Neil, the hero of the film, grew up in a single-parent family. Psychoanalytic theory holds that a child, especially a boy, has a subconscious sexual desire that is hostile to the parent of the opposite sex and to the parent of the same sex. If not unraveled naturally, this complex can lead to neurosis and inability to have normal sexual relationships in adulthood.
Neil's mother played a part of the father's role in the process of the factory manager because of the lack of fatherly love in the process of growing up. Neil longed for an important adult male role in his life, so the coach came in to fill the psychological void. In the film, Neil shares a lot of quality time with the coach, and it can be seen that Neil deeply cherishes the relationship with the coach.
The sexual assault at the age of 8 is generally regarded as psychological trauma, but for Neil, it is not subjective. In a later conversation Neil had with his best friend, it was clear that he felt true love.
After the coach disappeared, Neil's actions since then were actually to find the lost "grown
man" role. So basically every time the object of sale is a middle-aged wretched uncle. Eric, wendy plays the role of a warm friend, Eric is doomed to tragedy...
As the search deepens, Neil shouted in despair after trying all the objects in the town, and then went to New York to continue his search. But it was crueler each time, and in the end, he was psychologically injured in the abuse and returned home to heal.
The coach's behavior didn't hurt Neil subjectively, but was in fact the source of his behavior for 20 years. Even this injury Neil himself did not find. People can have many desires in their subconscious, but this desire is in an inactive state and buried deep in consciousness. When these desires are activated and satisfied, it will be difficult for people to return to their original psychological steady state.
For Neil, having sex for the first time made him feel fulfilled and loved. But this kind of contentment and being loved is dangerous, and it sets a dangerous paradigm.
For Brian, the blond glasses man, it's another story. Some call it "traumatic amnesia" (theorists are still skeptical).
The trauma gave people fear, and it affected Brian's later attitude towards sex. Whether it was the nosebleed after touching the animal's sexual organs or the convulsive expression in the room with the UFO woman later, it all showed the fear and avoidance of sex deep in the subconscious.
The same event, because of individual differences, produced positive feedback for Neil and negative feedback for Brian. Positive feedback results in fascination and repetition, and negative feedback results in fear and avoidance. This is also why at the end of the film, the two children hug each other, hoping that the scene many years ago hadn't happened.
We are against child molestation, not only for moral reasons, though as moral nihilists we don't care. The root cause is that premature child sexual behavior will strongly subvert the original psychological homeostasis, and both positive and negative feedback will cause psychological problems.
Sex, on the one hand, is the ultimate pleasure, on the other hand, the guilt and trauma. There are not enough rational mechanisms for children to cope with all that it brings. Without the coaching behavior, Neil might have his first time with a peer who loves him, and can improve the quality of love in communication and communication. Unfortunately, the impulse is directed towards deformity.
However, what we pursue all our lives is not that one or two true love? In a single-parent family, poor, dim, and full of oppression growing up, if someone regards this bad boy nobody wants as a treasure and loves you in every detail (snacks, toys, photography, watching movies), will you do it? Moth to the fire?
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