The film opens with a jarring farewell between Jesse and his ex-wife's son Henry. As a father, Jesse missed most of his son's upbringing, felt extremely apologetic, and showed love everywhere. The son, on the other hand, naturally felt that he didn't need his father, accepted it with estrangedness, and left without looking back. Fortunately, this sadness quickly turned to driving home with Celine and a pair of angelic twins, Lolita. They are still together at last. It's not a reunion after a long absence, it's a family. They discussed some household chores in the car, and like all parents in the world, they played their children like monkeys, and recalled that their own parents were like that. Although the content is incomparable to the literary and artistic discussions of life and love in the first two films, it is obviously the warmth of a family, not just the spark of two people.
Of course, these two are still soulmates, and the advanced communication of soulmates is essential, and this time an enlarged meeting was held. In a small village on a cliff in southern Greece, on the dinner table facing the sea, there are young people, peers, old people, and the intersection of several ideas rich in life interest or life experience, it will only be more exciting. Jesse proposed a new novel idea (because it is very interesting, so I will write it down here, a person who is familiar with everything, a person who has no memory of any communication object, a person who never forgets anyone, A man who sees anything and thinks of what it looked like the day it was destroyed, and a man who only remembers certain episodes in his life, a story of a group of people lost in time by perception), the young man tells of them at sunrise The two ends of the Greek amphitheater at the time of the amazing experience of soft confession but unparalleled clarity, amateur anthropologists talk about future love and sexuality, how men and women wake up in car accident coma and care about different things, Celine plays the role of big breasts The part where the brainless girl seduces Jesse is amazing.
So, even though a lot of people were heartbroken over their later quarrel and felt that there was no way out of any marriage, I was optimistic, after all, they were both interesting people and they were each other's best choice. They even quarreled so eloquently that I couldn't even feel the sorrow in them for a while. People are different individuals, and there will inevitably be conflicts in a long-term life together. This is not necessarily from each other, but more from firewood, rice, oil, salt, children's work, and trivial life. As Celine said, I now only have time to think when I poop in the office, so much so that I associate thinking with the smell of shit. In this sense, no matter whether the other party is a good person or a bad person, marriage and life are insoluble. There are many such films, such as "Revolutionary Road", but that is not the focus of this film.
So should we give up life? We have no such option. I often feel like this all of a sudden in my heart, is this my life? It's happening like this, and it's right now, it can't be postponed, it can't be prolonged. Like sunrise and sunset, we appear, we disappear, we and some people are very important to each other, but we are just passing by. We have no choice but to accept this fact. The point is, what we really have to accept is life itself, and a lover is someone who accompanies us through this time. A lover can choose, but there is no perfect one. We need to accept his (her) strengths and weaknesses as a whole, instead of trying to change the other person, let alone blaming the negative experience of life on the other side. This is love, not perfect, but very real. To solve the seemingly unsolvable life and marriage, what we really need to love is not only our lover, but also life itself.
Realizing this is not easy. On the contrary, people who know that their time is short are more likely to perceive. This is why some terminally ill patients and the elderly can be so calm, because relative to their remaining lifespan, the money is enough to spend, and there is no need to calculate the future, and this handful of remaining time allows them to quickly understand the meaning of enjoying life . The progress of human society is so disturbingly rapid that every generation feels like it will be the one on the brink of doomsday. In fact, every generation has lived well, precisely because the wisdom of these lives has not changed. Just like after the two had a big fight, Jesse could still pretend to be a stranger and go to strike up a conversation with a non-existent love letter, just like when they first met 18 years ago, they pretended to call a friend to tell each other their hearts. , try to make each other laugh. He understands that the problem is life, not the person in front of him; he also understands that life is also an endless source, which needs to be continuously excavated, and the person in front of him is also the most important part of this endless source.
I am also grateful for this film, which allows me to understand this truth without having a terminal illness or dying, and gives me the motivation to live a calm and peaceful life.
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