Before I talk about some boring big truths, I want to tell a story first, a story about education. The children in my sister's family are very willful, they will cry if something goes wrong. When the adults are upset, they will put some snacks and toys to the children to calm down the noise. They didn't care, thinking that crying is the nature of children, and this method is also convenient and quick, so I could only keep my mouth shut and pretend to be deaf.
When it comes to the education of children, the hero in the film is a complete failure. Where is the failure? We say that education requires effort. I remember my poor physique when I was young, so my mother thought of a two-way solution. After school, my mother pushed a bicycle and brought me a schoolbag and walked home with me, which would not only allow me to exercise, but also not only As for sweating because the schoolbag on the back is too heavy, and then catch a cold. The so-called education, we often talk about teaching by words and deeds, in fact, many people only have words and no teaching, just like the hero in the film, who is full of "fuck, shit, blablabla", can such parents expect education not to swear children? Children are actually a blank piece of paper. We say subtle, subtle, this word seems to have calluses on our ears, but we have never heard it in our hearts. Dare to ask, where did children learn their swear words and bad habits. ? If the child is crying, we will use snacks and toys to fix it. This is not an education that takes a lot of effort. This is the least ingenious education. Because it is so simple, it will be easy for adults to do so. But maybe just like the old father in the movie said, there is no easy word in the adult world.
The male protagonist has a small career, but he doesn't seem to care about everything and always lives in his own world. He ignored his children, ignored his wife's words, and turned a deaf ear to his father's teachings. I thought that if I succeeded, everything would be on a smooth road. But the facts just prove that the so-called career success and family happiness are two different things. Not paying attention to everything will inevitably lead to misfortune in family life. The so-called marriage and family all need to be managed, which requires a considerable sense of responsibility and a lot of effort.
The indifference to his daughter and son has reached an outrageous situation, but the male protagonist himself is unaware of it, thinking that he is a good father like a father, but he does not know that life is not deliberate imitation, nor blind worship. The hero who lives in the worship of his father seems to have lost himself. He has never thought about how to treat his children. The most important thing for children is not companionship, but only entry-level. Dare to ask, how many parents in the world have been able to understand the child's heart from the child's point of view. Education is not a reprimand, and it is far from pleasing. Although these methods can show some love and care to some extent. However, coercion should not be a means of education. It's like the male protagonist took his daughter to shoot arrows, but he didn't realize earlier that her daughter was no longer interested in anything. She was just too depressed and needed a way to vent. If you don’t experience it carefully and notice it carefully, you may not realize until the child’s mind has gone wrong. At that time, it will be too late to reverse everything. However, maybe some people will complain: it's too tiring to do everything well. What I want to say is that since you have decided to become a parent, it must not be as simple as giving sperm and eggs. If you want simplicity, then don’t have children. To be an irresponsible parent is better than being an irresponsible parent. The bachelors are much worse.
Maybe we shouldn't give too much harshness to middle-aged men, but maybe there are many middle-aged men who don't understand what the real responsibility is. As a son and as a father, this sense of responsibility seems to be gradually fading away. It's like the male protagonist who is a father of two children, after his wife's repeated instructions, he still forgot what salad to buy. The reason is very simple. It turned out to be a hot beauty on the road, full of such things, and then naturally. Forget it. And then, lies, anger after being seen through. This is an image of a downright coward, when will it take a little responsibility? ! I think if you analyze the psychology of the male protagonist, he should have a deep sense of inferiority in his heart, so he does not allow other people's doubts and criticisms, unacceptable, just like his quarrel with his wife, like he The bad attitude of his new boyfriend has reached the level of disgust, look at his father, the old gentleman, look at him again, can't believe that this is a father and son.
All parents care about their children, no matter how old they are. A touching quote from an old father. The male protagonist in the film is a good son, because he always accompanies his sick father. When he heard that his father only had three months to live, he lost his soul and almost burst into tears. His deep affection for his father was beyond words. In a sense, he is a good son. However, he could never reassure his father. As a father himself, he failed to truly understand the relationship between father and son. His father also cares about the education of his children. Such a son is not a good son, a son who cannot reassure his father. He is not a good son. However, the contradiction is here. He is a good son and not a good son. It is too difficult to do everything well. However, there is no easy word in the world of adults. He is not prepared, I think Maybe a lot of people didn't do it well.
However, how lucky is the protagonist in the film. The daughter and son are very sensible. Although they have closed their hearts to their father, they have not hated their father. They just said a series of "good" after a series of greetings from the father. Suddenly, I felt sad, and there was a numb sense of optimism among these good people, which made people feel that such optimism should not belong to such children, they are just children. When the male protagonist asked his daughter if she knew what camel toe meant, her daughter's optimistic thoughts moved people. Although she might not really understand it, a sensible child was particularly sad because in such a moment, Makes people feel like a complete loser who has done nothing well. It's like when facing a dying patient, you can't speak, and you are on the verge of collapse, but the patient himself shows a bright smile, comforting you: it's okay, it's okay. There is nothing more touching, nothing more self-blaming.
The so-called mid-life crisis may not be clearly reflected in the film. Because of his thriving career, he became a successful person, and in an era of impetuous utilitarianism, he succeeded. But he is far from success. The so-called growth, maturity, is not to make people a person who does not care about anything, but should care more. All gains require sacrifice. We say that a person must first become a complete person, not just a producer or a consumer, and become a cog in an industrialized society. A person must first become a person and a person who lives with heart.
The distortion of educational methods has caused the loss of the qualities that some people should have. All of them, mixed with passion and ambition, are thrown into the torrent of vigorous realization of personal values and the "American Dream", and they have lost themselves, or Yes, I have never found myself, I just keep moving forward, moving forward. This movie is not just a midlife crisis, but a crisis of life, a crisis of life, a crisis of society. If we survive like this, one day, we will be replaced by cold machines, because we are actually machines that have lost our minds.
Sincerely say to all the children in the world, parents, and myself: grow up. A son who fails to be a good father is not a good son. There is no easy word in the adult world. No matter what you get, you need to sacrifice. Try to trust and listen to the innermost words of others, especially the innermost words of your loved ones. grow up, man.
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