The original text is contained in [Psychological WeChat] Youxinren reprinted please indicate the source from the WeChat account "Youxinren" yosumn Please believe that we took notes and checked the information very seriously while watching the drama! It's not just to watch the famous brand pajamas show of Yan and Jun Ji-hyun! Yesterday was the finale of "You Who Came From the Stars", I couldn't help but shout Du Minjun xi, Saleng hey yo (I love you so much) ~ Maybe many compatriots can't understand, why a TV series can be so fascinated There are many female fans, so everyone is almost shouting "If you marry a person, you will marry a beast". According to the crew, the subject of Professor Do Minjun played by Kim Soo-hyun in the play is the content that appears in the actual psychology education and teaching. It's just that the content of the textbook "Positive Psychology" used in the play is a little more difficult for undergraduates, and it is used by professional undergraduates and graduate students. (Professor Kim Hyo-chang, lecture notes of Incheon University's "Understanding Psychology") Do Mengmon is a senior anthropologist and psychologist who studies Earthlings (the investigation site is mainly in the southern part of the Korean Peninsula in the Eurasian continent. ), through 400 years of observation and research, he has a simple and simple analysis of human race reproduction, courtship skills and other issues. In the end, he even adopted the method of "participatory research" and had an intimate relationship with an earth woman. Please follow us Together, let's replay the love story between the little prince and the most beautiful two people on earth, and discuss how the otaku and otaku can find their other half through systematically learning psychological knowledge. Sexual Instinct that Can't Be Escaped Episode 2 40:25- 41: 24 In the first lesson for Qian Songyi, Dubiao told the story of the blowfly's "liar". "In the world of blowflies, during mating, the female will swallow the male. Although the male wants to mate, he does not want to be eaten by the female. This is also an inescapable sexual instinct at work. So, the strategy adopted by the male, It is to give a piece of prey as a gift. If the female is hungry during the mating process, she will eat the meat brought by the male, and the male can mate safely. However, the more evolved male will tie the insect to the On a branch, it takes longer to untie the tie. Because the evil male knows it works, he will wrap a thick shell on the outside, but there is nothing inside, even if the female knows she has been deceived, But its usefulness is declared over." Let us try to translate it in the language of evolutionary psychology: Surviving and having babies are necessary conditions for the survival of any species. But men and women employ very different reproductive strategies. Women take a long-term investment strategy: because women's ovulation period is limited, and both the gestation period in the womb and the infancy of the offspring are notoriously long in the biological world. Therefore, from the perspective of venture capital, women are more inclined to buy long-term stocks, that is, after having sex with a man, they will hope that the rest of his life will be handed over to himself and the next generation, and I will eat you. But the strategy adopted by men is very different. If they want to pass on their genes, they will prefer a short-term investment strategy: cast a wide net, harvest more, and do not want to be eaten by women in the first place. So evil men have evolved many killer tricks to lure women with XXOO: sweet words (I only love you one in the world), empty promises (I will love you forever), pressing step by step (I will marry you) , let's XXOO!) ... even if a woman knows after the fact that she has been deceived, its usefulness is over. Of course, although not all males adopt this playboy reproduction mode, the various tricks that have evolved in human society driven by sexual instincts are also endless, and it is worth learning from intelligent species on other planets. The monkey love experiment Episode 9 00:00-2: 00 "The famous psychologist Harry Harlow once conducted an experiment in which young orangutans whose genes were 95% similar to humans were taken away from their mothers and locked in a room with two monkey dolls. In the room. One doll was wrapped with barbed wire and hung with a feeding bottle, and the other was wrapped only with soft cloth strips. Before the experiment, the researchers also thought that the baby orangutan would prefer the doll with the baby bottle hanging, but in fact, the baby orangutan Strong attachment to the doll wrapped in soft cloth. This event proves the importance of close contact." Harlow's monkey experiment may be very famous in the history of psychology, but it also became famous for its cruelty to animals and methods. The most talked about research. Harlow's research is on love, and he learns about primate attachment patterns by observing monkey behavior. In the experiment that Du Minjunxi told the students, Harlow made two fake mothers for the "drifting monkey" who lost her mother: a soft and no milk mother, and an ice cold but milk nurse. The expectation of the experiment was that the monkeys would prefer No. 2 with milk. But the result was unexpected. Harlow and the others found that except when they were hungry, they would go to the wet nurse. At the rest of the time, the monkeys were sticking to the useless cloth mother. It is found that close physical contact is very important for the development of children. In addition, this series of "Where Are We Going Mom" experiments also provides a scientific basis for the plot of Korean dramas. Every cute baby wants to be with his mother. Harlow once designed a "bad mother" for cute monkeys that can discharge electricity: as soon as the little monkey touches "her", he will be electrocuted, causing the little monkey to be bruised and bruised all over. According to the law of conditioned reflex, the little monkey should have left its cruel mother, but even though the little monkey knew that there was a sea of swords and flames in front of him, he still couldn't help hugging her. So even when we know we're going to get hurt, we're still going to be close to the people we depend on the most. I think this is why Do Minjunxi is so paralyzed, how he looks like a dick who refuses people thousands of miles away, there are still a dozen people who beat people like 2000 people, suffering from "Beast Dependence"... Next The famous Qian Songyi's 15-second eye test experiment hypothesis: If after 15 seconds of looking at each other, you are still my porcelain kitten and puppy, I will prove that I am not attractive. test subject: 1 alien, male gender, no history of kissing Experiment results: The aliens take the initiative to risk their lives and ask for the eye attack of the whole goddess to be so effective? As early as 1973, psychologists in the United States conducted a series of laboratory studies, recruiting men and women who had never met before, asking them to look at each other for a period of time, and then evaluating their favorability for each other. More than 500 pairs of men and women who do not call confirmed that "eyes kill male gods in seconds" does have a certain truth. Men and women who have been flirting with each other for a longer period of time can feel the charm of each other more. However, the premise of this trick is that the person receiving the love waves thinks that you are not bad. If Qian Songyi looks like this, I think maybe what you want to prepare is not a heart-pounding kiss, but an XXL vomit bag. Professor Du of Hormone Obscuration said: When kissing, the heart rate will increase to twice the usual rate, the average breathing will also increase to more than 20 times, and the blood pressure will increase instantly. Therefore, panic, shortness of breath, and dizziness will also occur. It's easy to mistake yourself for falling in love, but it's all just a joke with you. Rapid heartbeat, difficulty breathing, and elevated blood pressure are signs of sympathetic activation. Doing strenuous exercise, being chased, seeing aliens or doing strenuous piston exercise and various preparations before the piston exercise, including holding hands, hugging, kissing... These things can arouse your sympathetic nerves . Recall that Duyuemon, who has been studying human behavior for 400 years, basically experienced it once with the earthman Qian Songyi three months before leaving the earth. So Twenty Thousand, who had little reading, attributed everything he had experienced with this man to love. Perfectly fell into the love trap that Professor Du calls "hormone deception". For the otaku who is mechanically bored and will not engage in romance, it is also an attempt to bring your favorite girls to experience some thrilling and heart-pounding things. However, there is no public opinion in the academic world as to whether it is really exciting to have love. For example, many years ago, there was a famous suspension bridge experiment in psychology. Men who have been tricked into taking part in experiments in order to earn some pocket money are asked to walk across a crumbling suspension bridge, and a strange woman is waiting for you on the opposite side of the suspension bridge. The study found that walking across this heart-pounding bridge made boys more likely to be attracted to girls. So psychologists put forward the theory that "the love you thought came, but you made a hyperlink between your heartbeat and this girl". But later, many people questioned this statement. Whether it is true that doing so will make people excited, it is a law of uncertainty. So, even though all the beasts say so, in fact, he himself can't figure out whether it's the hormones that confused you, or whether it's really love around the corner. The five stages of lovelorn sequelae (five stages of grief response) 13 episodes 33:00-35:50 and 21 episodes of many professors said: According to the theory put forward by American psychologist Kubler Ross: Deprived of the sense of dependence Humans, before confronting reality, go through five emotional stages: Stage 1: Anger Stage 2: Denial of reality Stage 3: Compromise Stage 4: Melancholy Stage 5: Acceptance of reality of grief and pain, and go through different stages. There are certain differences between men and women. In order to create a better self, women focus on self-development; while men will show a self-sabotaging side, or feel more painful than women because of the unbearable sense of loss. Because of the needs of the plot (the professor has disappeared), the professor can’t follow in detail. Everyone explains. After we checked the literature, we found that the five steps of lovelorn mentioned by Professor Du were actually described by Dr. elisabeth kubler-ross in her book "On Death and Dying" published in 1969. People who experience the loss of a significant other experience the five stages of the grief response, to be precise. The specific stage naming is also different from what the professor said. Of course, lovelorn is also a loss of intimacy, especially for Professor Erqianhe Du, this is their first love! So it also falls into the category of grief reactions. In the finale broadcast the day before yesterday, the scene of making a wish on the balcony meteor (11: 00), after Do Minjun xi suddenly disappeared, Erqian's performance is a typical five-stage grief reaction. The following is explained in stages: Stage 1: Denial and isolation (Denial and isolation) 12:10 When 211 turned his head to see the professor, he continued to say: "Have you not left yet? Haven't left yet? Why didn't you wait? After I said that, you left? Come out! Come out! Please! Please!" Apparently, she was denying the fact that the professor had left, and immediately after that, Twenty Thousand entered the isolation. The state is now: ran to the professor's house, didn't want to go home, didn't see anyone and didn't eat for several days, and kept checking what belonged to the professor; the second stage of anger (Anger) and the third stage of bargaining (Bargin) II Qian Zai quickly transitioned from the second stage to the third stage in the play, perhaps because the professor had previously announced that he was going to leave, and he was angry many times when he said it. The duration and magnitude of the anger phase will decrease. The anger phase is much longer and more intense than a prepared loss, a sudden loss without warning. Erqian's anger was more inward. At 24:00, she began to blame herself for not working hard enough as a professor: "What I can't bear now is that I realize it too late." When faced with irresistible events such as life and death, people will enter the stage of negotiating with heaven (supernatural being), 2000 is dissatisfied with himself and feels that he can do more, the implied meaning is: if I do Better yet, the result may be different. Enlightenment, it doesn't matter much, as the audience knows, the 404-year deadline has long been set, and it is an irresistible factor. When we watch the drama, we look forward to the appearance of miracles, that is, we are bargaining with God. I don’t know if you silently say something to God in your heart: “Lord~ If the professor doesn’t die, I’m willing not to shop online next month”? The fourth stage of depression (depression) After going through the stage of negotiating with God and getting nothing, it will enter the fourth stage: depression (depression). After Erqian returned home with the short-haired sister at 32:00, she laughed and cried, which is a typical manifestation of depression, emotional instability, rapid transition between extreme happiness and sadness, laughing or crying inexplicably. What the parties need at this stage is to share their feelings with relevant people and get confirmation, just like 39 in the play: 00. After Er Qian and Lawyer Zhang talked about the sudden sight of the professor, Er Qian's mood was obviously much more stable. Suppressing the expression of emotions will only delay the process of grief, open your heart, express your true feelings naturally, and confirm with each other, so that loss will be accepted. The fifth stage of acceptance (acceptant) Acceptance does not represent happiness, but a state of peace. As Erqian chats with Shimei, she begins to accept her current pain, try to experience it, go back to where she has been with the professor, and allow herself to grieve fully, not to stop herself. Finally, many subsequent studies have found that the five stages of grief proposed by Dr. elisabeth kubler-ross are highly cross-cultural. And this process can only be allowed to transition naturally, and nothing can be done to accelerate it. If you have difficulty transitioning between stages, you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Let me add that some time before the professor left, did you notice that he started to ask people to take care of 2000? Please, Huijing Oppa, please, my brother Yuncai, and instruct them to take care of 2000. By the way, this is very important, and it is a very obvious sign for people who are expecting their own death, such as a terminal illness, or who have to leave for some reason and do not know when they will be back, or who are planning to kill themselves. If you find that someone around you starts to "confess what happened behind you", please pay more attention, your attention may save a life. PS: Sell a small advertisement. The author is a planner of psychological science popularization activities and a popular science author, a member of the Science Squirrel Club, and Youxinren is a WeChat public account for sharing psychological knowledge with several psychotherapists. Follow us and support us to write more professional and fun original psychological articles! WeChat public number search: Youxinren (yosumn) The five stages of grief proposed by elisabeth kubler-ross are highly cross-cultural. And this process can only be allowed to transition naturally, and nothing can be done to accelerate it. If you have difficulty transitioning between stages, you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Let me add that some time before the professor left, did you notice that he started to ask people to take care of 2000? Please, Huijing Oppa, please, my brother Yuncai, and instruct them to take care of 2000. By the way, this is very important, and it is a very obvious sign for people who are expecting their own death, such as a terminal illness, or who have to leave for some reason and do not know when they will be back, or who are planning to kill themselves. If you find that someone around you starts to "confess what happened behind you", please pay more attention, your attention may save a life. PS: Sell a small advertisement. The author is a planner of psychological science popularization activities and a popular science author, a member of the Science Squirrel Club, and Youxinren is a WeChat public account for sharing psychological knowledge with several psychotherapists. Follow us and support us to write more professional and fun original psychological articles! WeChat public number search: Youxinren (yosumn) The five stages of grief proposed by elisabeth kubler-ross are highly cross-cultural. And this process can only be allowed to transition naturally, and nothing can be done to accelerate it. If you have difficulty transitioning between stages, you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Let me add that some time before the professor left, did you notice that he started to ask people to take care of 2000? Please, Huijing Oppa, please, my brother Yuncai, and instruct them to take care of 2000. By the way, this is very important, and it is a very obvious sign for people who are expecting their own death, such as a terminal illness, or who have to leave for some reason and do not know when they will be back, or who are planning to kill themselves. If you find that someone around you starts to "confess what happened behind you", please pay more attention, your attention may save a life. PS: Sell a small advertisement. The author is a planner of psychological science popularization activities and a popular science author, a member of the Science Squirrel Club, and Youxinren is a WeChat public account for sharing psychological knowledge with several psychotherapists. Follow us and support us to write more professional and fun original psychological articles! WeChat public number search: Youxinren (yosumn)
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