I feel like I have a strong say in this film because I have the same psychological growth as Kevin, but not as extreme as him.
Kevin's mother is the most critical role in the family. Whether she is a mother or a company employee, it is too far-fetched. What I mean by far-fetched is that her role in the society in life is too far-fetched. She's depressed, so she's too powerless to do whatever she's doing to give her all. Because of her personality, she is still depressed after she has Kevin. The new-born child is very sensitive, and he will need his mother's love very much. Unfortunately, the mother cannot devote all her attention to the child. She has to The energy was spent on the things she was melancholy, and Kevin was really smart and sensitive, and he felt that his mother didn't give him enough care. When he saw a mother like that, he felt that even his own mother didn't care about him anymore. He had no sense of security. He wanted to attract her mother's attention and to get her mother's care, so he always did some extreme things. Did his mother really care about him? In fact, the mother really cares, but that kind of care is too little for a child. The way to live in harmony with your child is to communicate with your heart, to be attentive. I want to ask Kevin's mother, what do you do all day? Why are you unhappy? (There is a section in the film that seems to explain: Mom and Dad met and fell in love at a carnival. At that time, Mom was still very happy, but because she met Dad, she left France and was depressed for a time).
Most of the films describe Kevin's bad, and there are very few good clips. One scene: Mom comes home and sees Kevin lying on the floor, thinks he's sick, and picks him up. Maybe when Kevin was sick, seeing that his mother really cared about him, he didn't try to be brave and said "I'm sorry" to his mother. I think that was what he looked like as a normal child at that time ( I think children can be changed, especially when they are young, as long as they are guided well, they will not become bad). But because the mother is always depressed, the child cannot get better. In fact, Kevin was a tough kid, with high self-esteem, independent, smart, and much better than his peers. Be strong - his mother broke him, he didn't speak, he didn't cry, he didn't make trouble, nurses in the hospital would say he was brave, when he got home he could lie to his father and say it was his fault, because the physical pain was far more The lack of love on the psychological side is much lighter. Self-esteem - I don't know if it counts as self-esteem, what he needs, he won't say. Some things feel squeamish to say, and feel wronged if they don't. There are moments of intimacy between mother and son, but Kevin, who is probably a little more macho, will not take the initiative to show his need for love. Independence - he can dress himself, he doesn't want to be like kids his age. Smart - practice one-handed archery skills. He is also very delicate, and he is very good at observing words and expressions (some people may say that this is outrageous). Because of these, he can grasp the part that makes his mother sad.
Dad is actually an optimistic and normal person, but he is too stupid. As a figure between a son and a mother, he didn't do a good job in this role, he didn't think about the reason for the problem, and he didn't care about the two of them. He was just an ordinary father. Because he is so stupid, he can only accompany his wife and children like a normal family. You know, his family is not normal. The actor who played Dad reminded me of an early movie called "The Girl in the Rye", in which the heroine's husband is. If you've seen this movie, you'll know how stupid that husband is (later 100, and it's the same guy, John Reilly). When my wife was pregnant with her second child, she didn't realize it, but Kevin said it. When the child finally becomes like that, the father also has a great responsibility (not also, it is the responsibility that a man must have). In the end, Kevin got rid of his father, not only because his father was stupid, but also because he did not understand the child and did not do a good job as a bridge between mother and son. In his heart, his father's love for him can't make up for the lack of love on his mother's side. In order to get the missing part, Kevin feels that he can kill!
I was wondering how Kevin's actor could act. Sabotage, swearing, making mom sad, and after the movie, really worried he'd feel guilty.
I think the reason why Kevin is like that, maybe he didn't find that his mother was depressed all the time, and the mother was also very pitiful and did not get his son's understanding. If Kevin found out his mother's heartache, he probably wouldn't have done so much. Kevin still loves his mother in his heart. There is a poster of him watching his mother on the street. But that kind of love is not easy to show. Because he loved his mother, he didn't kill her. He wanted to attract her mother's attention, but in the end he could only express his love in a hurtful way.
In this way, Kevin is like a child in a single-parent family, the mother's love is not enough, and the father's love is not on point. In the final episode, the lyrics are all about the child no one wants, because Kevin really feels that he is a child no one pays attention to, how desolate it would be.
At the end of the movie, the plot didn't turn around, and it was always describing Kevin's badness. Even in the last scene, Kevin had a conversation with his mother in prison. At the end, his mother reluctantly asked "why". Kevin hesitated for a long time and looked at his mother. , I thought Kevin was about to speak his heart. First, he perfunctory mother as usual, but he was ready to say it later. You know, that sentence is difficult to say, so hypocritical. When the atmosphere was just right, just as he was about to move his mouth, the prison guard suddenly said "it's time", and he only gave his mother a hug. (Why didn't the director let Kevin say it, tangled)
Some love, you won't understand if you don't say it. You think he will understand, but not everyone can understand it.
Regarding this movie, I think that people who can understand the heart of the characters will see how wonderful it is. I can't say how much I know about them, most of them are just subjective assumptions. But because Kevin grew up a lot like me, I can say that for sure. However, there must be places where the analysis is not in place, and I hope you will bear with me.
In the end, I was normal and didn't develop to Kevin's level. Because I have communicated with my family, understand each other, and tolerate each other.
To communicate is to understand, and to understand is to be inclusive.
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