But when I grow up, I spend more time alone. They are all busy, and even I am busy. We spend less and less time together. After careful calculation, we found that the people we wanted to meet were impossible to meet, and we were very afraid that these former feelings would be slowly diluted, and in fact, it would definitely be the case. To be deprived little by little, this is God's punishment for mankind.
Mike Lee said of his film: "Another Year is our way of living our lives as we age, our way of conflicting with others." The price of growing up is slowness and serenity, because The fun is reserved for young people. Ken then regretted working when he should be playing after all his friends left one by one, and now living alone, everything is a mess: fat body, irregular life, alcohol paralysis, love lost. He said, "Who is going to accompany me on vacation now, it's all for young people!" At that time, he cried aggrievedly. The city is so big that there is no place to cry.
As for the neurotic Mary, she longs for love and a good man. She is deceived and abandoned. She loves to compare, and she also wants to be as dashing as the woman in "The Endless Flower". But she was too old, beautiful but with a lot of wrinkles pushed out of the corners of her eyes. It was a very cold winter in England. Mary, wearing a thin coat, stood pitifully at the door of her friend's house. She went in to drink tea and eat with them, but she couldn't get in. This family is not hers, this warmth is not hers, she is a frequent visitor, but she has to leave at night. This is also the end of the film, a deep sadness that can't be shaken away.
And the family relationship often breaks down. Ronnie's son Carl blames his mother's death on him, and he does not forgive such a father. The distressed woman who asked Gerri for counseling, she said I had a daughter who only came to the door when she wanted me. At the beginning of the film, Gerri and Tom clean up the orchard and look forward to the arrival of their son. So I remembered that Song Dandan talked about her son Batu in her book. She called him and left messages over and over again, but he did not respond. This is an emotion formed by the connection of blood ties. It is more reliable than friends and love, but there will also be no way out like the Tower of Babel, which is another human predicament.
You have to deal with the growth and departure of your children, you have to deal with the illness and decline of your loved ones, you have to deal with girlfriends and brothers who have families and their own emotional lives, and you have to deal with the betrayal of loved ones . And what you always have to face is loneliness. This loneliness has been with you from birth to death, and you can't get rid of it no matter how you get rid of it.
Babies in the "Lilliput" and "Kindergarten" documentaries, at the beginning of human beings in the early stage of ignorance, have to face the handling of individual and group relationships. They begin to understand what is like, what is love, what is missing, what is It is called a command, what is a rule. And Chenchen also has to wait for Nande alone. From summer to winter, he is only accompanied by a small elephant slide, and in autumn Beijing has the most large leaves that float down and can't finish. Until Nande leaves the kindergarten, he will never again. When I come back, I will never think of Chenchen again. You can't speculate on a child's heart, just like you can't speculate on the hearts of your relatives and friends. Hidden emotions are moss-growing corners in the dark, and no one can touch them.
There is a saying in "Another Year": "When you get older, everything makes more sense." Because you will know that all emotions are so precious and all love is so easy to lose , all the suffering and happiness will really be forgotten if you don't try to remember them. And all the things you feel right to have, if you don't hold on tight, will really leave.
What you have, please remember to cherish it.
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