Part 1: Story Background
Pool Adventure: The story begins with the couple receiving treatment from a psychotherapist. The two sides recalled the whole process of knowing each other and falling in love, to the initial feeling that they could never find it again. It describes two “adventures” in the swimming pool, and the comparison is as follows: the former happened at the beginning of the two parties’ understanding, when the purpose of the two parties was to enhance their relationship through intimate contact at night, maybe both parties took swimming as an opportunity to make the intention of love. Neighborhood owners were present at the time and they were evicted against their will at the time. Although this led to the failure of the original intentions of both parties, the unexpected stimulus also had a positive effect of improving the relationship. The latter happened after the couple got married, but the purpose was to relive the exciting scene of being expelled by the neighbors, not to make love, but the neighbors did not go against their original intentions again, but this time it had a negative effect. They are soberly aware that they can't go back to the heartless and happy past that they used to be. Thinking about it the other way around, if the second occurrence was exactly the same as the first, i.e. the neighbors were present to evict them, would they still get the same positive effect as the first? I have a negative opinion on that. Because the first event is unexpected, it is a surprise, and the second event is expected, even if it is joy, it cannot be called a surprise, and the degree is different. So the man said that he wanted to recreate that moment by revisiting it, which was unrealistic. Revisiting could only be repeat, and repeat would not produce a surprise effect.
Compatibility test: Compatibility test for playing the piano (I tend to translate it into "tacit understanding test" or "harmony test"), the test results show that they have reached the level of no tacit understanding. This plot is very important, it is the introduction of the whole film, and it is also the theme of the whole film. It is manifested in two aspects: 1. The conspiracy in the villa area is the compatibility test. 2. This test result paved the way for the repeated conflicts between husband and wife.
The first conflict erupted: After the test, a conflict broke out between the two immediately. The man thinks that he doesn't know why the other party keeps holding on to his past wrongdoings, because he thinks he has already apologized, and since he has apologized, the days should be moved forward, but the woman said, are these things over? ( i.e. I didn't forgive you) the decision is up to her. The reason why the woman does not forgive is that the man's apology is not strong enough, and the apology does not speak to the woman's heart, and does not have a spiritual resonance with the woman (that is, out of tune, no tacit understanding), ( If a real man wants to deal with this kind of woman, he just needs to go back and watch more idol dramas) So the woman never forgives him. The scene where the woman competes for the right to decide reflects the strength of the woman's character.
Sex topic: At this time, the psychotherapist asked them a question: "So, you guys having sex?" The two sides were silent, indicating that they had not had sex for a long time. It's not that the man doesn't want to do it with the woman, it's that the woman doesn't want to. The plot where they don't have sex is also very important later on. The premise of the woman making love is that the two sides need to be in harmony in spirit, and then there will be a physical union. There is no problem with this. The problem is that on the issue of spiritual harmony, the woman always asks the man to accommodate herself, and she never considers the man's feelings equally, and the man's unlimited accommodation is also a big problem, which will be repeated in the back.
Piano training correction: Next, the psychotherapist performs piano training correction on the heroine and tells her which two keys should be played to be more harmonious. Why do psychotherapists only correct women, not men. Explain that the psychotherapist judged that the fault lies with the woman, not the man, based on the previous treatment of the husband and wife. If the psychotherapist thinks the man is at fault, he should correct the man's piano keys. The psychotherapist's point of view represents the director's point of view. Of course, the director's point of view may not necessarily represent the correct point of view. He only reflects the director's tendency. The director himself has a tendency, and this tendency is also reflected in his setting of the ending.
Reset: In the end, the therapist gave both parties a manual to go to the weekend, he said give you a chance to reset the reset bottom. It implies giving both parties a chance to start over.
Who is more proactive: I think men are more proactive than women when it comes to saving emotional crises. Although the woman verbally said that she hoped to save her relationship and hoped to trust her husband again, but she did not take the initiative to save her relationship in action. Of course, she didn't think so. The main manifestations are: 1. When the therapist dangled the manual between them, the man took the manual and the woman did not. 2. After the therapist introduced the resort, he asked "What do you think?" The man took the initiative to say "I mean, I'll try anything." The woman was expressionless and did not respond. When the therapist went to ask the woman for advice, the woman still did not speak, indicating that she was very negative. This also confirms the therapist's previous judgment (piano correction), he believes that if the woman really wants to save her relationship, the woman should cooperate more with the man. Therefore, women say better than they do, and men do more and don't say anything.
View more about The One I Love reviews
