alper is a man who exudes a sense of loneliness from heart to appearance. He is thin and strong, with short curly hair, bushy beard, deep eyes, high nose, never laughing, often in deep Smoking alone in the dark, listening to old vinyl records, cooking with heart and intuition, cooking is an art in itself.
The life philosophy formed according to one's own understanding of life lives in one's own world, and cannot become a part of other people's lives, nor can other people enter their own lives, including relatives.
To form or maintain a lonely survival posture, a necessary condition is to have a distinct self, and to have a strong force to adhere to this self.
Most people have a limited and certain amount of energy in their life. The more energy is used in this part of insisting on self, there is not much energy used for deep interaction and interaction between people.
If the balance between depth and breadth cannot be achieved, either it will develop towards breadth, so it is often associated with surface and superficiality; or it will move towards depth and form a linear single state, just like the lonely back of alper turning around.
We have no way of knowing why he grew up like this, maybe seeing him live like this, like a lonely part of the world.
He became a successful man in the capital city of Istanbul by running a restaurant.
Countless facts show that people who are loyal to themselves are also easy to do things to the extreme in a certain field, because at least they are supported by the ability to focus and inward thinking, and of course those who are inexplicable.
Therefore, when he wants to express his admiration for a female ada from the bottom of his heart, those ways and bridges that seem to require a lot of thought are nothing more than a natural ability for him.
People who are nuanced about themselves are easy to have a nuanced understanding of others if they want to.
The so-called considerate, if the meticulous care as the basis, it is simply impossible to achieve.
For alper this is just a matter of willingness or not.
If you look closely, there is a small scene in the movie where his sexual partner says when he leaves him, if you want to show your love for a woman, you shouldn't put money in that kind of place, but secretly put it in her wallet inside.
But it was the simplest thing that he didn't want to do.
As for ada, after seeing her first glance, he followed her, and quickly went to the bookstore to buy the book she wanted, leaving his number to catch up and chat with him, and he would buy yellow daisies from the child in the middle of the night to give away Then turn around and leave, will make carrot cinnamon cake to deliver, will deliver breakfast to bed, will go to the nostalgic concert hall to listen to.
However, he could not be sure that he who took the initiative to do these things was in true love.
In the past life course, his marriage failed, he used the Internet to find a sexual partner for one-night stands, SM, and occasionally let a sexual partner come to his home.
But like Thomas in "The Unbearable Lightness of Life," the women were not allowed to spend the night in their own quarters, and the bed sheets were changed when the women left.
Intercourse was an outlet for such a deep inner strength that he seemed unable to control himself to do so, but he couldn't find inner satisfaction from it.
Therefore, after he successfully traded on the Internet, he would choose a film for himself to play with a smile on his face, and after the sexual intercourse, he would light a cigarette with a lonely face and listen to a record that seemed to be the singer in front of him.
While loneliness brought him all kinds of enjoyment, it also brought another side, he could not maintain a sense of intimacy with others.
This time the relationship with ada is so different.
Because she is also a rare woman, she likes second-hand books to meet other people's stories in books, and does clothing design. She is with art, but she is not gloomy.
She is cheerful, charming, has her own views on life and love, and lives in the city with her own speciality and just as normal.
On their first night, she stayed at his residence for the night, and later he went to hers for a night of perfect union of spirit and flesh.
He takes her to his restaurant, introduces him to his staff, makes breakfast and dine together.
His mother came to Istanbul from afar, he introduced her to his mother, and the two women got along well. It's all so beautiful.
There are only a few nuanced descriptions of the turning point in the relationship in the film.
One night, he woke up in the middle of the night to see the woman sleeping beside him, then tiptoed away, running all the way to the house of his regular sexual partner, although he only stayed at the door for a while before turning back.
In the dead of night, such beautiful emotions could not completely eliminate his return to the state of his life, even though he did not even stick to such behavior.
Another embarrassment was at the dinner table, when the mother accidentally knocked over the red wine glass while describing it excitedly, and seemed very guilty. He said it was okay, and he couldn't control his emotions in a hurry.
In order to hide the embarrassment, Ada quickly changed the subject, and the mother continued to chatter.
It must be his beloved mother, but he can only be far away from her, unable to get along harmoniously.
Later, it was the time when he sent flowers, he took the flowers to express his apology and love.
I once had a client who was barely able to maintain a relationship, and the word she described most about her relationship in counseling was fatigue.
She said that she always starts a relationship with very strong and deep feelings, even if it is a very ordinary friendship, but it doesn't take long before she feels tired and then becomes very cold. Such a change will make the other party feel at a loss.
Alper must have the same experience. It's just that he's older and may have given up so many of these efforts.
When the passion from the heart burst out, encountering such twists and turns, it brought back the original ability to maintain an intimate relationship with myself.
At the time he said he broke up, he must never have imagined that his future life would be changed by this relationship that only lasted for more than a month.
Because he is not sure, this is love, and he actually has the ability to love. Although he is not able to love many, many people, at least for this one, he is certain.
In the past, there were too many physical relationships that could not be determined and could not give true affection. When he encountered the love that truly combines the soul and the flesh, he could not distinguish it, and he could not confirm it. This was the factor that finally determined his love tragedy.
Ada is also a negative and positive person about feelings, a bit similar to what we often call a "pessimistic optimist".
She looks sunny and cheerful, and she also has her own understanding of love. She has at least seen a lot of love. She understands the various excuses of people in love, and she has the ability to distinguish.
So for a love danger like alper, even though she knew the danger, she couldn't help falling in love. Although she couldn't help falling in love, she was also ready for a pessimistic breakup. Even if she reminded her like a Virgin, she couldn't help it. for their final union.
She only said "I love you" when he was a little drunk, so maybe when one day he couldn't love, the love he gave at that time would not be the handle for serious investment.
The movie ends like a poem. It is also an emotional journey that allows people to shuttle between themselves and the film.
There must be many people in this world like ada who, after experiencing true and complete love, get married and have children with peace of mind.
But deep down, another happy ending to the relationship with alper, another life, the ending that could have belonged to them, she said in her heart "it will always be with me, because that's my only support" , "It was you who lay in my arms when I closed my eyes...and no one else...but you wouldn't know...".
And the alper, who thought he would be free like a free bird after breaking up, didn't realize that he had lost ada and many others until the morning when the cup was broken, he picked up the hairpin that was beaten and dropped. s things.
No other woman's body has ever appeared on his narrow wire bed. Standing on the seaside, he sees a face similar to her, he always sees a face similar to yours...
ada fell that day That hairpin, she never knew where it was, now it's still in alper's pocket...
can't be together, this is where love makes us cry.
The reunion after a long absence is often just to give each other a chance to prove the love that was and continues to exist.
But it is also because of this kind of regret that the moment when love is still maintained in the beautiful appearance of love, the formal relationship has come to an end.
And deep in my heart, the beautiful appearance of love was always preserved at that moment, carrying this love through the rest of my life.
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