1. Men are affectionate
; 2. Smart women can't think of the
former because it is too bad, and the latter is too sad. The reason for the second is often the illusion of the first. Even if the deep affection is real, the object is not you but someone else. There are so few lucky people, and the rest can only be imagined.
But not all tangled women are distressing. The "smart" I define here is not a high IQ, but within the scope of rationality, given input & output, can orderly structure the steps to achieve the goal step by step. Such people are decision makers, evaluators, and listeners most of the time. Like the heroine Julia Roberts.
But there is a kind of thing, for example, the person she loves loves others. It is easy for them to be uncharacteristic, and even make crazy behaviors. Originally, emotional matters don't make sense. You look at the happy endings of each output, and there are black boxes in front. No one knows how to write the algorithm in the middle. A smart woman who wins with reason has no advantage at this time.
So Julia Roberts saw her ex, best friend and soul mate who had been in love for nine years, waited nine years, and watched for nine years, and was about to marry someone else. It's too late. And she lost to a sophomore who loves racing and screaming and is half-brained.
What can be compared to our heroine and her man (formerly), who first met in the green years of the Ivy League school, tacitly matched, like-minded, professional one is a food columnist, a sports columnist. When we parted, we hung up every day, and when we met each other, we couldn't finish talking. We didn't even need to speak. We could understand each other's thoughts with just one expression. Is this a match made in heaven?
Logically, the bride should not be her but me, the heroine thought. But the reality is just the opposite, so she has to work hard to reverse this incorrect fact. Rationally, she designed two sets of plans based on logical thinking: First, he chose her because he thought she was good, then I designed a conspiracy to make her a bad person, or not. Second, if he doesn't choose me, he doesn't know that I love him. It's better if I confess.
It sounds very realistic, and for a long time before the movie, the heroine is confident in the consequences of her plan, at least she did not consider the possibility of failure. This is also the expectation of some audiences, so there are countless film and television works, when the bridegroom holds the bride's hand, the church door opens. . . Either someone ran away with a white gauze skirt, or someone ran away chasing someone else's plain skirt. . .
Unfortunately, the reality is not so dramatic, and the promise of marriage is not easily made. Neither of Julia Roberts' plans worked. Reasonable audiences are still looking for the reasons for her failure, one of which is that the bride-to-be mentioned in the elevator "He puts you on pedestal, I'm in his arm." It's not that you're not good enough, it's that you're too good, too independent Well, I don't need him anymore. There is also a piece of evidence. The two old lovers recalled the past with some sentimentality. The hero told Julia, "When we were together, I hugged you in public and you always pushed me away. But now the person I want to marry, no matter where , I can hold her for as long as I want."
Maybe, maybe men look up to idols and marry admirers. However, I feel that any reason and any reason are all excuses. Anything that is strong and independent and can't get married is stinky shit. He just doesn't love you, he just doesn't love you, he just doesn't love you, and it's useless to say anything. In the movie, the sophomore who is about to get married, or blinking big tearful eyes, saying "I just love him" half coquettishly and half sarcastically, I think it's ridiculous; The behavior of eating shit and then running away, I also feel very brainless. But she was fearless because she was loved. It doesn't make sense, that's the reality.
If you insist that Julia Roberts lost for a reason and justified, she can only blame herself. Who told you that you didn't confess for the past nine years, who told you to drag the so-called reserved self-esteem, and who asked you to dote on and be free. Her feelings, until the other party was about to get married, didn't suddenly realize that it was obviously not deep in love, and it was obviously vanity. What if he didn't marry a naive girl, what if he married a career woman who was more independent and capable than you? You have wasted nine years in vain and let the person you love find each other, then you are willing to admit defeat. What are you still confused about, what are you still unable to figure out?
If pushing away your lover's hug in public is the reason why he left you, then there should be someone who won't hug you in public, and you won't wait nine years before you say love to him. Even if not, so what? How can a person not live forever? Even if he broke up with you, he could endure it, but in the years after he left, why would he not be able to endure it?
There is an insight emperor in the movie who said a long time ago: "He will choose her, and you, will watch them married. That's what you came for." Maybe in the end, she learned to let go. But why do I still suffer. Perhaps this seemingly absurd struggle was also her destiny? Is it also the came for her life to move forward?
I don't want to watch this movie anymore.
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