With heart, I am facing the world.

Ebony 2022-03-23 09:02:11

I grew up seeing the world rather simple and considering life to be subject only to logic. Maybe it's because I was comparatively good at maths or physics, or chemistry, those subjects that require abilities to think logically. Of course, I struggled a little to solve those very difficult problems, but I refused to stop thinking about them and eventually they would be solved by myself or with a little help from others. This gave me the impression that life can always be figured out one way or another, just like another version of a math problem. Pretty nerdy, huh? I was exactly this nerdy.

Until, when I successfully passed the most important examination of any student's life, when every logical problem I needed to solve didn't matter that much, did I start to see life's other aspect, which has a lot to do with emotions, faith, relationships. I was at loss at the beginning and almost went through a rather traumatic period, kind of like what Conrad had experienced. With all things messy in life, I felt losing control.

This film shows a situation where people know something's wrong with their life but couldn't do anything about it or even locate what was wrong. The boy who blamed himself for surviving instead of his brother who his mother always favored answered repeatedly to the question " What is it?" in the film "I don't know." Life is just that complicated that we, when hurt or hurting others, can't always figure out the way around our pain and problems.

Some people, trying to heal , experiencing the acute frustration, others wanted to escape from their problems, with no success. But every one has to face a world and a life that appeal to our heart.

With logic, we confront the outer world; with heart, we face our inner world. Ever since I understood this, I am a changed person, no longer blithely proud of my good ability to think logically.

I like this film because it reminds me of how I began this change.

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Extended Reading
  • Hannah 2022-03-21 09:02:12

    Robert Redford handled the story in a restrained and repressive way, but instead made the dialogue between the father and son at the end extraordinarily moving. Although there is nothing particularly dramatic in the plot, some fragments of life seem very real, but the encounter of the male protagonist It's too "rich". After being continuously hit by fate, I can finally let go, and I can get out of anxiety and depression, and I can even see a glimmer of hope. This is a bit fake.

  • Marcelle 2022-03-25 09:01:10

    Although it is psychological healing, such a narrative angle allows people to judge and feel more objectively; a very good family ethics film, I have always thought that this is a very difficult genre to create, and Redford Virgo can control it so much ok, genius

Ordinary People quotes

  • Jeannine: Can you ever break the ball?

    Conrad "Con" Jarrett: You can't break the ball. Can't break the floor. Can't break anything in a bowling alley. And that's what I like about bowling alleys. Can't even break the record.

  • Beth Jarrett: Calvin? Why are you crying? Can I, uh... can I get you something?

    Calvin "Cal" Jarrett: I don't...

    Beth Jarrett: What did you say? Calvin, what did you say? Tell me!

    Calvin "Cal" Jarrett: You are beautiful. And you are unpredictable. But you're so cautious. You're determined, Beth; but you know something? You're not strong. And I don't know if you're really giving. Tell me something. Do you love me? You really love me?

    Beth Jarrett: I feel the way I've always felt about you.

    Calvin "Cal" Jarrett: We would have been alright, if there hadn't been any mess. But you can't handle mess. You need everything neat and easy. I don't know. Maybe you can't love anybody. It was so much Buck. When Buck died, it was as if you buried all your love with him, and I don't understand that, I just don't know, I don't... maybe it wasn't even Buck; maybe it was just you. Maybe, finally, it was the best of you that you buried. But, whatever it was... I don't know who you are. And I don't know what we've been playing at. So I was crying. Because I don't know if I love you anymore. And I don't know what I'm going to do without that.