If it is a tyrant you want to depose, first see if the throne he has erected in your hearts has been destroyed.
For if there is no despotism in their liberty, and no shame in their dignity, how can tyrants rule over free and dignified men?
If that is the anxiety you want to get rid of, it is not imposed on you, it is your choice.
If that is the fear you want to dispel, it is in your heart, not in the hands of the object of your fear.
- Gibran, "The Prophet"
1. Fear is rooted in his heart
Even though Bill has worked diligently in his studies to break away from his old upbringing, from the hometown he hates and hates, and from the fallen world of marijuana, fear still follows. Because fleeing from the objective world cannot change the subjective world, despite fleeing from his hometown, Bill still rejects other things that make him feel depraved and out of control, including beauty. He must arm his values with philosophy, discard emotions, and keep Be awake and keep everything in your life on track and in a controlled manner.
Fear is always just the object of fear in the beginning. Over time, the object of fear is internalized as a template in the heart. One day, even if the external object disappears, we will still be afraid because it already exists. In your heart, become a mirror of your heart.
Some people are afraid of domestic violence fathers. Even if they escape from their hometown and wander around, they still cannot escape their inner fears. One day, when he returned home, he found that his father who had been abusive had changed his past habits and became docile and gentle. When the father who has done him harm in the past disappears, does the fear disappear with it? Is it possible to interact with the opposite sex normally? Or will they continue the way of life they fled before?
Some people suffer from exam anxiety disorder, and they always go wrong every time they take the big exam. Could it be that the college entrance examination is canceled, and they will no longer be anxious when they encounter other exams in the future?
Some people are afraid of bondage, so they avoid marriage and sacrifice in order to achieve freedom. However, the freedom gained by giving up is not true freedom, because the inner fear remains. Just like the shadow cast by the sun in front of you with your back turned, there is not a moment that does not follow you closely. You look at the shadow in front of you, cover your eyes with your hands, and say: I can't see. Running fast with your feet, trying to get rid of its following, exhausting your life, this is the so-called pursuit of freedom.
two. The best way to stop fear is to experience the fear itself
. After the formation of fear, rational analysis and comfort are often so weak. Even when we find the source of our fear, sometimes we are still afraid. Because the best way to deal with fear is to experience the fear itself emotionally.
At the end of the credits, Bill and his girlfriend sit in the garden and talk about their past experiences of fear. "It's raining, and I want to keep sitting. When I was a kid, I always liked to hide in the closet when I was afraid of thunder. Later, when I grew up, I would go to the library to check how all kinds of clouds work during thunderstorms. Even so, I'm still afraid." At this point, I think he has let go of the fear in his heart. Face your fears! Go through all that fear, and savor the process of fear itself that scares you. Immersed in it, there are moments when we feel the inner city walls begin to burst, so we cry heartily, that is our wounded heart saying goodbye to the past, saying goodbye to all the objects and hurts that have been brought to us. This is the solution to the fear: the shaking of the mind, the tremor of every cell in the body.
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