In fragile social situations, please let the secret be the secret

Cordelia 2022-03-24 09:02:39

Sometimes I feel that the hearts of modern people are becoming more and more fragile, and the secrets that used to be all locked in the heart are now transferred to mobile phones and computers. These most insecure and vulnerable containers are completely vulnerable to the desire of people to spy on other people's secrets.

Cell phones and computers have become black boxes in our lives. The screenwriter of "Perfect Stranger" chose to directly release the black box at one time, creating a disaster like a serial car accident on a high speed.

Seven long-time friends came to a family dinner on the night of the total lunar eclipse. The three couples who appeared seemed very loving. The sweet newlyweds Cosimo and Bianca decided to start having children. The long-married couple Lai Le and Carlotta brought their own tiramisu, and the hostess Ava and her husband Rocco cooked in the kitchen and warmly entertained the guests.

However, at the beginning of the film, the undercurrent was already surging. Ava and her husband Rocco had different opinions on the date of their 17-year-old daughter, and they were each unhappy. Before the appointment, Lehrer and Carlotta secretly looked through the toilet. In the photo on the phone, one hurriedly took off his underwear before going out. Bianca, who seems to trust her husband, is actually always suspicious. Everyone has a ghost in their hearts written on their faces, but the more ghosts in their hearts, the more they have to pretend to be magnanimous in their hearts. When Ava proposed to play a game at the dinner table, their eyes were flustered, and none of them refused.

Whoever refuses will be at a loss.

The rules of this game are very simple. Everyone puts their mobile phones on the table, no matter who receives a text message, they must read it, and if they receive a call, they must turn on the speakerphone. In the beginning, everyone received innocuous text messages or phone calls, until at the dinner table, Lehrer and Pep switched phones, citing that he didn't want his wife to find out his lover's photo. This move is like planting a ticking time bomb. In the enclosed space that followed, every inch of air was tense like a blade, and the next second was to tear everything that could be seen.

If everyone before that can still explain their "white lies", then every secret exposed since then is like a "face-slap" battle. Cosimo had just finished getting angry and his wife was still in contact with her ex-boyfriend, and immediately received a call from her pregnant lover in public. When Carlotta comforted Bianca who was vomiting in the bathroom, Ava found Cosimo. And the saliva spit on his face indicated that they both had legs. Lehrer and Pep switched phones, but unexpectedly Pep's lover was a man. He chose to continue to hide the truth, only to make Carlotta and other friends think that he was gay. Carlotta revealed that he was drinking and driving under the collapse. The fact that she made her husband top the bag, but the farce was not over yet. Her mobile phone quickly revealed that she had a Facebook friend she had never met, and she played the game of "wear or not to wear underwear" with her.

At the end of the film, there are seven people who did not choose to play games. After a friendly dinner, they said goodbye affectionately to each other. The newlyweds are still in love. Although the husband is still in contact with the pregnant female colleague on his mobile phone, Lehrer and Carlotta return home. The husband was still sitting in the toilet looking at the photos on the phone, while the wife went back and put on her underwear. Pep was still hiding the truth about her same-sex friend. At the hostess's house, Ava took off the earrings sent by her lover. After opening, he also sent ambiguous text messages to his lover. The most ironic thing is that the most magnanimous Rocco among the seven is the one who stopped the game.

When his wife asked him why he didn't play the game, he said, because our relationship is fragile, everyone is, and some people are more vulnerable.

We are always righteous about all our relationships, we feel that there should be transparency between husband and wife, we feel that friends who have been friends for many years should talk about everything, just like when Cosimo learned that Lehrer was gay, because the other party didn't earlier Tell yourself and get mad. In fact, whether it's a marriage or a close friend, what we have to admit is that there can be no one person in this world you can talk about, and no one is obliged to bear all your secrets. The openness that friends need and the undisguised requirements of couples are often a kind of restraint. The more restraint, the more everyone wants to keep the truth in their hearts.

So, we choose masks, choose distance, choose calm on the surface, choose to pretend to be ignorant of other people's secrets, choose to protect others and protect ourselves. Before, we have to step through all the deceit and concealment in life and keep going.

"How many secrets does a person need to hide in order to live a life skillfully?" Can

these secrets survive in that unknown corner?

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Extended Reading

Perfect Strangers quotes

  • Eva: If I were cheating, I wouldn't have suggested this game.

    Lele: Or you are and you want to be found out. There's this psychological mechanism according to which serial-killers do all they can to get found out.

  • Peppe: I want to be the meaning of my own life.