Some people see dignity as air, some people don't

Jimmie 2022-03-24 09:02:04

When getting married, there will be a vow of "poverty and disease will never be abandoned". The starting point of vows is love. What if the partner you once loved has been swept away by poverty and disease, or washed away by the currents of life, and turned into another person you don't love? It's not beautiful, it's not gentle, it's annoying, and it tortures you day after day? A sense of responsibility without love is a burden on one side and humiliation on the other side. It's lucky to be in love until the end of your life. How nice to live like a plant.

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George and Anna are a couple who have been in love for half a century. They rubbed off on each other, respected and admired each other, and lived a peaceful life without lack of sparks. However, everything took a turn for the worse when Anna had a stroke. As a middle-class intellectual, Anna is a powerful and elegant woman. However, under the ravages of the disease, she could not take care of herself, and had to sit, dress, and go to the toilet with the help of her husband. She even wet the bed. After her illness, she is sensitive. She can endure the disability, but it is difficult to endure the sympathetic eyes of others and the loss of dignity. And George did his best to take care of his wife. He always dressed his wife carefully, held her hand to comfort her gently, read newspapers to her, talked to her and sang songs. That's because his love for her is a heart-to-heart love. He cares about his wife's feelings. He couldn't bear the caretaker's rough brushing of his wife's hair, and the sight of her old body being manipulated at will. He knew her so well that he did everything he could to protect her dignity.
He still remembered Anna sitting gracefully at the piano and playing. That was the Anna he loved. But the one she was lying on the bed, gradually lost her words and became more and more stubborn. This is her, is it still her? However, when she was tired and didn't want to live anymore, he still stubbornly kept her. Shrouded them, is the afterglow of love.
Let her die, when did this idea start?
He knew it was going to get worse. But he wanted her to live forever, as they had hoped, to be with her until her death. Rather than caring for Anna, it is better to say that she has become a part of him, how could he let her go? This old couple may have discussed the issue of birth, old age, sickness and death countless times, and they have also promised each other that they will accompany each other in life and death. But there is a gap between imagination and reality. Finally, he was about to lose his patience and slapped Anna in the face.
Maybe, at that time, he was scared. Afraid of not being able to catch the afterglow of that love. Afraid that one day he will also treat her as an unconscious patient and treat her coldly. I am afraid this moment will eventually come. That was more cruel than killing her.
This idea may have circled in his mind many times.
When one day he told her a story to appease her as usual, he thought of the unhappy summer camp, the postcard full of stars. "Draw stars if you want to leave". If you are not happy, just leave, even if you leave, you will enter another sad ending. When he left the summer camp, he developed a high fever and was forced to isolate for treatment. However, he also could not stand a life without dignity and happiness.
So, this story became the touchpoint of his actions. He lifted the pillow.
It is said that people's survival instinct is very strong, and dying people are very afraid of death. However, why do some people choose suicide so calmly? There are many people who can't understand this choice. They say, "If you dare to die, why don't you dare to live?" "It's good to live." when there is no dignity. Some people can't live by instinct, they know so clearly that they are alone. Is this fortunate or unfortunate?
Some people see dignity as air, others don't.
Therefore, some people feel that life is better than death when they have no dignity, and some people can give up anything as long as they can live. Some women begged their betrayed husbands, "As long as they can go home." While these women sacrificed everything to stick to the empty shell of the family, some women ran away from the doll's house as firmly as Nora.
Actually, nothing.
It's just that some people regard dignity as air, and some people don't.

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  • Fabiola 2022-03-31 09:01:03

    Love is two people keeping an island together. Struggling for one last bit of dignity in front of the death of a disease of old age and her daughter's caregiver neighbors.

  • Rebeka 2022-03-29 09:01:03

    Top-level photography and performances, unmarked scheduling, dramatic events cut to the past, minimalist beauty. Water music, flowers and pigeons, gentle imagery, flashback opening. But forgive me, I really have no sympathy for this kind of madhouse-style relief and a highly developed social system. Not long ago, two elderly people left me after a similar ordeal. How can I contain the pain? Even if a little bit of an ignorant individual from a suffering nation is not the taste. 12 Palms

Amour quotes

  • Anne: What would you say if no one came to your funeral?

    Georges: Nothing, presumably.

  • Georges: [telling a childhood memory] ... some banal romance or other about a nobleman and a lower middle-class girl who couldn't have each other and who then, out of sheer magnanimity, decide to renounce their love - in fact, I don't quite remember it any more. In any case, afterwards I was thoroughly distraught, and it took me a bit of time to calm down. In the courtyard of the house where grandma lived, there was a young guy at the window who asked me where I'd been. He was a couple of years older than me, a braggart who really impressed me. "To the movies," I said, because I was proud that my grandma had given me the money to go all alone to the cinema. "What did you see?" I started to tell him the story of the movie, and as I did, all the emotion came back. I didn't want to cry in front of the boy, but it was impossible; there I was, crying out loud in the courtyard, and I told him the whole drama to the bitter end.

    Anne: So? How did he react?

    Georges: No idea. He probably found it amusing. I don't remember. I don't remember the film either. But I remember the feeling. That I was ashamed of crying, but that telling him the story made all my feelings and tears come back, almost more powerfully than when I was actually watching the film, and that I just couldn't stop.