I guess, if there is no similar experience, the process of watching the movie must be depressing and inexplicable.
Therefore, "cruel" as a key word appears repeatedly in many film reviews - but if you put yourself in the shoes, if you can solemnly endure the prelude of death by the side of your loved one in the name of love, it is not cruel, it is just a face To the inevitability and contingency of life, sing an elegy.
After all, don't be in a hurry to shower others with sympathy. There are not a few patients who are similar to those in the movie, and how many people can have the same "old age" as in the movie. Jacques Brel sang, "vingt ans d'amour c'est l'amour fol", twenty years of winter and summer, such a crazy long-term love. In the movie, the first time her daughter made it out (the corners of Huppert's unruly mouth became more and more heavy, but the space to play in this play was slightly smaller), she still remembered when she was a child, "I often heard the sound of you making love...", put George The feelings with the heroine Anna are lightly tapped.
When Anna lost her mind for the first time and didn't respond to George, George instinctively stretched out his hand and held up his wife's face - that is, the cover of the movie, and deliberately separated the two from a reverse perspective (a metaphor of life and death?) . George's French accent is very gentle, and his subconscious hand gestures, like caressing, are a slight temptation, but he almost covers his ears and refuses to listen to the sentence.
The physical touch is wonderful. When you are old, your hair is gray, and the passion that once burned your body is no longer there, will you subconsciously hold the other party's old cheek and stare at the eyes that made the promise? ——In the movie, even though Anna's condition is getting worse, the scene where they live together, which is so trivial that many viewers complain, is the detail that moved me the most.
When Anna was in pain, George would clasp her only conscious left hand and gently stroke the back of her hand like a cat's back. Every day in his daily life, George carefully hugs Anna again and again, lifts his back, and holds up his legs, so that he can get up, get off the ground, get into a wheelchair, and go to the bathroom. Especially when doing pronunciation exercises, George hummed a little tune that was almost a nursery rhyme, "On the bridge, on the bridge of Avignon, we danced, danced round and round...", George said, and Anna followed one intermittently. The words, George repeated one sentence, their eyes crossed, and the two repeated tirelessly like stepping on a dance.
c'est deja un fol amour, je me suis dit.
I remember that on the winter night of 2013, I was woken up by a phone call in my dormitory, and my mother asked me to take a taxi to the hospital. My father suffered a stroke without any warning. He was in a coma until I arrived and when I called him, he suddenly opened his eyes.
Afterwards, similar to the movie, the father was also half paralyzed. And how different from the movie, I am well aware of the relationship between my parents, and I also know the relationship between myself and my father - separated
by the language barrier of the deep forest.
The wonderful thing about touch is that you can't fool yourself. Holding my father's hand, the clear sense of strangeness made me realize how many years we have not communicated, nor have we touched the life beneath the surface. I felt unfamiliar, even embarrassed, even shouting "Dad" felt embarrassed, and I was extremely ashamed because of this embarrassment, and I couldn't face my father's eyes because of shame.
My mother told me later that I wanted to get a divorce after you entered college. But now that idea no longer exists.
There was a long recovery period after that, because when my father got sick, he was younger than Anna in the movie. Disconnected nerve nodes can be slowly rebuilt. Illness is like a philosophical question that separates the mind and the body sharply and painfully. My father said that the first thought after waking up was that my body was so heavy, and something was pressing against him—later I realized that it was the unconscious half of my body that was numbing my conscious legs.
I clearly remember a few months later, on the night I came home from the hospital, I saw a lunar eclipse in Beijing—the first time in my life. The blood-colored moon shadow was half-lit in the night sky, and everything was silent in the vast space that was familiar. If it were Haruki Murakami's novel, I should have seen a well, heard the neighing of horses thousands of miles away, and discovered the water source in the dry well. But no, I was in the dark city well, but there was no sound of water. I don't know what the prophecy conveyed when the moonlight reappeared. Because for a long time since then, perhaps until now, we are only in the ordinary ups and downs of life, not the end of the novel after unexpectedly turning around and defeating the villain through struggle.
Just know that disease is a sudden, common thing. What is unusual is that in this movie called "Love", they endure all the love forbearance. Love each other until they grow old, and let each other free before dying, who said that the plot is cruel?
Therefore, sometimes when I read about emotional cases on the Internet -- after all, they are the hot spots of everyone's attention -- people always ask, this is fine, that is fine, choose family background or appearance? Or just yesterday, a boy from Iran told me after he failed in his confession that he liked "easy" love affairs, but didn't like "drama" in marriage. The two of them have their own intentions, so they can be happy, and if they don't, they will leave. The ex-girlfriend still maintains a friendly exchange.
—— After listening to it, you will think that the sudden heavyness in life may not be your choice. Why don't you ask yourself, if you think the person you love suddenly has a stroke and is paralyzed, will you stretch out your hand and hug the person you love without hesitation just like George in the movie?
On ne se plaisante pas dans l'amour.
George's final choice. His wife deteriorated step by step, and she was left in a room that was as stagnant as an oil painting. George kept her for so long, like taking care of a wounded pigeon, enduring everything while reminiscing. But in the end, he let the dove fly out of the window, and also set Anna's soul free, and then went to the unknown world outside the well.
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