And Dr. Foster presented another possibility. It took less than 10 months from the time the heroine discovered that there was a hair on the clothes to the completion of the distribution of property and custody of her son (inferred from the size of Kate's stomach in the final appearance). And the whole gathering was filmed like a suspense drama.
For so many years, about cheating, even if you haven't experienced it yourself, you will see people around you happening. For example, when I was having dinner with friends recently, I saw a married man with 2 children with a girl. The girl should have no idea about the man, and everyone present did not mention a word and deliberately avoided it, even if The girl and we have become friends, and no one will take the initiative to mention this truth, otherwise, they will be blocked in the circle of friends for meddling, which has become the default rule of social interaction. At this time, I felt that I was just like the assistant Anna or the accountant couple in the plot. Other people's derailment is someone else's business, so what should I do with me. Even if they find out that their best friend's other half is cheating, many people will choose to warn the discovered person rather than immediately notify the friend. When the last person in it found out that I was the last person to know, that feeling of being deceived also came from friendship.
How do the parties define betrayal? Gemma, in the second episode, has an accurate definition of betrayal, "When we got married, we said that we might like someone else, So the lie will be the bigger problem, if you have someone else and don't tell it I, That will be the real BETRYAL". And the male protagonist also answered WHY in the last episode, "Because we are all ANIMALS, sometimes we cannot control our biology". Many people will say that the male protagonist is a scumbag and call himself an animal. The female protagonist is not very animal. This step-by-step design finally makes the male protagonist leave penniless, just as the male protagonist described to others a long time ago. , Shi is Fierce Fierce.
Where is the horror of betrayal? It's not that this person has sex with others behind your back. At the beginning, when GEMMA knew that the extramarital affair was only three months, they thought that they were really just a short-lived relationship, but then they knew that it had lasted for 2 years, and saw her husband coaxing another woman in the garden through the glass to be happy. The photo of traveling with another woman led to the idea of suicide. The person who kisses others like this is also the person who kisses himself every morning before going out, the person who loudly says that he loves himself at the birthday party, and the lover who carefully hides the card under the tablecloth on the anniversary. Think back to every detail of the other person loving you, and thinking about the details of the other person being with another person. If sexual betrayal is understandable for biological reasons, what about love? It is precisely because the male protagonist shows that he loves the female protagonist wholeheartedly, so the female protagonist manages all her property to the male protagonist and invests in his bad projects. It is precisely because the male protagonist shows that I don't love my wife anymore, and I love you, that Xiaosan is willing to not kill the child and continue to be with the male protagonist. It's like a blind player playing Texas, someone tells you that your hand is a straight flush, so you're ALL IN, and in the end you realize that your hand is actually not big enough. Yes, not big enough to be nothing. This is more in line with reality. There are no downright evil people in life, with most of the goodness and a small part of the evil.
Why use deception in exchange for each other's love? because of greed. Have sex with another people is human's physical instinct, while greed is human's spiritual instinct. What is greed is to use false appearances to obtain things that should be beyond one's ability. The male protagonist also said that he loves both, but in fact he also lost himself. It is impossible for a person to love two people at the same time. When a person has been with A all the time, and then falls in love with B, it means that B has more attractiveness to him than A, and the person he loves has changed, it is B. For A it's just habit. Human greed lies in this, do not want to lose what they already have, but also want to gain new resources. Not only with feelings, but with many other things as well. Greed is what leads to betrayal.
Is there a solution to greed? Yes. The answer to greed is honesty. The risk of being honest, however, is huge, and the risk of losing everything. If the person is someone who can afford to lose, then he will not be greedy. Here, Ta does not distinguish between men and women, men have men's greed, women have women's.
No matter if you take the initiative to be honest or open it passively, at that moment, should you forgive. This question deeply troubles everyone who has experienced this kind of thing. This seems to be a YES or No question, but it involves many details at the operational level. Forgive me, then the old things don't mention the continuation of life, but can we still trust as always? If you don’t forgive, then cut off the old love and start again. Does everyone financially have this condition to leave, or who can guarantee that the same problem will not happen again when meeting a new person? There is no solution to this problem. When the greedy thoughts appear in the mind, when the act of betrayal occurs, the Pandora's Box is opened. Whether the other party knows it or not, this problem begins to have no solution. Like Gemma, I can get my finances and children back, and continue to live independently. If I don’t have a job, I can only forgive and take revenge on the surface like my accountant’s wife. However, there is still no solution. Whether the betrayer or the deceived, at that moment, for the former Promise, they are all losers.
The humanity God created for us and the actual situation created by the existing social system are eternal contradictions. The social system makes us need marriage to ensure the upbringing of our children, and human beings are biologically animalistic and spiritually greedy and cannot have a lifetime of loyalty to love. The social system can constrain our economic life, but it cannot constrain human instinct. In a more extended sense, derailment is a microscopic manifestation of human nature, and war is a macroscopic manifestation of human nature, both of which stem from the plundering instinct of resources.
So people are fighting with their own humanity in their whole life. After reading the whole picture, I didn't give me a good answer. There is only one conclusion. Don't be like the male protagonist. You can only live by eating soft food and stay financially independent forever. At least when the card of human nature gives you a devil's smile, Grandpa Mao on the RMB Will smile at you too.
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