Narcissistic mother and her daughter

Ford 2022-03-24 09:03:38

The film is a condensation of the novel, and the director expresses his understanding of the novel.

My mother is a typical narcissistic psychological disorder. She is beautiful, strong, and high IQ. She ignores all living beings and strives for what he wants. She ignores the rules. In her heart, the rules belong to others and have nothing to do with her. When her daughter questioned her death, she said, "I'm not wrong, as if to say that my rules are like this."

She lives in her own world, and she doesn't have a daughter in her heart. She is a tool for her self-extension. She is blowing wind on the top floor, there is danger in that place, her daughter is afraid, she pulls it over, she can't see her, There is nothing to talk about taking care of. He taught his daughter and hoped that her daughter would be closely connected with her, like a person, but in this connection, it can only be his emotions, his will, the daughter does not exist, it seems that the daughter does not exist. Closely connected, it is a mother's love, but in fact there is no ability to love. What she needs is the approval, care, and follow-up from her daughter. In the relationship, she is a one-way taker. Once the daughter wants to get rid of her, she would rather destroy her, so She was jealous of the actress mother that her daughter found. She told her daughter that I would rather you go to hell than be with him. She was in prison. In fact, she did not want her daughter to be happy. She said, you are like me. The good side is hidden, and the daughter will use the skills to stay in his foster family to seduce Ray, and then the daughter is shot.

The daughter told her mother that you taught me not to think independently, but to think according to your ideas. This is the first round. The daughter said, you can't see me well. This is the second round. The daughter said that they are not our enemies. , you are my enemy, you and me, this is the third round, the daughter said, I will let you see, what is the price of my being with you, you only think about yourself, you put a more than one year old Throwing the child to the neighbor, going on a beach vacation, you kill your lover, you don't think about how I lived my life when I was twelve, you ruined my foster care, the one who made me feel loved, just because you thought I was close to her , you are jealous, you lied to me for my perjury, your world has only your own interests.

In the end, he didn't let his daughter appear in court. Maybe the high-IQ mother thought that her daughter's appearance in court might also make him embarrassed. She didn't gamble on this risk, so she looked at her daughter like that, and her daughter said, she let me go, this Letting go may be passive, and mother can no longer control her.

The image of her daughter changes from gentle and dependent to independent and strong. The color of the film changes from a dreamy blue to black. I am afraid that outsiders cannot understand how much pain she has suffered.

Several foster families of her daughter, the first family, their children will choose to run away from home, the mother is kind and self-naive, in fact, she can't see the existence of the child, the actor's family, there is love, but she is vulnerable and dependent, the third This family is chosen by the daughter herself. DEAL is the law of survival for this family.

At the end of the film, the daughter said, I love my mother, but I must not stay by his side. He is the white oleander, beautiful and proud. Smart and powerful, but he's aggressive, always at war, and she's poisonous.

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White Oleander quotes

  • Astrid: You look at me, and you don't like what you see. But this is the price, Mother - the price of belonging to you.

  • Ingrid: I made you. I'm in your blood. You don't go anywhere until I let you go

    Astrid: Then let me go