I was hooked when the girl came out of the kitchen, not only because she was cute, but because... well, just because she was so cute. (As Shakespeare said in Romeo and Julie: The woman is with the ear love, but man if can have love, actually is comes the love with the eye.)
Unfortunately, I have quite the weakness with the male lead. Always want a perfect girl, pretty enough, like me just because I am me, not other factors, but I have too many shortcomings and don't want to change, even some shortcomings are not considered shortcomings. The reality is that you can't even have a normal relationship, there will always be some reasons, or you are too cowardly to pursue it, or you think it's impossible and don't want to try, or you think you don't have money, you don't want to bear the pressure of a mortgage, or you don't want to pursue your dreams. For the sake of time, I can always find such an excuse to avoid facing the situation of "pursuit".
The current reality is that I want to share my experiences and feelings with the people around me, but no one understands or understands. Then, just like this, with a bang, I suddenly have a relationship like this, okay, I believe that I can still face a normal relationship, I just lack the courage to pursue it. If there is such a girl, then when I read a good book or a good movie, I want to share it, I want to watch it with someone, or I want to find something to experience together. These ideas can finally take shape. I can finally express some details or humor that may not be noticed by others, and I am no longer suffocated by a giggle and moved (for example, Angel gave Buffy a book in Buffy, it is Sonnets from the Portuguese, I can feel it immediately To Angel's heart, because I have recited two of them, very beautiful, very beautiful love poems, and I also know the love story of the author Elizabeth Browning and his husband Robert Browning, and I feel the mood of Angel sending this book more deeply. I don't understand this book so well than Buffy, and I feel that they are judged at a high level; for example, Fitzgerald and JD Salinger in this movie have some allusions to their works, which have not been read or known. These details may be overlooked), or when I learn poetry and musical instruments by myself, I can finally have someone become the carrier of my feelings, move forward together to face difficulties together, and no longer can only be bored alone.
(If it is the girl I wrote, it may have a completely different knowledge background from the heroine. However, it is quite possible that I don’t understand a lot of things like this, and it is as pure as white paper, so that I can just fool around and look like Knowing myself haha) When I
first confirmed that she really existed, it wasn't my brain that had gone wrong, it was such a surprise. Finally not alone.
But things are not so simple, the other party is also an independent existence. After experiencing the initial hormonal burst and playing together crazy together, you also need to start to face the real life. No matter how beautiful it is, it will not be so obvious after looking at it for a long time. No matter how you can share happiness, there may be contradictions. After all, fantasy is always fantasy, and as Ruby said, it's like becoming a person, and everyone needs their own space. (Everyone also has their own life, one person does not live for another person)
And space will cause estrangement, people who cannot really understand and trust each other, and the estrangement will become bigger and bigger.
Well, what if we could stay together for a moment? There will also be conflicts in this way. After all, there are some things that two people cannot do together. One person's mind can't always be on another person. There are so many people and things in the world. It's impossible to only care about one person and it will become too narrow. Such a person would be unbearable to anyone, even someone with a strong desire to control.
Well, back to being a normal girl, and when she was seduced by a porno at a party without knowing it, almost at the time, I felt the same way as Calvin, if it were me, I would be pissed off, hope she's okay Deal, behave herself, but this desire for control will also bring the relationship down to freezing point.
You can never get a perfect girl, because you yourself are changing at any time, no one can keep up with your changing rhythm, if there is, it is only yourself. That's why it is said that Calvin loves his own projection. me too.
Although it is sci-fi, the reality is seen everywhere, and it doesn't matter whether you can rewrite each other. Just like Calvin's brother's family, although his wife has left, he may leave again, but this is a normal problem that may arise between two people. If you just ask the other party to cooperate with you to change, then the result will only be sadness.
There are only four parts in which Ruby can be considered to have a separate personality:
the initial dream, the conversation between the two (a relationship can start);
the time between the initial appearance and the first change (after the initial development , there was a crisis, but Calvin didn't try to fix it, but simply wanted to change the other person);
after Calvin played "Ruby was just Ruby" (there was another quarrel, and once again, he did not choose to resolve the crisis but broke out with a strong sense of revenge because of love) ;
On the lawn at the end, the conversation between the two (after so much between them, Calvin finally knows how to deal with a relationship, which means that a relationship can start normally).
I've always understood, but I've always refused to believe it. I always want to have someone who can "match" me, but forget that the only person who can "match" is my own ever-changing inner projection. In the face of emotional ups and downs, there is no girl who is always pleasing to your heart. You can't just let the other party change. You can only choose to be patient and run in again, or separate.
I always hope that the girl I once liked will appear in front of me again, so that I can be reckless and no longer hesitate, or there is a girl who is willing to approach me recklessly. But in fact, even so, there are still thousands of questions waiting for me. I have to get out of this paradox. In fact, I already understood it, but I only woke up after the film threw reality into my face.
There is no Dream Girl in the world, just like, I can't be anyone's Dream Boy.
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