It's such a bland story, but it made me cry quietly towards the ending, and then cried until I had a headache.
People with different feelings may have different feelings when watching this drama. Let’s first look at my crying points:
1. When he flashed back all the memories of his wife in his memory
2. When he built a slope for his wife and cried
3. When He flashed back to church funerals and weddings
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crying Life and death thinking. Love has said too much, and I don't want to expand it. In the past two months, I have encountered these things at home, so I wanted to write about this topic for a long time. So this is not a movie review, just my personal expression.
1.
In the damp ward, accompanied by the clamor of family members of other bed patients. There is an old man either lying down or sitting down. The cancer cells had pressed against his nerves and he could not speak. As early as a week ago, he was talking to me about writing papers in the past.
He refused to examine the body, always saying: "Life or death". Going to the hospital is only a temporary relief from the pain. We all understand that he thinks that the disease is incurable, and he doesn't want to trouble the people around him, so let's die with dignity. Like Ove in the movie, despite his determination to die, he still wears his suit and wears his perfume. This can't help but remind me of the topic of the first issue of "Qi Hua Shuo", whether patients with terminal illness should be persuaded to persevere. However, like him, he has long since made a decision stubbornly for himself, but the relatives around him can only respect him unwillingly. Especially his other half, perhaps no one in this world is as sad as her, and she may need more courage to accept and survive than he has to decide to give up treatment. However, I support his decision. He has passed the troubles of his life and has experienced ups and downs, and he has no regrets. I felt at that moment how happy it was that one could decide to "die or live". If you can't control your own birth, it is also excellent to choose your own death.
But it wasn't as simple as he and I thought it was -- it wasn't the moment when the decision was made and life came to an end. Because I didn't receive drug treatment, I lost weight after two months, and I couldn't take care of myself at all, so my family needed to take turns to serve me. He himself suffers day-to-day pain that we can't even imagine. The relatives and friends who go to the hospital to see a doctor should all hope to see patients who are in better spirits every day. However, we can only see a life withering day by day. At that moment I thought again, is this the dignified death he was looking for? In the last few days, even the drip was exempted, and I just hoped that I would die as soon as possible. Seeing his determination to die, the family began to sincerely hope that it would be nice if euthanasia really existed. Euthanasia is illegal in China, because no one has the right to take someone else's life, so if this person decides, why can't it be decided by oneself?
The last time I saw him, a skeleton curled up on the bed, I sincerely hoped that he could get rid of this pain as soon as possible. And this morning, after watching the play, I saw the news of his death on WeChat. I always thought that I had calmly accepted the fact that he had left, but when the day came, I still felt very empty. You watched him suffer, but at least he was alive, but now he's gone forever. I just checked the WeChat address book and saw his WeChat. In the future, he will no longer update his poems and songs, and you will know that he really left forever. That's the hardest part. Just like at the end of the film review, Ove did not sweep the snow as usual, what a desperate daily life. Therefore, I can imagine the feelings of his other half, or the people who survive are really the ones who need more courage.
Like Ove, my uncle is a person who is principled to the point of being paranoid but maintains the spirit of an old scholar. In the past years, perhaps I have never seen a person around me who refuses to give up treatment. I can't help but think that maybe not everyone in this world has the so-called "survival awareness". I admire him, and if it were me, I would have chosen this way too. In many film and television works, the old man is still a character who can walk and run but is lonely in his heart. And the realization is that before death, because of illness and aging, I have been locked in the death courtroom, still suffering... Now that I have independent consciousness, I began to think, if it were me, how should I face life, old age, sickness and death? ? All I can think of is the simple but real truth: from now on, you should cherish your own body, as well as cherish those old family members. Why bother resentment, after all, one day we will be separated.
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It is said that the old man exudes an old man's rotten smell, in this room full of old man's smell. An elderly person can only rely on others to help him eat, drink and Lazar. I don't know what she is thinking about every day, maybe she is too old to think of things. What exactly 24 hours a day means to her, I'm really curious. I don't know if I'm trapped here because my feet can't move when I'm old. What's the meaning of life other than eating and sleeping? Her old wrinkled hands touched us, what a vivid and dazzling contrast. I'm not afraid of getting old, I just hope that my old self can become the old man in the movie works, busy and trying to feel the breath of life...
In the end, all the qualitative changes are accumulated, and now I just want to live a good life, keep my body healthy, and cherish the relatives, lovers, and friends that I should cherish. Because "no one can live alone". Only when you get old can you see all the glitz of the world. Just want to live hard when you can!
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