
As Zhou Guoping said in "Love and Loneliness", "In the depths of our hearts, love and loneliness are actually the same emotion, they go hand in hand and cannot be separated.
The more lonely we feel, the more intense our desire to love. "
2 Each of us is an orphan, longing for someone to love and someone to love; loneliness stems from the severance of connection with others
Asuna is looking forward to meeting her and Shun the next day.
The next day, she didn't wait for Shun.
What awaited was his death.
In class, from the teacher, Asuna learned about the legend of another world, Yagotai. In this world, people can resurrect those who want to be resurrected.
When Asuna went to the teacher's residence to ask him about the legend of death and resurrection, she felt very sorry, and felt that it bothered the teacher. The teacher said, I live alone, relax, there are only books at home.
Yes, after his wife left, he has lived alone for ten years, and it is difficult to find the warmth and life of home at home. He has been concentrating on studying various legends to find a way to resurrect his wife and find the entrance to Yagotai.
It can be imagined how lonely the teacher's life is, how lonely he is in his heart, he has lost the love in his life, and he has never come out of the grief of the loss. He often suffers from the torment and torture of missing his wife and loneliness.
In their hearts, there are people who want to be resurrected.
Asuna meets Shin, Shun's younger brother, a man from another world, Yagotai.
And just like that, they embark on an unknown and dangerous journey.
During their journey, they encountered time and again trials and dangers.
"On a night without stars, how lonely human beings are." The teacher sighed.
When sprinting in the water to avoid the hunted by the Yi people, Asuna finally understood her purpose.
"Why am I here?"
"It turns out I'm just too lonely."
When I was a child, my father passed away, my mother was too busy with work, and tomorrow's childhood was lonely.
The moment that suddenly appeared in her life was like a fateful partner and confidant. Made her feel no longer alone.
The day after meeting Shun, she made two bentos in the morning. Mom asked who she made it for. She told a friend. Mom gave a suspicious but relieved smile.
It's so rare to hear the word friend from Asuna's mouth, that's why people are so surprised and surprised.
They went through untold hardships and dangers to come to Yagotai, in order to revive the people they wanted to revive, it turned out to be because they were too lonely.
Those who have experienced loss may have people who want to be resurrected in their hearts.
But loneliness is something we all have in common.
When eating alone, crossing the road alone, going to the cinema alone, or traveling alone, the feeling of loneliness often catches us.
When a person is quiet; when tossing and turning at night and insomnia; when being wronged and hurt and crying to the death; when the city is still full of traffic in the morning; when the room is so quiet that only our own sighs can be heard.
Our hearts are always empty and we feel so alone.
Sometimes we choose to be hilarious just because we can't stand being with ourselves.
But with the crowd, we can also be alone.
When the song is over and the lights are dimmed, loneliness eats away at our hearts even more.
Actively chosen solitude and solitude are precious moments of time and dialogue with ourselves.
Then when the sense of loneliness hits, what we experience in our lives is a feeling of loneliness and powerlessness.
Zhou Guoping said in "Love and Loneliness", "From the perspective of the vast universe, each of us is indeed a helpless orphan, who comes into the world by chance and inevitably leaves.
It is precisely because of this fundamental loneliness that there is a value and reason for love. Everyone is an orphan, so everyone wants to be loved and loved. "
"Why do we long for love? Why do we have love in our hearts? My answer is: Because we are all orphans."
We need the company of family, friendship and love.
I can't imagine how lonely people would be without them.
Psychologist Fromm once said that people may be able to endure all kinds of pain such as starvation or oppression, but it is difficult to endure the most painful of all, that is, total loneliness.
Hu Shenzhi also said that people need to be connected, and this connection is often based on the sense of self-worth of being "needed". Once we feel that we are no longer needed by others, we feel worthless.
Psychologically speaking, when our connection to others is severed, we experience a deep sense of loneliness and powerlessness.
3 No one is an island; loneliness exists only in loneliness, and once shared, it evaporates
The teacher finally resurrected his beloved wife, Risa, but at the cost of sacrificing Asuna's body, and at the same time paying the price of his own blindness.
And Asuna reunited with Shun in another world.
Having lost Asuna's heart - Shun's younger brother, he frantically waved the knife in his hand, wanting Asuna to come back. At that moment, how lonely my heart was.
If loneliness cannot be avoided, how should we deal with it?
In "When Nietzsche Weeps", the master of existentialism Irving Yaron explored two major themes that cannot be avoided by human beings, aging and loneliness, in the way of storytelling. An important reason for the feeling of loneliness is that we are separated from the world, and the loss of connection with the world will make us feel lonely and humble in our hearts.
So what we need to do is to reconnect with people, with other people, with the world.
As Owen Yaron puts it in the book, "Solitude exists only in solitude, and once shared, it evaporates."
Similarly, Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, also put forward a similar point of view in "Out of Loneliness":
"What is the real meaning of life? It must be a public meaning, a meaning that others can share, and a meaning that can be recognized by others.
A good solution to our own problems in life will inevitably help others to solve similar problems, because we can see how to successfully deal with common problems. "
We are a "community", sociality is our inseparable attribute, and the meaning of life is to contribute to others.
Closing yourself can lead to psychological barriers.
Career, social and intimacy are three important issues we face in life.
When we are "seen", recognized, and needed, we feel connected to others and the world, and a deep connection can greatly dissipate our inner loneliness and powerlessness.
Professional, social, and intimate relationships are all ways of building deep connections with others and with the world. It is also an important way for us to gain a sense of value.
Contributing our strength and value to others and society can greatly help us get out of loneliness.
As the English poet wrote in his famous poem "No one is an island":
"No one is an island,
alone in the sea;
Everyone is like a little piece of dirt,
connected to the entire land. "
Makoto Shinkai's most underrated movie: How many lonely souls "Children Chasing the Stars" comforted
Shun said to Asuna: "Tomorrow, you should go back."
Risa, who gradually disappeared, said softly to her husband, "Look for happiness."
Survive with loss.
Let go of your obsessions, and life will go on.
Let go of the one and only, life is still beautiful.
Loneliness is the norm in our lives.
We need to live and dance with loneliness.
We need to open our hearts.
We need to open up to the world.
It's gone in an instant, but my heart is there. For Asuna, my friends are actually by my side.
Hello. Goodbye and hello.
Meet you, now parting with you.
hello. Goodbye and hello.
Say hello to a world without you.
Accept loneliness, get out of loneliness, achieve yourself, and move towards the future and tomorrow you want.
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