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Dr. Foster is a middle-aged woman with a five-star happiness index, she has a happy family, a loving husband, a lively son, she has a respectable job, and is a senior partner of a small town hospital , loved by patients, her financial situation is good, she has no worries about food and clothing, a single-family villa, and a luxury car.
Since finding a long blond hair in husband Simon's scarf, her happiness index has dropped to four stars. She suspected that Simon was having an affair, and began to look at Simon's mobile phone and tracked Simon's whereabouts, but she was suspicious but found nothing.
On my husband's birthday party, I found the second mobile phone that Simon was hiding. The wallpaper was a sweet photo of Simon and Xiaosan. What's even more terrifying is that her friends and colleagues knew that Simon was having an affair, and they helped Simon fight. under cover. Her happiness index turned into three stars.
Dr. Foster accidentally discovered that Xiaosan was pregnant. When Simon learned that Xiaosan was pregnant, he asked Xiaosan to keep their children, because they were not a spark, and Simon loved Xiaosan deeply. Her happiness index dropped to two stars.
Just when she thought that Simon and Xiao San were over and were about to start over with him, she found that Simon was flirting with Xiao San in the garden downstairs of his office. She only had one star left on her happiness index.
When she found out that her real estate, her pension, and her son's college fund were all mortgaged by that scumbag Simon to do a real estate project that was very likely to fail. Her happiness has been wiped out, and she has already been cast into hell.
Extremely angry, she used extreme methods to get back the property that belonged to her and the custody of her son.
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Cheating is not a new thing.
"There are only two kinds of married men, one is that they are good at covering up cheating, and the other is that cheating has been discovered by their wives."
"Men are very single-minded and only love 22-year-old women, no matter if the man is 20-year-old youthful Boy, still a 60-year-old man."
shuddered.
When Dr. Foster took his son to drink coffee in the square after the divorce, he found that his son was looking at a magazine of bikini beauties, and his eyes were fixed.
Like father like son. Like father, like son.
Is the gene for cheating still in the DNA of a man after tens of thousands of years of evolution, or even a dominant gene?
So, is monogamy really human nature?
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more than 400 kinds of mammals, 3%, that is, 120 kinds of animals reproduce in a monogamous way. In primates, the rate of monogamy is as high as 18%, such as gibbons.
Biologists have found that animals that adhere to monogamy are animals with low dimorphism.
Low dimorphism means that males and females are about the same size, males have less obvious secondary sexual characteristics, and do most of the work of caring for their offspring.
So are humans low-dimorphic animals?
No, many indicators of dimorphism are higher in humans than in gibbons.
So are humans highly dimorphic animals?
No, many indicators of dimorphism in humans are lower than in chimpanzees who live in groups.
In other words, human dimorphism is not low, but also not obvious high, and humans are essentially an esoteric complex species in the middle.
There is such a saying, but let's zoom out a bit and go back to our beginning, 30,000 AD, when we were still called Homo sapiens, or even Australopithecus.
After several years of drought in the African savannah, the australopithecines who stayed in the trees were forced to go to the ground in order to forage and began to adopt cooperative hunting methods to live. The objects of cooperative hunting also include large animals, such as sawtooth elephants, etc., which requires the cooperation of Homo sapiens. For example, it is best not to have a shared wife with me, otherwise, who knows if you will not because I slept with our shared wife yesterday. , gave me a knife in the back while hunting. Coupled with the invention of weapons, the resource advantage of body size is more even, and males cannot obtain monopoly resources, and Homo sapiens began to monogamy.
But because of the group marriage system of close relatives of chimpanzees in the genes, cheating incidents occur from time to time.
The intelligence of Homo sapiens is greatly improved because of the discovery and anti-discovery of cheating.
Isn't it a bit surprising, biologists say, this kind of bullshit is the reason for the high development of human intelligence.
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marriage of modern people is blessed because of the love between husband and wife, and guaranteed because of moral restraint.
However, with the purity of love, the development of the system, and the progress of morality, why is the divorce rate getting higher and higher?
Economists have an interesting point of view, the reason for love as marriage is just our thoughts, in fact, marriage represents the transaction of property between husband and wife.
Because of the progress of science and the opening of society, physical strength is no longer the main factor in determining income. Women have the opportunity to go out to work, and men and women have relatively equal abilities.
Marriage, the ancient organization of two people, is finally determined to be monogamous because of the lowest transaction cost and stable organizational structure.
When the social division of labor was unclear, the husband was the plumber, mason, repairman, and carpenter at home. My wife is a laundry worker, a cook, a nurse, and a needleworker.
As the division of labor in society becomes more and more refined, you can find people who are ten times more professional than your husband to do the former plumbers, masons, repairmen, and carpenters. The former laundry workers, cooks, nurses, and sewing workers also have babysitters, laundry rooms, and takeaways to satisfy themselves, and they don't need to be angry with their wives.
So, why do you need a husband/wife? Wouldn't it be better to spend the rest of your energy on cheating? Could the divorce rate be high?
Fortunately, long-term marriages exist, and the secret is to turn a marriage into an economic community as soon as possible. In other words, marriage requires us to work together.
An economic community is not just about putting money together and using it together. An economic community requires husbands and wives to have common things, common vision, common goals, common friends, common progress, common hobbies, and even a common house and children. The more things in common, the stronger the economic community.
Isn't there an old saying that it is easy to share weal and woe, but difficult to share wealth and honor?
When they are poor, both husband and wife are working hard to make money. Who has the energy to take care of other things? When the money is easy to earn, making money has become a common goal of minor details, and the direction of progress has also changed. The husband is thinking about the wonderful world outside, and the wife is still swiping the card to buy a bag and waiting for her husband's return date.
How can we make progress together and become rich together?
The more intertwined the economic community is, the higher the barriers to exit.
The stock market crashed in 2015, which made many investors feel the "pleasure" of divorce, and their property shrunk by half. After probably experience, divorce will be more cautious.
If you're the one demanding improvement, are you stagnant like the other half, or are you making progress alone?
When Dr. Foster and scumbag Simon were tearing up X, Dr. Foster threw the car keys to the roof and said to Simon, "Do you want to drive? Climb up and pick it up." Because this car was bought by Dr. Foster , smash Simon's cell phone with a stool, because this phone was bought by Dr. Foster, and search Simon's wallet and coat, because these are all bought by Dr. Foster, scumbags can't dare to fart put.
Keep making progress, at least you'll find that it's not that difficult to quit.
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"Morality is my economics, not ethics." - Nietzsche.
Don't sell your youth for money. When youth disappears, money will disappear with it.
Don't be together for blind love, when the passion fades, the love fades too.
Don't make a choice because of social pressure. When the marriage is only trivial, life will be a piece of shit.
Take out a small notebook and calculate whether it is possible for you and him to become a big community.
Otherwise, whether or not monogamy is human nature, it will live up to the beauty of monogamy.
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