Sometimes I wonder, since when did love become so difficult, in other words, when did human beings begin to make relationships so complicated. I really want to know what love looks like in the early days of human beings, whether they are more loyal to their intuition, just grab the person they love, and duel with their rivals. Method. When human beings became civilized, their feelings began to become complicated. Even if they won a duel, they would still be punished by law instead of living a happy life with their loved ones. With more and more true and false love stories, the emotions between people are mixed with too many things. People treat love like a cake, with a knife in the east and a knife in the west. That piece is real. Whether love has only one unique standard, or will it change with people's subjective judgments, this question is too deep, beside the point, let's go back to this movie.
The reason why I want to write something about this film is because some of my views on feelings have been vividly expressed in this film. Because of the selfish nature of human beings, this species has been able to protect itself and reproduced so far, only with human beings. With the development of civilization, while people put on clothes to cover their shame, they also began to find some high-sounding reasons for their desires that can comfort themselves and others, conform to the current social morality. And love is probably a desire that has been given the most coats.
Maybe the movie chooses the angle of people with Down syndrome, probably because they have intellectual and functional impairments, but they can pursue emotional things more purely and directly. It needs love to fill it, that's why they hug each other tightly in a room full of normal children, which fits my view of love: true love is first and foremost an erotic instinct, and it has nothing to do with reason or anything. Unrelated, the deficits of people with Down syndrome at such times reflect the purity of emotion.
A mother's love for her child is a kind of nature that makes her give her all to take care of him, because she considers the child a part of herself, but this love has a strong possessiveness, not so much to let Anthony The reason for transferring to another school was that she was afraid of hurting him. It would be better to say that this was just an excuse for not wanting Rose to take her love away from her. Even she took this excuse as real, because she couldn't bear this in the name of love, but The fact that does not make Anthony happy, when the nature and the fact conflict, produces the pain of self-contradiction. This emotion is also projected on Anthony's ex-wife. The biggest thing these two women have in common is that Anthony is the most important person in their lives. They both want to have everything in him, but unfortunately they are not Anthony's twin flames. They The pain comes from not being able to satisfy their own desires, not from the happiness of their loved ones. When Ross and Anthony faced pressure from the outside world, the choice they made was to let go, not because they didn't love, but because they didn't want to make each other suffer. I think that the rationality of wanting to make the other party happy has overcome the possessiveness in the depths of human nature, which is probably why true love is so precious and scarce, and why Anthony and Rose are true love. At the end of the plot, Anthony's ex-wife learned the source of the pain and the solution from Anthony's mother. Just like when his mother cut the rope that bound him when he was a child, he cut the spiritual rope tied to Anthony and set him free. In the end, their love for Anthony overcame the pain of instinct and gained self-liberation.
Anthony's eldest daughter, her pain came from her mother's pain, not Anthony and Rose's love affair, so when the mother finally let go, the daughter was immediately relieved.
Desire itself is not scary, what is scary is in the name of love.
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