The cause of the little boy stems from being abandoned by his biological parents for no reason when he was a child. For an ignorant child, parents are everything to him, the shelter for him to survive, and the belonging and sustenance of his soul. However, his parents abandoned him, which is different from the trauma caused by the accidental death of his parents. There is at least one explanation for natural and man-made disasters. At least he knows that his parents love him and do not leave voluntarily. But abandoning him will make him panic and blame himself. Did I do something wrong to make my parents leave? Is it because I'm not cute enough to be loved enough to leave me? Such a blow is devastating for a child, it makes him question his own worth, and in severe cases, casts him in the shadow of abandonment for the rest of his life.
The little boy is like this, he always has a painful questioning deep in his heart. As a result, his personality became eccentric and untamable, and many adoptive parents sent him back because they couldn't stand his weirdness, which deepened his fear of being abandoned and made him feel more and more unworthy of his parents. His experience made him feel that no matter how sworn they were at the beginning, any parent left him, leaving him alone in an orphanage to endure loneliness and loneliness. This kind of pain is not something that a ten-year-old can face, so out of human self-protection mechanism, he tried to convince himself that I came from Mars and that I was different, so everyone could not accept me because I Unlike you, I have my mission, my parents and family on Mars who love me and accept me - all because of his desire to love, to belong. Since no one can provide it in reality, he himself provides it in his imagination. Over time, he couldn't tell which was fantasy and which was reality. And when David forced him to face reality, he showed strong resistance. Yes, he must resist, because once he shatters the illusions he has woven, he must face the cruel and naked reality, he must open his scars and let the blood flow freely, he has no ability to bandage this wound, unless Someone can help him -- that person is David.
David was extremely tolerant and patient with the little boy at the beginning. He tried hard to get along with the child, agreed with his statement that he came from Mars, and carefully gained his trust little by little. This is not easy, because he was abandoned before. Having experienced too much and too much pain, it is difficult for ordinary people to gain his trust. But David did it. Every bit of his efforts moved me. I couldn't help but praise Uncle Ku's acting skills. He showed the tolerant and profound father's love to the fullest. When will he truly become a father~~ Digress from the topic haha~
During this process, David was also almost lost by the little boy. He took the child to his sister's house for Christmas. He couldn't help but tell his sister, I'm too tired and I can't take it anymore, I'd rather I believe he really came from Mars, maybe he is really a child with superpowers, why can't science fiction be reality? David was like this because he had the same confusion when he was a child, and the little boy brought back memories of childhood pain in his heart. Sometimes in psychotherapy, the counselor will get lost because he empathizes too deeply with the patient, just like the story of He Dun's treatment of Dafang in the novel [Female Psychologist] (I wonder if you have read this book, it is very interesting. Wonderful, recommend it). Generally in this situation, the psychologist needs to be supervised by the same trick or supervised by a more senior expert to get out of the predicament. David's sister took the role, she woke David up, albeit in a way that upset David, "The thing I don't like about you is that you're always right even though I don't want to listen to you."
David finally Having gained the Martian child's trust, it was time for him to gradually recognize the reality. First, before the adoption assessment meeting, David tried to persuade the little boy to stop claiming that he was from Mars; the little boy's speech at the meeting was a classic, repeating David's words almost exactly, so that everyone Experts are impressive to speechless. Although he didn't realize it yet, he subconsciously began to doubt the fact that he was from Mars; David also took the child to the planetarium. When the child saw the real Mars scene model, he saw no signs of life. He was stunned when he was in the deserted world. "Maybe I'm from another Mars." When he said it, he panicked. This belief that had always supported him was in jeopardy and would soon fall apart, but he still insisted on holding on to his last position. .
Finally, the little boy stood on the top of the astronomical tower, looking forward to the arrival of the flying saucer that would take him back. "That is the helicopter that came to save you, not the flying saucer," David said. At this time, the little boy was completely pushed to the reality he was most unwilling to face, and his defense mechanism finally completely collapsed. He cried and asked David on the top of the Astronomy Tower, "Why? Why did they abandon me?" This is The pain he had been trying to escape, the doubts he didn’t dare to touch, had been lurking deep in his heart, seeing this scene, David almost burst into tears, and I couldn’t control the tears, “That’s because They're too stupid, they don't know how precious you are, how worthy of love. You have to believe in me, I love you, you belong to me, and I will never, never, never, never, never leave you" (to the effect, specifically Can't remember the words). David's long-term love and tolerance allowed the little boy to finally find the sense of belonging that he had been missing for a long time, so that he finally had the strength to face the reality that he was once abandoned, and finally let go of the beautiful lie that came from Mars. . In the end, they hugged and cried at the top of the astronomical tower. These two children, who were both lost in childhood, found the fulcrum of their lives between love and being loved.
"Never, never, never, never, never give up." These are Churchill's words to encourage the public during World War II, and David's words to encourage little boys. I believe it is also what the director said to parents with children in the world. All children are actually From Mars, they are sensitive and fragile and need careful care and slowly adapt to life on Earth. No matter what happens, don't give up on your children, any serious injury will have an immeasurable negative impact on their lives. I can't imagine what the little boy would be like if he didn't meet David. In a way, he was unfortunate and lucky.
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