The need for empathy

Ray 2022-03-23 09:02:52

Last year, I watched a movie, "The Girl in the Morning", which was adapted from a true story. After watching it, I kept sighing how happy my life should be. The same feeling was produced after watching "The Kite Runner". I recommended them to a friend, but he bluntly said he wouldn't watch them. In his view, this feeling is built on the pain of others, and will soon disappear, and has no practical effect, and he does not need to see this way to get the same feeling. To be honest, I don’t understand this kind of mentality. After all, we have never experienced many things, so we will never be able to understand the feelings of our own experience, even after reading the whole story.
The older I get, the more I realize I've wasted a lot of time over the years without learning a lot of real things. I often listen to reports about the Taliban but never figure out what's going on, and I've never heard of it. The "Khmer Rouge" thing didn't even know that the people of the neighboring countries were still in dire straits when I was growing up mediocrely. This kind of empathy came too quickly because I found that the more mature self I thought was still ignorant in the end, and the things that I usually paid attention to didn't seem to matter much. All kinds of studies since childhood, desperately squeezed into college, then work and finally get old, life is like a tape, slowly turning to the end according to the established track. Many times I feel that we are not much different from the North Korean people in some respects. We all live in a small and closed circle, with only the present and the limited future in our eyes (I don’t mean to laugh at North Korea here. It is also a great nation). For me, the link between history and the present is full of uncertainties and things to be studied. All I can see are sentences that have been edited and modified for a long time, just like the work of the Ministry of Truth, which processes history in "1984". There is too little to believe in this age, and too much to exaggerate. However, I have lost the ability to scrutinize, lost this basis, and what is worthy of belief is even weaker.

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  • Nick Callahan: Are you wearing perfume... in the fucking desert?

  • Sarah Jordan: Why do you never say my name?

    Nick Callahan: Sorry?

    Sarah Jordan: You never say my name. Why?

    Nick Callahan: pauses - What's the first thing you do when you get a cold?

    Sarah Jordan: What?

    Nick Callahan: What's the first thing you do when you get a cold?

    Sarah Jordan: Uh... chicken soup, aspirin, scotch...

    Nick Callahan: You never just have the cold?

    Sarah Jordan: I don't know what...

    Nick Callahan: interrupts - Taken nothing. Just have the cold?

    Sarah Jordan: No

    Nick Callahan: No, and that's us, right? We drown it. Kill it. Numb it, anything not to feel. You know, when I was a doctor in London, no one ever said 'medahani'. They don't thank you like they thank you here. Cos here they feel everything, straight from God. There's no drugs, no painkillers. It's the weirdest, purest thing - suffering. And when you've seen that kind of courage in a li... - pauses, tears well up -... in a child... How could you ever want to do anything but just hold him in your arms? You remember that boy in London, JoJo?

    Sarah Jordan: Yes of course

    Nick Callahan: He was my first save, 10 years old. So thin he could barely stand. But he still found the strength the bury the rest of his family. We have no idea what courage is... He used to write me little notes. He helped me in the clinic. He was good. He was sweet, he was good. He wanted to be like me, I liked that. I mean, it was silly and childish, but it made me feel good about myself. So I took him with me to London, you know, my talisman, my courageous Africa... - pauses - How could I be so bloody stupid? How could I be so totally selfish? The point is... he was my friend. He had a name. So now I HAVE to remember him. If everybody I lose has a name...