Jules and Nicole's marriage has not experienced a crisis of rupture, just like this time, the emergence of the biological father of the children has slowly made their two marriages experience a not small one. The test, and the emotions and thoughts carried in it are undoubtedly subtle but arduous. At first glance, this seems to be a strange but difficult decision to go or not to go, to straighten or to continue to bend, but if you think about it carefully, maybe This is still an eternal topic about "can't get out of the siege".
In fact, from love to marriage, everyone knows to treat and maintain with different attitudes and actions, but even if you read too many books and magazines around you and think you have learned a lot, the knowledge in this may become reality once You will feel that it is still your own experience. It is a good summary. After all, it is not something that everyone can do and want to do to upgrade the second-hand experience to the first-hand, but in the end, the reason why we want to learn, What we want to do, what we want to achieve is to maintain our own marriage, the family we built ourselves. Jules and Nicole are no exception. The little fun they hide in the drawer, the hot water and the candles that are placed at the right temperature, and the intimate massage are actually their feelings for themselves. , for the loyalty and care of their own family, watching them tirelessly tell the story of their first encounter in front of Paul, the eyes looking at each other are full of such deep love and gratitude, although one side The eyes of the two children communicating with each other are so helpless and impatient, but it's good to smile. After all, how can someone who has never experienced it understand such a predestined relationship at first sight? What's more, the person you fall in love with at first sight is the same sex as you! And do you really have the courage and firmness that you need here? What's more, you are still anxious teenagers who are curious about love, marriage and even sex, but don't understand anything?
In fact, Jules and Nicole are also very anxious at this time. The marriage is so big for the children. It seems easy to keep going, but it is difficult. Sometimes when your lover becomes your relative , a lot of times you will no longer be so afraid, worried about hurting her feelings, will no longer talk like that and act like that, walk on thin ice, because you believe that she can understand you at any time, tolerate you, not to mention you You feel that your suggestions and ideas are for the good of the other party, so you are a little emotional when you speak, and you have some doubts and objections. Although you still speak softly and considerately, you will still use "honey, dear"These nicknames, but in fact your attitude has gradually become non-negotiable, just like Nicole, who plays the role of father and head of the family in this special family, she is strong, rational and determined. She always made a lot of choices for her relatives unknowingly, asking her daughter Joni to write a thank you card, going to show Paul the graduation speech, not being allowed to ride a motorcycle, etc. She did it for her daughter first. In fact, there is nothing malicious to say about these decisions, but when your attitude and tone become so non-negotiable, the nature of these decisions will change. In fact, Nicole is not trying to do anything and do everything. A control freak in her own hands, she just wants to protect her daughter, she wants to educate her to be a lovely, educated, polite girl, hurt less, and start her college life full of hope in good health. What is wrong in everyone's view? This is a normal act of wanting to be a parent and a family member, but at this time, she seems to be in a somewhat anxious and nervous mood at this time. She can no longer live under the same roof with her daughter. As a homosexual, all the way up to now, she has experienced the dirty and malicious side of the society before her daughter. She does not want her daughter to be Being poked by too many people with bad intentions is just because of her so-called "failure of tutoring, misbehavior, and bad character", not to mention the sudden appearance of the "father" corner. She felt that she would be afraid that her position in the child's heart would be threatened and replaced. Although she and Jules would both feel confident that whether the child has a father or not is not so important, it cannot be denied that it is the same The innate paternal bond of blood still cannot be easily severed. No matter how hard she tries to take on the role of a father, Nicole is still a woman after all, with the care from an orthodox father and from a person who plays an orthodox father. After all, there are subtle but profound differences in the care of a mother, and the contradiction in terms of identity and gender classification will finally make her feel confused and helpless at a certain moment, and before that, the two brothers and sisters she raised have become more and more confused and harmonious. confused.
In fact, Jules and Nicole hold each other's hands, and it is not easy to "have children" in a special way. In fact, at this point, everyone wants to go to the end together, but Marriage, the eternity in life is actually replaced in real life, it should be the meaning of "unchanged, a pool of stagnant water". After all, it is difficult to live a peaceful life without changes, surprises, and passions. , Even the gentle and casual person will sooner or later be unbearable and will yearn for change, and Jules doesn't really want much, she never wants to cheat or betray, she just wants to do a job New career, just want to do a job that she likes and can make money at the same time, and she has the firmest protection and support from her family behind her, but unfortunately, Nicole didn't think about it so much at the beginning, it can even be said She didn't take it that seriously, and looking at her questioning about the truck Jules bought at the beginning and her confusion about not being able to remember Jules' new career is probably the best proof of that, but it doesn't prove anything at all" The boring assertion that love is gone", there are actually various factors that have Nicole's prudent and rational personality, but it is this little bit of irony that finally drives Jules to a place where he must use cheating to temporarily A situation of decompression and liberation, and words like water droplets, stone wear, etc. are nothing more than this situation. The job prospects are not optimistic, the derailment, or the blood father of his own children, all this is really confusing, and at this time Jules wants to say: This kind of change is really bad. That's why she wanted to try her best to get her life back on track, try her best to cut off this strange affair, and try her best to start her own job. At this time, she, including us, realized that there was no change in the family's attention and participation. How unfounded and unstructured; not only her, but Nicole also noticed a lot of bad changes, and that pointless quarrel in the bar just about wine and organic farming even rose to "Is love still there?" "So she also wants to bring the family back to a normal atmosphere, although she doesn't know what has changed at this time, and it may be a good choice for her to go to Paul's house for dinner. There, facing the still-looking messy garden of Jules's design, Nicole gave Jules the most sincere admiration in her heart, and the surprise and joy that Jules showed was so sincere, that The hugs and kisses of 2 people look so amazing Touched and natural, it is a pity that the calm at this time is just a quiet pause when the family storm is coming! !
In fact, it can be said that Paul in this film is indeed a bit pitiful. Although I don't think his so-called love for Jules is true love, he really cares about his children and wants to integrate into this family, although he himself There are countless Yingyingyanyan around, but as he said, at this age, wanting to be stable and a home is normal and beautiful, but thinking about using sex to solve and get it at one time is a little bit. It's too ill-considered, after all, this special family has come to this point and has proved that the firmness of the relationship between members is beyond doubt, and the two who are the backbones don't need to think too much. Most people who can face homosexual love at the moment are still It is a complex and even malicious attitude to come to today, think about whether their connection can be easily broken? In fact, it's not that Paul is not good enough, that Paul's method is wrong, but the key to this is what Nicole wants to express: your own family needs to be created by yourself. If Paul wants a family, he needs Paul himself to approach the people he really loves with the same heart as Jules and Nicole. No matter how many contradictions and conflicts there are in the family, it is the family who has the right to speak in the end. the member of.
In fact, the female director Lisa Cholodenko who filmed this film is also a homosexual. In fact, I think the final ending undoubtedly contains some strong "xenophobic" plots that homosexuals should keep their families well, breaking the harmony of this family. The male "aggressor" was finally mercilessly said no by the whole family, and I thought the ending would be that everyone regained the harmonious atmosphere of consensus and happiness at the dinner table that night, and everyone redrawn the boundaries, Position each other's roles and set off again, but it is obviously not the case in the end, although in the end Leni still carries the hat that Paul gave her, but the whole family has returned to their standard at this time, and perhaps this is the only way It is the most practical and appropriate solution. After all, the uncertainty, complexity and potential mid-life crisis between men and women will eventually make every family of different nature in this world face many potential troubles and crises, while Ni But the Lala family with Jules is no exception. It is normal and even necessary to face the test, but it is obviously not necessary to carry out physical and spiritual tests on one's moral sense and self-control from time to time. , Everyone is an ordinary person who hopes to be ordinary and happy, so it is better not to break out and compare prices for such a shocking torture and revolution. After all, their family still has to send Leni to college and start her new life!
In fact, watching Jules confided her feelings at the end, I was inexplicably moved. Although I didn't have the personal experience like her, I think I can understand her feelings. Life is long, and the marriage you choose will be very difficult. Long as long as you want him to be very long, and since time is long, people become tired, and mistakes are inevitable. In this family turmoil, in my opinion, Jules and Nicole are both There are mistakes, but they are all excusable, after all, we sometimes forget that we still have each other, and sometimes we forget to listen to each other and see each other, but fortunately our love has never changed, we want to go back It's still the place where we met and wanted to be together forever, and in the process, it's even more gratifying that the children have grown up, they'll actually be fine, they're about sex, about friendship, The ignorance, anxiety, anxiety, and dissatisfaction about love finally calmed down and stabilized.
At the end of the film, Leni actually knew earlier than her father that with kissing and hugging, using so-called sex can't solve any problems, and without the sense of solidity from the bottom of my heart, doing anything will only make myself feel better. Vulnerable, more helpless, we want to grow up without our home, that's why Leni is so flustered when she thinks her family has really left her, yes, we just can't let go of the one we already know The hands that have been in our hands for many years, although it is no longer soft, the years we have walked with him/her have already determined that all we want is this person who will hold our own hands tightly, and in the end, what they want to say is still the same. Sentence:
"I love you, baby chicken!"
"I love you, baby horse!"
I love you, my family! ! !
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