One summer evening, I watched a very touching Turkish film "My Father, My Son" (Babam Ve Oglum) (2005). After watching the film, I couldn't calm down for a long time. The two father-son relationships deeply moved me, especially the gesture of the old man opening his arms in a hug at the end, which made me cry.
The story tells the story of a Turkish youth Sadik during the coup d'état. Due to his rebelliousness, he did not manage his own farm after graduation according to his father's wishes. Instead, he engaged in political activities in college, wrote reactionary articles, and became an anarchist journalist. Since then, the father and son have "feuded against each other" and have not returned home for 15 years. Until later, his beloved wife became pregnant, and just happened to encounter a military coup that day. Because he could not find a doctor, his wife gave birth to a child on the grass, but died of excessive blood loss. There was no smile on Sadik's face, holding his son. He said, "The son is born, the wife is dead..." After a while, he was also arrested for writing radical articles, and he was tortured in prison. His son Deniz was entrusted to the nurse. After he was released from prison, he hoped that his child would have a stable family, so he took Deniz back to his hometown...
It was not easy to reconcile with his father, but for his son Deniz, he still resolutely stepped on the homeland. The joy of the mother seeing her son coming home, the joy of the whole family getting together, the brother's family who are farmers, and the aunt who appeared on the stage on a donkey, this family is so happy, except for the old man, of course. The old man appeared on a horse. In the eyes of his grandson, he was like a knight. Unfortunately, when he saw his son, he still couldn't control his self-esteem and entered the house with a bad face.
Although the father was so ruthless and stubborn on the surface, he still showed a tender side when facing his grandson. The child asked curiously, "How can a horse have shoes?" The old man explained to the child patiently. When the horse made a "poof", Deniz was startled, and nervously grabbed the grandfather's hand. At this time, the old man must be in high spirits, and he can see the first clue from the cigarette butt that keeps shaking in his mouth. When asked about his grandson's love of reading, the old man thought about buying books for the child, but when the child left, he said "thank you, uncle" to him. , he obviously couldn't allow this title, and immediately corrected "I'm your grandpa. Don't call me uncle." "But you were angry when I called your grandpa last time." "I won't anymore. I'm your grandpa." "
"Give him a home, Dad, give him a home, let him come and go freely." Saying what he had always wanted to say to his father, Sadik fell ill. It turned out that he was carrying his physical condition. According to the manual, half of his lungs were damaged due to the torture he received in prison. But he still insisted on a real reconciliation between his son and his father, between himself and his father.
Stubborn and stubborn dad opened his arms and cried after his son's death: "If I stood here like this, if I opened my arms like this, if I stopped him like this, if I told him not to go , 15 years ago, if I had stood here like this, if I had stopped Sdlik. If I had held him like this, if I had stopped my son...then he would not have left." Father tore off his shirt , cried aloud, raised his arms, his eyes were dull, and his expression was indifferent. Brother Salim yelled and knocked down his own father. "Have you seen it? No one can stop you from leaving alone!" Finally, my father was relieved...
The last family watched the video records of his son's childhood that he had watched over and over again in his secret small base. The grandfather gave the camcorder to his grandson. The last time Sdlik appeared was in the footage of his son Deniz. inside.
"Dad, am I dreaming?"
"I don't know, even a dream is a beautiful dream, right?"
"Why aren't you Superman?"
"Because you grow up."
"Once you grow up, dreams can also Getting monotonous? Am I never going to see you again?"
"If you want to, you can see me. It's just that those dreams may not be as real as they are now. Then you'll know it's all in your head. But it's also possible that your dreams are better than they are now, and you can direct those dreams however you want. You can turn your dreams into reality."
"Is this what it's like to grow up?"
"Well, handsome man. Like that."
"I want to be a kid forever."
"Why?"
"Because I won't be able to see you when I grow up."
"You don't have a choice, you have to grow up." When Deniz said goodbye, he silently promised his father.
He will grow up and never cry again.
Because his dad can't fly, but he's a superhero.
Deniz let his superhero go
because there are new adventures waiting for him.
Through the barriers and conflicts between father and son in an ordinary family, let us experience the warmth of family, no matter how far from home, I believe , People who are wandering abroad, whether they have their own new home or not, the innate sense of belonging can only be truly experienced at home. The estrangement between children and parents is also easily eliminated, because no matter which one is, they are deeply in love with each other.
Every time I watch a movie like this, I always think of my father, and when I was a child, he took me to kindergarten by bicycle, and he would definitely buy me snacks on the way home. Every time he didn’t want my mother to pick me up, a big one. The reason is that she doesn't know how to ride a bicycle. When I was in elementary school, the classroom was still a bungalow, and a stove was needed in winter. My father always took me to school early on the morning when I was on duty to help me build a stove, and then quietly left to go to work. Once I broke a chair at the same table, and even frightened me that I did it and would pay for it. At noon, I went home crying. My father came to the classroom after get off work that afternoon. He brought tools such as nails and hammers to repair the chair. There are still many such memories, and they are not blurred with time, but will often appear in the memory, and they are very gratifying and warm to think about.
A few days ago, I learned that a dog I raised last year died of Lele, I burst into tears, and my mother's teasing words stinged me again, "When your father left, I never saw you cry like this... "I don't want to explain anything, Dad is gone, I have to be strong, I can't cry, I have to protect my mother, how can I be so vulnerable? No matter what, life has to go on, so cheer up! Lele will definitely go to a good family in his next life. Maybe he will not be a dog after reincarnation. He is so good and loyal. The old lady is right, I am too emotional, too sensitive and easy to get emotional, so I am not suitable for keeping pets. Suppressing this problem...Let me think about it, in "Martial Arts" (Chen Kexin, 2011), the detective Xu Baijiu played by Takeshi Kaneshiro stabs acupuncture points in his chest to suppress his excessive sympathy... But is emotion so easily suppressed?
Seems to be off topic. Suppressing emotions should be very hard, so let's let those natural emotions go away. I believe that family love is the most natural and innate emotion. It is an emotion that blood is thicker than water. It seems that the older you get, the more you can understand the depth and warmth of family love. Feel it.
Movies are another kind of life, maybe you can find the bright spots in it, maybe you see your own life, maybe you realize what you need to pursue... I believe a good movie will make people gain something, at least not Let you waste more than a hundred minutes of your time.
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