This movie can read different things from many angles. But I pay more attention to the several different emotional forms shown in the film, the layers are scattered and colorful, and a careful comparison can produce a lot of flavors.
The two male protagonists, Jian Nanjun and his brother-in-law, each have a "previousness". But they dealt with it in very different ways. The reason is that, in addition to the differences in their personalities, there are also different cognitions and senses of responsibility between the two of them. Of course, the feelings are mutual, and naturally it is also related to the different postures of the two women.
Yun Yun said, "I can't be your wife, can't I even be a good friend?", while taking out a large stack of documents to explain the property of the two to Adi. She and her ex-boyfriend work in the same company (the two are probably already talking about marriage), and Xiaoyan was hired by her during an interview for a job, but she hooked up with her boyfriend. Adi, who enlarged Xiaoyan's belly, broke up with Yunyun in desperation and chose to marry Xiaoyan.
This is a capable and smart woman. One of the characters I admire most in this movie is her, who is not sloppy in dealing with feelings and does not give up on herself. And for many women, the two are literally at odds with each other. She is not like some women, she immediately quits when she loses on the emotional battlefield, and she has been away from her ex-boyfriend's sight and life since then. She is not, she is so like a duck to water, even if Adi is married to Xiaoyan and has a child, she has been hovering freely in Adi's life, and is still a very important role, although I can't say it is She deliberately achieved the state, and maybe even this kind of circling is a situation that she is helpless but can't get rid of. But she is at least a successful person in life, with her head held high and her attitude calm. Not only is she not a loser, she doesn't even have to play an avenger who has the upper hand. Her attitude is far superior to that of an avenger. She has always been the master of Ah Di's life. The younger brother is too strong (not a heavyweight at all...), and when Adi was kicked out by his wife at night, he could only go to her, and if he lost all his money, he could only ask her for help. For such a man, who can't do anything for her, only rely on her and come back to her naked like a dog, she finally understands that in front of such a man, she doesn't care about being hurt or failing, and of course she doesn't need revenge at all . "Hey, don't give me another chance to criticize your wife, okay?" "How can you live without me." "Look how lucky you are, I don't even want to throw away those old clothes of yours." Said that she was able to be serious, and that the knife edge of her feelings would not hurt her, and she was still doing her whole self.
So she can appear at the wedding with a gaffe and cry bitterly, and then appear at the full moon banquet of Adi and Xiaoyan's children with a smile on her face, and send blessings calmly and naturally in front of everyone (I believe she is sincere here. ), and a group of classmates gave the hostess and the hostess high-end red wine, and chatted happily with Xiaoyan's father. And this time it was Xiaoyan's turn to lose her temper. In the face of such a stance "rival in love", she had no resistance at all, and only frantically shouted and shouted to maintain her dignity. After the brief wedding scene, this child-like little woman quickly fell into the quarrel and tastelessness of the marriage. Speaking of this woman, I think Adi is only worthy of such a woman, he is less capable than himself, and will only make life messy (in other words, he is a heavyweight = =), they are like two Only low-level animals, get together, get pregnant with a child, simply rejoice at the cuteness of the child, seriously worry about the child's birthday, and simply panic because Yunyun suddenly appeared at the full moon banquet. They don't have a slightly longer-term vision of life, and they don't have a little deeper thought about all cause and effect. In this "triangle" relationship, who is the winner and who is the loser can't be judged according to any kind of superficial standard. The role of Yunyun has done a great job of both women and people. In my eyes, it is really a model worthy of all women to learn from.
Another female role model worth learning from in this film is Ari. She is also a good and sensible woman. The relationship between her and Jian Nanjun started at the age of fifteen, and it may last for their entire lives. Jian Nanjun has deep feelings for Ari, but this deepness has nothing to do with enthusiasm after the baptism of world events and time. Perhaps it is because of the baptism of world events and time that enthusiasm can become deep. They couldn't bond when they were teenagers, and they could only be lovers until middle age. When Jian Nanjun went to Tokyo on a business trip, the two were able to get along for a short time. Walking around the corners of Tokyo holding hands during the day, and a key each in the hotel at night. The words and expressions of the two people are very calm, and both of them understand that they are no longer in the stage of love, but Ari's heart has not really sunk in. She still has undying passion and regret for her lover and the past, so she It was only the illusion that holding hands after nearly 30 years was still hot at that time, so she knocked on her lover's door again in the night after saying goodbye and said excitedly, "Let's start again". But her lover gently refused with an almost inevitable attitude, so she could only choose to fly back to Chicago at night with a more decisive attitude than Jian Nanjun back then.
That is the city where her home is and where her life belongs.
When people are young, their emotions are the masters of their own world. When they reach middle age, when their lives are basically shaped, they understand that responsibility has become the center of life. This is especially true for men. Jian Nanjun's wrinkled face under the weight of life fully reflects this mood. He refers to his brief week in Tokyo with Ari as "passing through a period of youth", and he said that to his wife, who didn't show any anger or suspicion on her face, maybe not unaware What happened during her absence, she even knew that her husband did not really love her, and his feelings belonged only to the first love. The two men sat on the same bed and quietly and briefly exchanged their situation during this time.
This picture made me realize that the so-called marriage is just two tired people warming each other. Perhaps only such a marriage can be like putting old tea leaves, giving people a gentle and appropriate touch without ups and downs. As Wang Shuo said in the book, "It's very important who you spend time with in your youth. When I think of my youth, I realize that my whole life has been spent, and those who will come in this life and those who have an appointment with me have all come here. Now, the rest is to get through life and get it done as soon as possible."
The rest is just the responsibility for each other with someone accumulated over the years, this responsibility is like a turbid and hard stone, pressing down on having to let go at the beginning clear and soft emotions. Perhaps it is precisely because of Fu Li's past that she had parted, that clarity and softness were preserved like amber. Otherwise, after the fumigation of marriage, perhaps even this relationship would turn into a stubborn stone.
The middle-aged man said sullenly, "There's really no need for that, just live again."
The relationship of more than 30 years is still collected in the hearts of two old lovers. This relationship is a treasure that is hard to obtain in life, but it does not have to be related to responsibility and time.
I really appreciate a set of alternate shots in the movie, where Jian Nanjun and Ari, Tingting and Fatty are dating at the same time and in different cities. Crossed hands, walking through the stream of people.
Bowl. Even after so many years and accidents, when we meet again, the gesture of holding hands is still the same as before.
"It's just that the location is different, the time is different, and the age is different."
Is the relationship between Jian Nanjun and his wife good? We can't tell for sure. All the audience can see is his unspoken duty to his wife. Minmin, the character, cried because what she could say to her mother-in-law was terrifyingly monotonous every day, and her belief in Buddhism was only influenced by her colleagues, so going up the mountain to practice did not play a significant role for her, just like the one after she went down the mountain. With a disappointed face, he said, "Actually, there is really no difference. They take turns telling me the same thing every day, repeating it several times a day." I can see that this is a woman whose inner life is withered. The lack of feeling for life may be innate, or it may be pushed and ground by the trivialities of life. So, she may be a good housewife, but not a good woman for men. After Jian Nanjun already has such a charming confidante, he probably doesn't have any deep feelings for Minmin either.
Lily lives with her single mother, who matures much earlier than Tingting because her mother always brings different men home. She has also learned to deal with different men, which is probably the case for daughters of single mothers. Because the mother has unfinished regrets about her youth, it is difficult to give her daughter enough affection. And Tingting lives in a family with a relatively sound ethical relationship, her parents are very responsible, her uncle's life is not unruly, and her aunt Yunyun is a good elder, so this girl still maintains a state of ignorance about the complicated emotional entanglement. She doesn't know how to get along with the opposite sex, or how to behave like a woman. She didn't know how it happened between men and women, and how it ended. Therefore, her conversation with the fat man on the first date was not smooth. She was as straightforward as a primary school student. When she did not understand something, she would immediately express her disagreement with an exaggerated tone, instead of smiling and nodding perfunctorily. Of course it wasn't a pleasant date with her.
They are girls of the same age, but the relationship between them is very reluctant to say that they are friends. They can make nutritious food together, but when Lily tries to escape from her mother and the man she returns home, it's not Tingting that comes to mind. She said "wait a minute we're going to the movies", just an excuse to go to her boyfriend. Because she knows that Tingting is not a woman who is equal to her mentally, they cannot share the emotional experience. Tingting didn't realize this, Lily was only friendly and friendly to her on the surface, but she regarded this friendship as a relationship that could be shared, which made onlookers feel a little sad. She seriously accompanied her friends to the cinema, and seriously accompanied her to find her boyfriend, and also wanted to accompany her to wait for him in the coffee shop. Is she an empathetic girl? Yes, but no. She is a gentle and kind child who makes adults feel at ease. She will hope that Lily can get along well with her boyfriend, she will say to her boyfriend who Lily doesn't want to pay attention to, "I can't accept you quarreling like this, you can't do this, I'm very disappointed. You must be bad to her. Lily is like this. She's cute, and people are so nice." She would also say "it's okay, if you come to Lily, don't be like this because of me, we are still good friends." Her feelings and actions are like the product of being educated by a standardized emotional model. The mandarin ducks will never give up. Such a description only exists in the fairy tales told to preschool children, and her mind in this regard is still at the stage of ignorance.
And Lily is already facing her mother's communication with one man after another. Finally, she bumped into her mother and English teacher at home, which drove her crazy. The follow-up story was not told on the surface, only near the end, through Tingting's point of view, saw the news of Fatty killing the English teacher, the audience then linked the antecedents and consequences, Tingting seduced the English teacher at home, instead of Have sex as revenge against mother and teacher. She let the fat man know, intentionally or not, and ended up ruining the two men. When it comes to the role of Fatty, it is likely to be a teenager like Xiao Si that we met in "Guling Street Teenage Murder Case", who sees himself as his girlfriend's hero or savior, and wants to use his actions to change his girlfriend. No self-respect and unhappiness in life. This kind of mentality was regarded as selfish by Lily, so she didn't want to pay attention to him anymore.
These two young girls have experienced their own ups and downs and entanglements outside the adult world. I have seen many innocent girls like Tingting in my life. So the role of Tingting resonates with me a lot. I was impressed by the subtlety of the gap between the two girl characters, just as far as the emotional understanding is concerned, it is impossible to express in words. Such a young girl, how much time, space, and personnel needs to go through before realizing what she already understands and what she needs to understand.
By the end of the film, Tingting saw her mother-in-law wake up. Lying on the lap of the loved one, holding the white butterfly just folded by her mother-in-law in her hand. She murmured to herself, why is the world different from what we thought.
She didn't expect it to be a memorial flower her mother-in-law gave her before she left. After waking up at 5:30 in the afternoon, she woke up like a dream and realized that her mother-in-law had passed away three hours ago.
It can be said that this film does not have an absolute protagonist, but I think that in the story told, the person who has gained the most and has grown the most is Tingting.
The same sun-dappled grass is accompanied by weddings and funerals at the beginning and end, respectively. The breath of quiet spread. Everyone seems to have made a big circle and returned to the starting point. Time seemed to return to its original appearance, but everyone understood that it was just a trance-like illusion.
Yangyang was holding a stack of photos of the backs of people's heads. "Show you, because you can't see it yourself."
An inadvertent answer appeared, and he forgot what the question was.
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